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Hey Im Sam!!
A couple of my friends say that im good for giving advice and sometimes am motherly :\(JOE) which could be good in certain situations cuz im very responsible and try to make people feel good about themselves.So i figured id give this advice thing a shot. So if it turns out good you guys can ask me anything you want i wont reject anyones question i promise. AsK AwAy!!

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ok....one day i saw my boyfriend making out with my best friend... i got pissed at him and through my shoe at his head. i ran away. the next day i took a nap. at 3:00 p.m. i found him in my bed nibbling my ear and his hands down my pants??? i kissed him on the cheek and told him i had a dentist appointment which was a lie. he left? what should i do?

14/f

um ok i say CALL THE COPS NEXT TIME THAT HAPPENS. Hes a jerk for making out with your best friend ( i like the shoe thing, the shoe thing was good). And your best friend, what kind of best friend goes and makes out with their best friends boyfriend? I mens thats wrong. Oh well her loss now shes stuck with him. But definetly dump him and soon. Maybe you knocked his brain out when you threw the shoe at him, because what kind of guy puts his hand down someones pants when they were sleeping!?!? Goodness thats wrong in so mnay ways. Its invading your privacy, and he just has problems. Please tell me how things go okay? I hope i kind of helped. Sammerz

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my friend is lee and i have ben crushing on him on and off all year and he asked me out earlier this summer but i rudley said NO! and my mom was like who is that and she was like aww taylor but i mean she hates me going out with guys she hasnt meet ....she has only meet him once and that was in 6th grade ... so i didnt wanna say yea and my friend was at my house when it happend and im like really popular along with all my firends ! and hes not that popular! so i didnt want my friends to be like EW! and well we started talking again and like he says he will kall me then he doesnt! it bothers me! but he broke up for his gurlfriend for me!!! and i was like you didnt have to do that cuz i didnt want me 2 lead him more cuz i dont like him as much as he likes me but he was my first kiss in 6th grade ! and i am begaining to like him more and more !!!but im afraid if we go out again he will just dump me because wut his friends say ...he says i am one of the hottest gurls ever!!! but i dunno ! help me!

please answer these questions !
A: do you think i shold go out with him
B: is it wrong for me to get up set when he doesnt kall snice were not goin out!
C Do you think i sould be scard to go go in this relation ship because of bein dumped !!


*THX* *I* *RATE* *HIGH*

*Tacy*

A. Yes you should go out with him. Dont listen to what your frineds and his friends say cuz in the long run it wont matter.
B.Theres no need to get upset if he didnt call you. He may have been busy and not have had time to get around to it, but it doesnt mean he wasnt thinking of you.
C. I say go for it. Theres no need to be scared of being dumped. If he dumps,he dumps u. His loss. But i think he seems like a sweet respectable guy and you guys really have a chance at it. Well i hope i helped! Let me know how things go. Sammerz

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Heyy! I am a 14 year old girl
I have a MAJOR problem... I have a boyfriend of almost 5 months and we are really happy! He was my first kiss...let alone that but we haev madeout and french kissed! which sounds like alot but when you see how happy we are you could see why we have done that! The only problem is our parents dont know and we dont plan to tell them any time soon...both of us arent supposed to have a gf/bf until we are 16 or 17.... we are seriously meant for each other and he says he loves me and i love him...i haev never felt this way!
WHAT SHOULD I DO! I dont know if we shoudl tell our parents or just wait to tell them...what would you do???? any advice would be helpful!
thx

I would tell them the truth because they will find out sooner or later. Have your bf come over for dinner or osmetihng once. I know itll seem awkward but it gives your parents an idea of what a nice, respectable, mature kid he is ( if he isnt he better be a good actor) because if they think hes nice then your all in the clear. Now about his parents...It usually seems like the boyfrineds parents dont mind as much, but try the dinner plan again if not. One more thing, if this gets more serious and you guys stay together longer, have your parents meet his parents, then itll show them how much you guys really care for each other and how much you really want this to work. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz

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Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!!

