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Heyy guys. Let me know if I can help you out with anything. I might not always tell you what you wanna hear - but just trust me eh?advice
how can I do to love a little less??
Create yourself an identity without him. Spend more time with your friends or by yourself doing something you enjoy. The key is to be independent so that your life doesn't revolve around him, that way when things go wrong it doesn't hurt so much - and ironically it makes it less likely to go wrong because he'll actually start to chase you a little.
Wait for him to call you. Call and text him less. Don't ask to see him all the time. You'll end up having a little bit of space for like, a week, but then he'll end up calling and texting you more.
It's really easy to lose your identity in a relationship but trust me, find a bit of dependence from him and you'll like yourself so much more, and so will he.
Okay, let me start off by saying that I go to a fairly small highschool so we have VERY defined social standings. And the popular group is spread out through the grades. So it's made up of freshmen, sophomores, juniors and seniors. You go to junior high wth the same people you go to high school with. Well in seventh and eighth grade I hated my life haha. I was unpopular. Not like really really nerdy but just in the "unpopular group" the average sues. The popular girls were alwasy very nice to me and it made my friends mad. My friends kind of sucked... they were always trying to find people to use or step on to claw their way to the top. But I just kind of dealed with it because I had known these girls forever... Well freshman year started and I was still average, until I caught the eye of Tyler. Tyler was probably THE most popular guy in school. Star quarter back, super cute, valedictorian, everyone liked him. I don't want to be like stuck up or anything but I knwo I'm a good looking girl, haha I mean I'm not ugly. Well we started dating in September. We dated aaall year. He's one of those guys you always dream of but never really think exist. Once I started dating him, my world changed. He was in the popular group so I started hanging out with the popular girls. They had always been nice and honestlly, I like them sooo much more than my old friends. They supported me all year and were awesome, and are still my friends even though Tyler and I broke up. I think its safe to say that Tyler and I were in love. We dated for almost a year, neither of us ever cheated, and he took my virginity at ten months. But we're young and we knew that once he went to college, a long distance relationship would be too hard and we didn't want to go through that pain. We broke up just a week ago... We're still friends, it wasn't messy at all but it still hurts ya know? Well I'm getting through it. And I still have my friends. The popular ones. I love them too haha. But see it's only been a week and already every guy has been trying to like... I don't know get with me? haha. I know none of them like me. They just wanna say they got what Tyler had. It's hard!! I don't know what to do... I don't want to start dating right away, that's not fair to Tyler and that's not fair to the new guy because I know I still have feelings for Tyler. It's also not fair to me because I know they don't like me for me... ya know what I'm saying?? I jsut don't know what to do... And my old friends think that now that Tyler and I are broken up that I'm suddenly just going to be friends with them again... But they were never friends to me. They never supported or cared about me... I'm just so confused right now. My real friends say I should just ignore all these new guys but its SOOO hard because I'm hurt right now, and lonely... I just wanna know if any of you hgave some other opinions on what I should do... I'm sixteen, gonna be sophomore.
Break ups are hard. Especially when you've been in love with that person. What you and Tyler had was special. You don't really wanna cheapen that by getting with some guy who doesn't even like you for you, do you? You said it yourself, you go to a small school. Everyone will find out. It's not worth the hassle just because you're lonely.
Let yourself breathe. Take some time, hang out with your friends (the "popular ones") and have some fun. You'll get over Tyler, and then you'll be in a better position to date.
It's not fair to anyone if you pursue any of the guys you've mentioned, and I think you know that. As for you're friends, stick with the one's that support you.
Although, just to be devil's advocate - you're old friends might just see that you're hurting and want to support you after you're break up. You'd know better than I, but surely if that was the case you could be friendly with everyone?
