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Last night, my boyfriend and I went to his cousin's house. His cousin was there with this girl [she was wearing a skirt]. My boyfriend & I were sitting on a different couch than his cousin & the girl. Well from where we were sitting you could basically see up her skirt if you looked real hard. I look over at my boyfriend and he's like staring right up her skirt. It really pissed me off what do you think the proper way is to deal with this? Of course he denies it but I know he was.
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hey, my name is Em231 and I think I can help
you If he looked up her skirt that was afull what hedid so this is what you say to him.
first say his name , thensay Iknow you was looking up your cousin' s girls skirt you need to be honest to me .
Then if he says he was tell him you better not do it again than smile and give him a kiss and a hug.
If that works then he can tell you every thing because you didn't get mad at him.
I hope I helped .
Em231
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you should tell him that was rude.You saw him and he doesn't have to lie. I also say guys do that kind of stuff. Its just how they are, because you know if you saw a boy wit a hot body you would look,but I just say you just talk about with him,and if you catch him doing it again just call him out and tell him
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I am sorry you are choosing to make this small incident matter. If there were other problems, perhaps I would choose to be agressive about this, however I disgree with you: This alone does not matter in the least.
If it were MY boyfriend, I would not be irratated. I would believe him when he says he was not staring, because I choose to date people who I can trust. If he were staring, I'd think it was funny, and feel a bit sorry for the girl. I would not be irratated with him.
Forgiveness for small slights, apperciation of human foibles and limitations and the ability to accept those limitations with good humor are all traits of mature and secure person.
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If they have eyes, they will look.
Unless you are willing to pluck out his eyes, take a deep breath and accept that it is *possible* that you were mistaken.
If you care about a guy, and think he is a decent person, give him the benifit of the doubt.
The proper way to have delt with this would have been to politely take the girl aside and tell her she should really cross her legs or something, because the guys could see everything.
Leave you poor boy alone. Maybe he did stare a bit, maybe he really didn't. Either way, what harm does it do?
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Guys are guys. Obviously it would upset anyone if their boyfriend looked up another girl's skirt, but you should try not to worry about it too much. She should probably realize she needs to cross her legs or keep them closed. Confront him about it no matter what. Flat out ask him if he looked up her skirt & explain how you want him to be honest. He should open up to you about it & not lie. If he's honest & says "yes sorry I did" then you have nothing to worry about & explain how it bothered you he did that & ask how he would feel if he was checking out another guy. If he keeps denying it, explain that you saw him do it & you don't know why he has to lie about looking up her skirt. He should just be honest. Honesty is very important in a relationship. If you confront him & explain your feelings, there won't be any problems later on with this situation.
-hope that helped!♥
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I don't think it's really a big deal. Guys do stuff like that all the time, but it's not like it means anything. But if it's really bothering you, just tell him it made you uncomfortable, and you'd appreciate if he wouldn't look at other girls.
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