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Three's a crowd
15/f
Ok well i have two best friends. Let's call them Anna and Austin. Well, I've liked Austin for the longest time and he likes me. Like we reeeeally like each other. The only problem is that our best friend Anna, who I've been best friends with for 10 years, likes Austin too. And me & Austin really act like we're dating. We just don't kiss in front of Anna. And she's telling us that if we want to be together, then we should because she'll get over it. But I can tell that she's lying. And I really want to go out with him and actually have the promise of a relationship, but i don't want to hurt Anna. And some of my other friends that I've talked to about this situation, keep telling us to go out for goodness sake because they've known for months that something was going to happen. And know its finally so ridiculously close, and the biggest road block is in the way. I just want to know what to do because I can't wait until Anna gets over him to go out with him, because that could take months. Help?!?!
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Go out with him. You and Austin are already acting like you two are dating, so it would feel the same to Anna-- just official.
I don't think Anna would be hurt by it. She already said she wouldn't mind.
I've been in Anna's position, so I think she really does mean it. My best friend and I liked the same guy; the guy flirted with her more and generally liked her better... so I told my friend that I didn't like him (I did). She knew I was lying, but I told her that he obviously wouldn't like me anyways so I wouldn't care if they went out.
So just go for it.
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If I were in your situation, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings either. I think the best thing to do would talk to Anna about it, and tell her to be absolutely and completely honest. Nothing's ever going to be figured out unless she tells you how she really feels. Maybe the best thing would be for you and Austin to actually start dating, so Anna can get over him. If Anna's giving you permission to date him, she can't really get mad. Also, I'm sure if you really don't want to date Austin because of the chance of hurting Anna, you could wait until you're sur she's over him. I'm sure if Austin really cares about you, he'll understand. Hope that helps :)
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Go out with him. Your friend already told you that she would get over him. The most likely thing is that you could grow a little farther apart but since you and this guy already hang out with her it could strengthen your relationships. There are times when to think about others but do this for yourself and you'll feel much better.
Hope I could help o^-^o
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