Good luck x
okay so i started a new job about a month ago..and i started talking to this guy who works there who i thought was kinda cute like the 3rd day this lady who works there said he thought i was cute and i said i thought he was too and the next day he said what did she say to you about me and i said well she said you thought i was pretty cute and then later that day he asked for my number...then like 2 weeks later last week he asked me if i ever wanted to go out sometime and i said sure and he said alright ill let you know the details later and now its been almost a week and a half since he asked that and he still hasnt asked me out....but at work we always work together and he helps me with stuff and talks to me and does that both look at each other look away thing if they like you and he smiles and laughs at everything i do so im guessing he likes me lol but i just dont understand whats taking him so long. Im really into astrology and well im a saggittarius and hes a cancer and i read that their shy guys,you usually have to make the first move and that their hard to read...soo im just really confused what is he waiting for?
thanks!
He likes you, and you know it. What are you waiting for exactly? Tell him about a new film you wanna see, and if he shows an interest in it, suggest you go together. I don't know how old you are but even something as simple as asking if he wants to go for a drink after work could get the ball rolling.
You just need to get things happening outside of work.
Do you have his number? Ask for it.
He'll realise he's an idiot for not texting you. Texting is great for making plans you know... lol.
You'll do fine ;)
im 15 and i like this guy alot he asked me to be his girlfrien and i said yes but my mom wont allow me to have a boyfriend how can i get her to trust me on this and approve?
Talk to your mom about her concerns. Why doesn't she want you to have a boyfriend? Listen to what she says carefully and respectfully. Show her how grown up you are. Prove to her how responsible you are in other areas of your life. For example, be home before curfew and do all your homework. Explain that this is something you really want and are ready for. Invite him over to meet your mom so she knows who this person is.
And finally accept your moms limitations. If she decided he can come over but you aren't allowed in your bedroom for example, accept and respect it.
She's only looking out for you. Make sure she knows you know that. And just be mature about it. Listen to her and she'll listen to you.
But if she still says no, don't stomp around the house in a mood. Say that you're hurt and disappointed but you respect her decision. Then leave it for a couple days. If she doesn't change her mind with that - tell her you've listened to her concerns but you really want this, so you're going to go for it. And you hope she'll understand.
Best of luck xxx
so about two weeks ago, i went to my friend sarah's house with another friend, rachel. sarah told me that her younger brother who is a freshman, adam, was going to be there and so was his friend, chris, who was also a freshman. im a sophmore, by the way. so it ended up that me, rachel, sarah, chris, and adam, all basically hung out the whole night and slept in the basement togethor and watched movies and stuff. me and chris basically flirted the entire time but at times i felt like he didnt like me, but i couldnt figure it out. so the next week i sort of liked him but i kind of let it go because i knew nothing would ever happen because he didnt like me. but then, exactly a week later, my friend sarah told me that chris really likes me and he said all of these things about me like, he thinks im really hot and that i have a good body and told my friend sarah that he really likes me. so when i found this out i was so happy because he finally really liked me and that made my day. like i was so so happy. and that day, he facebook imed me and asked for my number and it was fine. then that night he imed me again and we talked and he was flirting with me and it was good. by the way, i never got a text from him after he asked for my number that day. it was weird. but anyways, the next day, which was on monday, i was so excited to talk to him so i text him but he never answers. it said that he got the text. so i went on facebook and i waited for him to IM me, but he never did..he was on for at least 20 minutes while i was, and i never got an IM from him. so i IMed him and we talked, but, i dont really think i like what we talked about.. he asked me how far ive gone, and wanted me to give details and then he called me a bad girl..which im not. i tried to make conversation about casual things but once i did that he immediatly changed the subject and tried bringing up the subject of what i had told sarah about him. then he asked, you like me? and i said yeahh. and he said, its cool i dont know ill have to think about it though. so then i was like what do you mean? and hes like i dont know like going out or something and im like oh okay and hes like yeah i dont know tho its complicated and im like what..im confused, sarah told me you said things about me..and hes like, yeah that i like you and i do but its complicated right now i gotta go text me if you want so i text him and ask what he means and he says that hes too committed to basketball and acedemics right now. then i say ohh..well i dont get it like..and hes like basketball is everyday to 730 except sundays, but your really hot and i wanna have good times with you, but i dont know right now. and then im like is this because you like other girls from your school, because thats what sarah said.. and hes like no not at all ugh this is so bad by me its just complicated right now, but your really hot, not in a perverted way, your really hot. he kept calling me hot like at least 10 times, he mentioned me being hot. and then, i say, well i think you know what you want..and hes like, what? and im like ..like its your desicion, you know what you want. and then he says, i dont know i want u and ur body haha but its complicated right now. and then i said, what so you dont care about me, just my body? and then he said, woah woah woah no not at all, dont take it that way, but im telling you this right now im too committed to basketball right now and i dont think having a girlfriend is that good for me. and then i said, oh..are we still gonna talk. and he said, yeah sure i have no problem with that but i gotta go talk to you later peace. and then i said okay talk to you later. and the next day, i facebook IM him, but it said it didnt send it..so then i try again, but it says the same thing..then i see that it says ive written hey three times. and he writes hey after the third time, so i say oh im sorry for writing that three times. my computer said it didnt send, its doing that for some reason. and all he said was, k. then i say yeah . and he never answered.. so then i sign off because he definitly doesnt want to talk to me. im so confused, he told me he likes me and thinks im really hot then why is he ignoring me now and made it out like he broke up with me when really, we didnt even go out? no one else knows either i dont understand, what did i do..