Well if he cheated on you then WHY r you still with him. Thats your que to say *later jerk!* Now this friend guy sounds really romantic and like he cares about you so i say hang with him for a while to see if feelings get any deeper. Gvie him a chance. Okay well i hope i helped! Let me know how things go. Sammerz

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I have this ex-girlfriend, ok? And see what happened is she just broke up with the guy that she broke up with me for. And I'm kinda worried that she might try to go back out with me just because I'm their and I'm familiar. Plus we also were lightly flirting last time we were together, which was about a month ago so I think I'm safe. What should I do to let her know, without a doubt, that I won't get back with her now, but do it lightly so it's not really noticeable?

Well next time you talk to her try not flirting and acting buddy-buddy. Act like you guys are friends and what not. If she does ask you back be like * im really sorry but i dont care about you that way anymore, i was hoping we could stil try to be friends.* If she keeps bugging you just tell her you really only wanna be friends and shes not helping! Well i hope i helped a little...Sammerz

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okayy i like this boy but he has a girlfriend. before this current one he had this other girlfriend who has been on and off for a few years now - even though he had a gf he was all .. like lovey dovey -.. and i liked it. He always sat next to me in math and we would ALWAYS get in trouble ... he would always stare at me in english and when i walking one way down the hallway and he was walking the other way he would smile and wave.. he would always put his arm around me in the hallways [[ like around the shoulder and around the waist ]] he would always hug me in front of everyone and i would turn red ... big time -- i think everyone could tell i liked him and i thought he liked me .. but then he dumped his old gf and i thought he was going to ask me out but nopee he asked this other girl out who he barely talked too... i didn't find out until like a week after they been going out .. and during that week i noticed that he has changed ..he wouldn't sit next to me in math .. didn't even talk to me .. no moree waving in the hallway no moree arm around me nothing at all its like he didn't want anything to do with me. now he does all the things he did to me he does it to her .... im crushed =(

did he think we were going out?? at the time and when he found out i didn't think so he just figured i didn't like him?? i really like him .. when we were in school i would stare at him in class and stuff and sometimes i catch him staring at me in class but then he turns away like nothing happened .. what should i do?


thanks

Well maybe you should talk to him about it. Just be like *hey i havent talk to you in a while? whats up?* Casually,act like nothing has bothered you.Just everytime you see him you make the first move. Wave to him in the hall, you go sit next to him in math. Talk about his gf.Yah i kno its weird, but its letting him think your comfortable with the whole thing. After a while things should get back to normal. Tell me how things go. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz

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er... well. here goes.

theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.

I talk to him on AIM, we kinda talk at school, and best of all, he doesn't think I'm fat. (long story. Let's just say I wasn't eating anything and my friends are odd)

But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. (again, my friends are odd) But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM (I know its odd, but hey, I guess I blend in with my friends) which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.

The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.

So what I want to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)

I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)

Well its true when guys criticize you they actually do like you. I know strange. And another thing, about 89% of guys prefer if girls mkae the first move too! I think you should wait it out a little more and see if his feelings go a little deeper. And if he asks you out, give it a shot. I mean youve liked him for so long he deserves his chance right? If you do wait a while and it seems like he likes you, you should go ahead and ask him out. If he says no, thats okay, there are other fish in the sea. Well i hope i helped!! Sammerz

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I'm 14, soon to be 15. He just turned 19. He's so sweet and calls me baby/beautiful/sweetheart. All that stuff. I like him alot, and he likes me too. We've hooked up }not sex{ and I told my close cousins. They all make fun of me now saying that he's 19 and stuff like that. It really pisses me off because they don't know him. He's amazing and he likes me too. We live 2 hours apart, but I see him when I go up to my cottage. Which is alot. I really like him and I want it too work and so does he. But I want my cousins off my case. Should I tell them that I broke up with him??

IF you have any other advice about my situation I would greatly appreciate anything you have to offer.

Thank you soo much.

Love,
- Ashley

Well dont tell them that you guys broke up, cuz they will find out some way that you didnt, then they will bug you even more. I say next time they same something be like *hey you have no right okay? you dont kno him the way i do and age doesnt matter.*(unless of course its like 50 and 15 cuz thats just freaky...)If your cousins dont get off your back just IM me at Sammerz619
I hope i helped!

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My friend and I are really close. He's my best friend, and I'm really open with him. Sometimes we have really deep conversations, where I tell him anything I feel and he does the same too. We might even have conversations on the phone until 2 in the morning. My problems is that he's really confusing me. He won't make up is mind as to whether he likes me or not. Sometimes he'll hold me or give me those cute hugs from behind, and I really love when he does. We say "I love you" to each other as if it's a greeting. I think he's just leading me on because I asked him out before and he said that he liked me but he didn't want a girlfriend. Now, I don't know if I should ask him out again or what. I like him so much, and I think he likes me too. Should we go out because we're really close or will that mess up our friendship alot?

