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boyyyy issues :\
Okay, let me start off by saying that I go to a fairly small highschool so we have VERY defined social standings. And the popular group is spread out through the grades. So it's made up of freshmen, sophomores, juniors and seniors. You go to junior high wth the same people you go to high school with. Well in seventh and eighth grade I hated my life haha. I was unpopular. Not like really really nerdy but just in the "unpopular group" the average sues. The popular girls were alwasy very nice to me and it made my friends mad. My friends kind of sucked... they were always trying to find people to use or step on to claw their way to the top. But I just kind of dealed with it because I had known these girls forever... Well freshman year started and I was still average, until I caught the eye of Tyler. Tyler was probably THE most popular guy in school. Star quarter back, super cute, valedictorian, everyone liked him. I don't want to be like stuck up or anything but I knwo I'm a good looking girl, haha I mean I'm not ugly. Well we started dating in September. We dated aaall year. He's one of those guys you always dream of but never really think exist. Once I started dating him, my world changed. He was in the popular group so I started hanging out with the popular girls. They had always been nice and honestlly, I like them sooo much more than my old friends. They supported me all year and were awesome, and are still my friends even though Tyler and I broke up. I think its safe to say that Tyler and I were in love. We dated for almost a year, neither of us ever cheated, and he took my virginity at ten months. But we're young and we knew that once he went to college, a long distance relationship would be too hard and we didn't want to go through that pain. We broke up just a week ago... We're still friends, it wasn't messy at all but it still hurts ya know? Well I'm getting through it. And I still have my friends. The popular ones. I love them too haha. But see it's only been a week and already every guy has been trying to like... I don't know get with me? haha. I know none of them like me. They just wanna say they got what Tyler had. It's hard!! I don't know what to do... I don't want to start dating right away, that's not fair to Tyler and that's not fair to the new guy because I know I still have feelings for Tyler. It's also not fair to me because I know they don't like me for me... ya know what I'm saying?? I jsut don't know what to do... And my old friends think that now that Tyler and I are broken up that I'm suddenly just going to be friends with them again... But they were never friends to me. They never supported or cared about me... I'm just so confused right now. My real friends say I should just ignore all these new guys but its SOOO hard because I'm hurt right now, and lonely... I just wanna know if any of you hgave some other opinions on what I should do... I'm sixteen, gonna be sophomore.
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Break ups are hard. Especially when you've been in love with that person. What you and Tyler had was special. You don't really wanna cheapen that by getting with some guy who doesn't even like you for you, do you? You said it yourself, you go to a small school. Everyone will find out. It's not worth the hassle just because you're lonely.
Let yourself breathe. Take some time, hang out with your friends (the "popular ones") and have some fun. You'll get over Tyler, and then you'll be in a better position to date.
It's not fair to anyone if you pursue any of the guys you've mentioned, and I think you know that. As for you're friends, stick with the one's that support you.
Although, just to be devil's advocate - you're old friends might just see that you're hurting and want to support you after you're break up. You'd know better than I, but surely if that was the case you could be friendly with everyone?
Good luck x
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Personally, I think your boy problems are a lot less than your friend problems.
Anyways, is there really a problem with you and Tyler? I mean, it seems you're just over thinking it all too much. You and Tyler broke up on friendly terms, right? And how guys are hovering over you just because?
I think you're just overwhelmed and dare I say it, 'enjoying' the attention you never got when you were an 'average-sue'. You like the attention guys are giving you even though you have feelings for Tyler still. I would advise staying away from guys, even if it is tempting. You're going to give the wrong impression if you start dating guys one week after you break up with them.
Anyways, I don't see a real reason for you to be hurt and lonely. You just seem like you're pitying yourself because you don't have a boyfriend anymore. As for your friends, you should give your old friends a chance, it pretty much seemed like you just ditched them because the popular crowd is now giving you attention. If you're not careful this will give you some very unwanted drama.
Good luck,
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I confess to being a little confused...
You've referred to old friends, new friends, popular friends, unpopular freinds...
Which groups of friends likes you for you? Which group cares about you and wants the best for you?
Which group did you mean when you said "real friends".
I know there are guys who want to be with you because you were with Tyler. I'm glad that you are perceptive and see right through that. Keep it up!
True friends are precious and rare. When we move around and get to know new people, there is never a need to dump other friendships. Some will die a natural death, others will taper off, but only very rarely is it necessary to sever ties and cut off a friendship.
Try and be friendly and outgoing to as many people as possible.
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