Oh my.
He shouldn't be going on about your body like that... but it's probably his way of saying that he likes you but not wanting to talk about his feelings. You are probably the best judge of whether he likes you just for your body or not... but if he does like you just for that, stay clear - it can only end badly, seeing as you really like him.
He seems to need space. Stop making an effort. When he's on face book just ignore him. If he wants to speak to you he will. - make him come to you. He should soon realise he misses you and is being a complete idiot.
I think you should probably explain that you like him, and that he might have other commitments like basketball and school but your not gonna wait forever for him to make up his mind. Tell him that youre not gonna wait around for him. Otherwise, he's just gonna string you along and youre gonna get hurt in the process.
dont talk to him for a few days, then explain youre not going to wait. then just sit back and wait for him to start the running. dont get upset if he doesnt express an interest right away though, it might take a week or two.
- if he moves on instead, you should do the same.
He sounds a bit weird to me anyway lol
Good luck
xx
llets start off as me and my best friend arent getting akong to well. she has a crush on this guy that likes me and hes cute so he asked if i wanted to hook up i said sure but my best friend cant find out and i dont wanna date you or any thing i just feel like hooking up oh and im 14 and hes 15 so my best frined hasnt a clue should i tell her before or after me and her crush hook up . oh and shes hooked up with my crushes all the time. but i feel guilty about doing what he wants to do and he also dated one of my othr best friends who doesnt like my best friend who likes him.so what should i do this is all going to happen halloween night and do note i might be drunk.
Tell her. Say that you know she likes him which is WHY you are telling her. ASK her. Say that if she really has a problem with it then you wont do it. But that you really like him as well and that you hope she would want you to be happy.
One of you might as well have him!
Go out Halloween Night and enjoy yourself
Good Luck x
im 17, theres this guy i realy like ive known him for nearly a year from school, i was out with my mate and i got chatting and that got his number and i didnt like him at the start but we i thought about it then i realy did like him, i was too clingy texting him 24/7 as i didnt want any1 else to have him i told him how i felt and i asked him out i tottaly embairssed myself because he said no i just thought he liked me too because of the nices texts i was getting back and he always reapyed, stuff got around we didnt speak for ages my best m8 said to me she wanted him so i thought well she will get with her but later on he told me he wouldnt and we sorted it , but ive never got him out of my head i cant get with any1, when im not with him i realy want him but when im with him i dont? but i do if that makes sense?, days went by still texting everyday and i met him and we went out with some mates, for the first time we chatted and spoked about everyting and got on it was amazing never thought it with him after everythig loved it, but then i went off to meet this lad my mates said that hes said how can i be with her if she going to go of and he kept following and hidding to see were i was goin, he said he done care if i want him, but now he want to no my business what im doing who im with etc i said ive found a lad but he says cant you wait for someone to come along? and say he nos this lad and that he will mess you about, after that night we fall out because i belived other people over him but next day sorted it . he nos i realy like him, i just dont no why he texts me bk al the time or cant he just tell me to leave him alone because i think he will hurt me? i am hurt because i want him and i cant move on, but hes always going to be a guy i will always like and he nos is, hes clingly on me now even if i dont text back he keep texting me like i did.
i just dont no were i am with him? but i dont wanna ask again.
