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Im Jealous!
I am jealous when my boyfriend goes to hang out with females I can tolerate but dont like. I dont know why or how to tell him that I am jealous without him getting angry with me. I need some advice quick because he will be over to my house in a few minutes and then he is leaving to go hang out with his "friends", who are initally girls. ;x
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I went through this, & I got all jealous too, & without thinking, I told him how it annoyed the heck out of me that he hung around other girls & that I don't do that & then we got into this whole, I don't trust him, he doesn't care about me, junk. It was stupid. We then ended up breaking up, a couple weeks later. Ever since then, I'm no longer the jealous type. Because, that whole thing basically broke my heart. Now, I don't want that to happen to you.. so I'm gonna give you some advice, I wish someone would have gave me.
You know those other girls?! CLING TO THEM. Even if you don't really like them. Become friends with them.. soo then, when he wants to go hang out with them.. you can be all "Oh my gosh, can I come!? So&so is so nice!" Then, you're there & you can see exactly how he talks to those girls & everything..you're technically kinda spying on him, which I guess would kinda mean it makes you look like you don't trust him, which isn't true.. you just have a little bit of jealousy in you, but if you don't tell anyone you don't really like those girls, then what no one knows, can't hurt them. & hey, maybe you'll actually really end up liking those girls & making some new friends in the process. (:
I hope that helped, byeee.
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I'm sorry you and your boyfriend broke up.
Tinkerbell94
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Maybe you could try to become friends with these girls? I know you wont want to, but if you do, you could maybe hang out with them. Even if its only for a few times until you realise you have nothing to worry about. Also, if your mates, they will have more of an obligation not to take him away from you in anyway. Maybe in a chat with one of them you could politely explain your concerns - making it seem more like a compliment?
You could tell your boyfriend that it bothers you. Just say something like, "Look, i dont mean to sound insecure or anything and i totally trust you, but i dont like it when you hang out with them". Maybe if you explain a few reasons why that you think he'll see as valid.
I'm sorry i couldnt be of more help. If you like i could yell at him for you? lol. best of luck xxxx
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Its normal to be jealous when you have a boyfriend that hangs out with other girls. But, you have to remember that just because hes hanging out with them doesnt necesserily mean he's cheating on you! A lot of guys have girls that are just friends to them - like girls have guy friends. If you show jealousy to him, though he might get annoyed - its one of the main things guys HATE. So, dont be that girl. Tell him you would love to meet his friends sometime. If he says no or seems to be hiding something, I would tell him its getting a little too weird for you. Tell him he is your boyfriend and you just dont want to get hurt. Tell him its FINE he hangs out with other girls and that youre totally cool with that! But that he needs to be less sneaky about it.
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k ` first you needa kno if you can [ trust ] him because if you cant trust him OFCOURSE your gonna be jelous ` you just have 2 face the fact that yes there will be other girls in his life besides you . but you ALWYS gotta thing [ WHO HAS THE GUY]
YOU :)
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