Well you guys sound so perfect!!Your lucky! I think you should go for it. Around 89% of guys like it when girls make the first moves so i say you should tell him exactly how you feel. Even if he denies you, if your as close as you say i dont think things will change between. Maybe some day he'll feel the same way about you too.Well i hope i helped!IM me at Sammerz619 if u want anything else.

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Ok...so heres the deal. i...ran away from home (save me the lectures) And i stayed with this guy i knew....and liked. But i had just met him that day..but i had spent the whole day with him. And he was really sweet. And told me about his life, and vise versa. hes 16, and im 15. that night we hooked up...not sex, just...made out and cuddled and slept together (literally). And so...yea. Then the next day we went to a friends house for a lil. And we acted like we were datin...kissed and what not. Then he walked me to the marta station and kissed me goodbye and told me to call him when i got home and when i could. So i do. And he tells me that i shouldnt get in touch with him too much or at all, because we both didnt want my parents to find out that he was the house i stayed at..but he did tell me to call him once i was "free". Now heres the problem. I cant stop thinking about him...its been a week already and hes all thats on my mind. Once im "free" should i go for it..or talk to him about it? Please help..and sorry this was so long.

Well im not trying to criticize but are you sure you really know this guy? I mean you knew him a WHOLE day.Then you ran away to his house. Im not gonna give you advice and tell you to go home because thats not your question. But i think you try to get to know this guy a little bit more. But make sure you have other trusting people around (that youve known for a while). Definetly tell him how your feeling about him. If you guys hooked up he has to have feelings fro you in some way. Well i hope i helped a little...Sammerz

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I really like the kid im going out with. He asked me out a little over a week ago but I had said no because Im so busy over the summer. Now, I regret saying yes this time because I have way too much going on. Im gonna be a freshman next year and Im on the high school cheerleading squad. It takes up a lot of my time and im also playing softball all summer. I go to the cape almost every weekend, and I need some time to myself, plus I have a lot of work to do before I go back to school. I dont know what to do because I wont ever see him and I feel so tied down because im always worried about finding time to be with him. Should I dump him? If so, how should I do it in a way to let him know that we're still going to be great friends like we have been? I'll rate high

Well if it were me id tell ihm that it wasnt him, but i need some time to get ready for high school and get everything straightened out this summer. If he really cared he would understand. Maybe things could go well and you guys could start off fresh at the end of the summer.Well i hope i helped a little!!Sammerz

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I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help!

Well you should follow your own heart and do what you think you should do. If your friend said something like he went to jail for 3 years or he smokes and drinks then listen to her because shes watching your back like friends do. But if hes nice, respectable and she only said annoying and ugly, then thats only her perspective. Listen to what your heart is telling you to do, not your friend. If she said jump off a bridge would you?? Well i hope i could help =D Sammerz

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okay so me n my girlfriend have been going out for a while and shes moving faster than i want to weve done everything but sex...i dont want to be one of the young tenn fathers even if we use a condom it could still break... if you could answer this i would really appriciate it

Just tell her exactly how you feel, and pretty much everything u just told me. If she really cares about you she will understand and wait as long as you want to.I hope i helped! Sammerz

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hey , well this guy has told alot of people he liked me but was scared & he was afraid that he got on my nerves too much that thats why he hasnt already asked me 2 be his girl friend what should i do ? plz help if u can thx 4 tryin !

Well it depends A. Does he get on your nerves? B. Do you like him? If you do like him you should let him know. Well i hope i helped on what i could! IM me at Sammerz619 if you need any other advice! Sammerz

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This is going to be my first date in my life, so I'm not so good at this right now. We're just going to watch a movie at my house and I don't know of any good movies that we'd probably both like. I want something funny, but a little romantic too. I'd like any suggestions.

go for 50 First Dates!! You have three of the funniest people on Earth starring in the movie, plus its also hinting something else! I hope i helped!! Sammerz

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ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!