I understand what you're saying. My advice is to meet up with him and just say straight out - "I do still like you and I wanna be with you, and it's confusing when you act jealous about me and _____ because you said you werent interested" - or something like that.
It'll be really hard and you'll probably be scared of getting hurt again - but just think about how much you're hurting now. You can't go on like that.
If he says that he doesnt want to be with you then dont get upset. It'll kill you, yeah, but then you can explain to him that you just needed to know so you can move on.
If he says that he does want to be with you then thats great - obviously, but make sure the score is settled with the guy.
Hope it works out
I'm a freshman and I broke up with my boyfriend, now I realize that that was a very stupid move because I still like him. We are friends right now but I want to be more then friends. Another problem that I'm facing is that my mom doesn't want me to date anyone at all anymore. What should I do? Any advice would be helpfull.
Do you know why you're mom doesn't want you to date? It could be that she doesn't want to see you get hurt, or that she wants you to concentrate on your studies. If you reassure her that you aren't at risk of falling behind and that you know what you want out of a relationship and feel the benefits outweigh the risks, then she might come round.
As for you're ex, just tell him how you feel. Worst case scenario is that he doesn't feel the same way, but then at least you know. If I were you, I would be prepared to answer questions about why you broke up with him in the first place though, because chances are he'll ask. You might want to ask some of those questions yourself though. -- Are you sure you didn't break up for a reason? It might be that you just miss him, or dont want to see him with someone else. But that's just a part of the healing process.
Just make sure it's what you really want before you tell him.
hey ;;
ima 13 // f
and im in love with this guy .
he nos that i like him
but he doesnt no how strongly i feel
and he doesnt even care that i do
he makes it rilly awkward but we used to be friend before i told him
and recently i told him that i didnt like him, and now its even more awkward and we rarely talk .
hes been ruining my life and i fell so hard for him .
ive been cutting my wrists and my friends have been very supportive .
but i just dont kno waht to do .
because i love him, but i dont want to scare him off or anything, so please help ?
sorry if its long i didnt mean for it i just tried to explain as well as i could
please leave advice :]
you sound like me when i was your age.
I'm not going to tell you that your feelings arent valid because they are. But unfortuantely i am going to tell you what you dont want to hear. Get over it.
No guy is EVER worth hurting yourself over. And dont cry over a guy that wont cry over you. If he makes you happy, maybe you could be friends or even tell him that you like him (a normal fancying amount). But to me, it seems like he makes you sad. One day you'll look back and thank yourself you realised in time that he's immature, and you are worth more. And you are. Your friends have been amazing, its time like this when you realise who your true friends are. Concerntrate on them.
As i said before, you remind me of me when i was your age. Im going to try not to bore you with the details but i fell in love with a guy at 13. I felt awful all the time and i cut my self. I tried to commit suicide but that plan failed. My friends were really supportive. I liked him for 2 and a half years, we went out for a few months at some point but i didnt get over him. My point is, i have to leave all my friends really soon because im leaving for college, and im going to miss them so much more than that guy. Any guy. You'll meet someone else, someone is worthy of you. Till then, best of luck xxxx
I am jealous when my boyfriend goes to hang out with females I can tolerate but dont like. I dont know why or how to tell him that I am jealous without him getting angry with me. I need some advice quick because he will be over to my house in a few minutes and then he is leaving to go hang out with his "friends", who are initally girls. ;x
Maybe you could try to become friends with these girls? I know you wont want to, but if you do, you could maybe hang out with them. Even if its only for a few times until you realise you have nothing to worry about. Also, if your mates, they will have more of an obligation not to take him away from you in anyway. Maybe in a chat with one of them you could politely explain your concerns - making it seem more like a compliment?
You could tell your boyfriend that it bothers you. Just say something like, "Look, i dont mean to sound insecure or anything and i totally trust you, but i dont like it when you hang out with them". Maybe if you explain a few reasons why that you think he'll see as valid.