I think you should call him or IM him or something and go places together so you guys can hang out and keep in touch. It wont seem like the girl-who-annoys-their-bf-by-calling if you call like *hey me and some other people are going to the movies and it wont be as much fun without you* Once he starts to get used to hanging out outside of school he will start plannig things with you for sure. Well i hope i helped!! Sammerz

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I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?

Thanks 15-Female

Well i think that you should try calling him or getting in touch with him any way you can. Whether you see one of his friends and are just like * hey have you seen *bfs name* around lately? i havent talked to him in forever* just be casual about it. If you dont get back in touch with your bf, then my last bit of advice is to move on, because apparently he already has. I hope i helped!! IM me at Sammerz619 if you need anything else. Sammerz

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hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox

Well he sounds very sweet, but if he doesnt wanna see you there may be soemthing wrong. Becease a guy should want to hang out with their gf not ignore you. I hate to come up with the worst response too, but he might have another gf out there hes not telling you about. Seriously if i know guys, hes probably out there like yah i got a girl here, and this other girl who im going out with blah blah...for bragging rights. I think you need to confront him. Be like * *his name* i really like you, but we never hang out is there a reason u dont wanna be around me?* if he really cares about u he would say the right thing after that line. I hope i helped. Sammerz

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I am in love with this guy. We'll call him Zach. And I like this guy. We'll call him Elijah. Zach's in love with this girl. We'll call her Alli. Alli's in love with this guy and is in a lasting relationship with this guy. We'll call him Joe. Okay, now the problem is Alli has no feelings for Zach and she's told him so. Zach is still hanging on because it is so hard for him to let go. But he knows he has to. And he's told me that when he isn't thinking of her he's thinking of me. I am that girl that he will fall back on and I'm okay with that. But while I'm waiting for him to get over her Elijah really likes me. He wants to be the guy to make me smile. And the more time he spends with girls the more he thinks of me. I like him, but I love Zach. Elijah told me that he will wait as long as he has to but he will not wait if it will jeopardize his well-being. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose Zach more. Zach tells me but he would be okay if I went with Elijah. But the problem is that if I get too deep in with Elijah and Zach decides he wants to be with me it will only make it harder to turn Elijah away. What do I do? I will rate all answers.

Wow this is tough. I feel like a broken record saying this, but you need to pick one. I think you should hang out with both of them together and see whic person your more drawn too. If that doesnt work id go *elijah* because if *alli* and *joe* break up *zach* is gonna forget u and head straight up to *alli* you wouldnt want ur heart broken like that, and i bet things can go deeper with elijah. I hope i helped. Sammerz

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To give a bit of background information, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and are madly in love with eachother. I gave him my heart.. as well as my virginity and he did the same. But the past few weeks, I've been doubting our relationship. I'll be having dreams of being with ex boyfriends or just other guys, particularly this one guy named Luis. He's a very good friend of mine and a total flirt around me. For a second I thought I had feelings for him and I actually concidered breaking off my over one year relationship with the love of my life for this guy, Luis.I realized it was stupid to end something that is SO good for something that is only going to last a few months IF that much. I called my boyfriend and I was barely crying and, I should've known he would be able to tell I was because as soon as I said hi he said "What's wrong why were you crying?" (He knows the sound of my voice when I'm happy or sad and everything in between like the back of his hand). I told him what happened and I kept saying "Baby, I'm so sorry I don't want to lose you." He told me everything would be okay, but now when I talk to him he seems so distant? If that would be a word to describe it. He's in Maine right now, and I'm back home in New Jersey so I can just like go over and see him right now. I don't know what to do, he just isn't acting the same now, I didn't do ANYTHING with Luis, I'd never do that to my boyfriend. What do I do? I don't want to hurt my boyfriend anymore, I feel so guilty for even having those thoughts. Can anyone please help?

I'm 17 he's 18.

Well it seems liek you and your bf are very close. I think that he is just feeling hurt right now because you were thinkin about doing something with someone other than him. I kno for a fact he is acting this way because he loves you. Just remember your lucky because most guys out there dont care about anyone that way and have that kinda sense like you kno when sometinhg is wrong. Thats just special. I think you know how to work this out. yoU and your bf will have a lovely life together, i can tell. If you ever wanna talk IM me at Sammerz619. I hope i could help.

Ps. Everyone has thoughts, so dont worry about it. yoU cant control how you feel, but i kno nothing will seperate u two. TRUST ME

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