I'm sorry i couldnt be of more help. If you like i could yell at him for you? lol. best of luck xxxx
my crush[kyle] is supose to talk to my dad about me and him dating but kyle basically told me that its up to me because i have to write kyle a letter telling him why he can still trust me and what i would want out of our relationship, but i think thats just a waste of my time. because kyle can trust me and i havent thought about what i want out of our relationship because i've been really stressed lately because of all of this and i just cant handle it anymore. im starting to be physically sick.
If you want to be with Kyle, then writing him that letter is not a waste of your time. He obviously feels insecure about you leaving him or something. If you dont want to write him a letter, maybe you could prove he can trust you another way?
Another thing you might want to ask is, can he trust you? Lie down somewhere quiet and think. Ask yourself how much you like him, whether he is worth proving this thing to him, and if you need to, what you want from the relationship. It seems as though kyle needs to know what he means to you, and maybe after you have that clearly in your own head you could put in clearly in his?
Best of luck xxxx
i dont know if im ready to lost it. but i just wanted to know when do you bleed and how badly does it hurt? like do you bleed after, or while its going on? someone please tell me!!!
Everyone is different. Some girls bleed, other's don't. It also varies about how much it hurts.
I noticed you didn't put your age; not that it matters. As long as you think you are ready you probably are. I don't mean to sound blunt, but if you're not sure you probably aren't ready. But don't let that put you off. If you have a guy in mind, talk to him. If you can't talk to him about him he might not be the right guy. Sorry i couldn't help you further. Best of luck xxxx
14 about to be 15/F (Grade 9)
Okay, so i'm going out with one of my ex's, and I don't know if it was just a spur of the moment type of thing, but I hung out with him Friday night, it's now Sunday morning. And I don't really have the same feelings for him.
Now my other ex, the one that i'm compleatly in love with, we never stopped loving eachother.
I really want to be with him, and I know he wants to be with me.
But my BF now, before we started going out, said that I better not dump him 4 another guy.
Anyways, I have kind of a bad rep right now at school.
People think i'm a hoe just because i've been out with a lot of guys, BUT I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING except making out.
I just want to break up with my bf now,and get my ex back.
HOW DO I DO IT????
Please hurry .
And thanks in advance =)
Break up with your ex. I mean, come on, you dont want to be with him. tell him that. im sure that you wouldnt want to be with him if you didnt have feelings for anyone else. so dont tell him about you being in love with some one else. just say that there is a reason you guys broke up a while a go, and you think you made the right decision back then. Wait for everything to cool down a bit before running to your other ex. best of luck xxxx
Last night I had a horrible dream. In my dream, my boyfriend left me for my best friend. We got into a little argument, he broke up with me and started dating her. I was heartbroken. I couldn't sleep after I woke up. It is really bothering me. I like this guy so much and I don't want him leaving me for someone else especially my best friend. What could this dream mean if it means anything?
Its perfectly natural to dream about things like this. Its your sub-conscience's way of playing out your doubts, fears etc. Im sure your best friend loves you a lot and wouldnt do anything to hurt you at all. And i think you know how much your boyfriend likes you. If you dont feel secure in the relationship, maybe you should talk about it with him? But if it's just been playing on your mind because of this dream, then i advise you to puch it aside, and get on with your life. Best of luck xxxx
Ok, so here's the thing. I am 23 years old and I have never dated before. I have recently met this really great guy, and we have a great time going out together. Here's where I start having trouble, I am very nervous about the 'first kiss'. For me this is not only the first realtionship kiss, it is my first kiss ever. How do I know what to do, and when do we have that 'first kiss'. I feel so dumb being so inexperienced, and I just don't know what to do. Any relationship advice would be greatly appreciated, I clearly need all the help I can get.
When you kiss, you move your lips towards his, brush them against his and open your mouth slightly. He will do the rest. It should come naturally to you, and im sure you will be fine! Best of luck xxxxx
There's this girl I'm interested in annd I plan on taking her out on a date buut I dont know where to go! I want to take her to dinner and go do something that is interactive, which allows us to talk and get to know eachother (unlike a movie where you just sit there...).
I want to make our first date incredible and I really want to impress her. I met this girl in first grade and when we graduated into Jr. High our paths went seperate directions. we've seen eachother a few times randomly over the years but it wasnt untill this year that she transfered to my highschool that we've truly reconnected. I dont know why I care so much about impressing her, its weird because Im normally not that way.
Any and all ideas/suggestiosn would be greatly abpprecitaed!
Be spontaneous. Do what you both feel like, going for a meal is good, maybe going for a walk in a forest, or a picnic by a lake or maybe you could get a train to somewhere she hasnt been before. You could not tell her where your going and it could be a suprise. If you want it to be special, then make it romantic, exciting etc. Im sure she will like you, no matter where your first date was
So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. We have been through some tough times but have made it and are happy. We tend to fight over stupid things and he can be pretty immature at times. Well recently the subject of marriage came up again. We have talked about it and I said that someday if things worked out and we both were ready that it would be a good idea, because we both can see eachother being together. But out of the two of us, I am better at handling money and I am very clean. He can be sloppy and doesnt always spend his money wisely, so I could see how being married to someone like that oculd cause some major problems right away. Well he is joining the Marines and is trying to ask me to marry him this summer! And I don't feel ready but feel like he pressuring me too or else! So please help me figure out what to do. Cause I am so lost...
Dont do it. In the end its your own decision, but you've already said you dont want to. Besides, in my honest opinion, you havent been together for long enough. Im sure he wont break upwith you ebcause you wont marry him! I dont know how old you are but im assuming your 20 something. Sorry if im wrong. Just tell him that you are happy with the way things are, and if he has confidence in your relationship, which he obviously does, then it wouldnt hurt to wait until you were both certain. Its natural to have doubts, but you dont feel ready. Sorry to sound blunt, but that means your not. Best of luck xxxx
hey, I'm 14 my name is jackie.. and I need help..
I'm not sure who to like. On one hand there is this one guy (tony)who is 16, and I've known him for a few weeks. He's shy but his friends say he likes me and wants to take me to homecomming. He is really cute but sometimes he can be a little rude to everyone.. Also we hung out last weekend and we kidna flirted but didnt really pay attention to me
and on the other hand tony's friends little brother (14 years old) named ryan is so hott! he has the most amazing eyes and he is really sweet. he let me use his sweatshirt when i was cold, and he talked to me when noone else was. he said i should comeover his house again. he knows how to treat a girl.
I'm really confused on which to like? please help
RYAN. to be honest, it sounds like you like him more anyway jackie. He's the best choice for you, but the decision is obviously for you to make. Maybe you could become better friends with ryan and then your decsion might be easier? But remember, life would be pretty boring if we only did whats good for us. Best of luck xxxx
hi, im a 15 year old boy and i like this 15 year old ghirl aolt. we've been friends for about 4 years now and we have gone out twice but it only lasted about a month or 2 each time...she broke it off because she didnt want to ruin or friendshiip..it was only 8th grade (last year) and she was into this hole not make out thing but w.e thats not the point. i still really care for her and ive told her this before and she says she doesnt wanna ruin the friendship and that she cant see me like that at the time..itds been about a month shes been single for about a month aswell and i want to tell her before summer vacation how much i care but i dont want to seem obsesive..please help thanks so much in advance
Thats sweet. OK, well however much you care for her you need to be light-hearted about it, so you dont put her under too much pressure. The beginnings of relationships are the best bits so dont rush her. Just say: ______, i still have feelings for you. I dont expect you to go out with me because i know how you feel about ruining our friendship, so theres no pressure. But I would like to prove to you that we can be more and it can work.
or something like that. You get the idea. right best of luck xxxx
Ive seen this girl I like. How do I go about asking her out on a date? What are the steps and how do I do it?
Im a 15/m nearly 16. Please help, I rate 5's for great advice.
dont leave it too long, she mnight get taken. try and ake oppertunities to talk to her and flirt with her and then just honestly ask her out. Give her time to think about it if she needs, as long as your not sleezy and dont use a "line" she'd be lucky to have you. good luck xxxx