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My bf broke up with me, he gave me an excuse pretty much he said well if we fight this much now how are we going to have a future and we're going to ruin our friendship. Ok it's an excuse bc I was willingly to do anything for us to not fight but he wasn't. I really love him, when he broke up with me I had to have one of my friends stop me from not starving myself or cutting myself. I can't stop crying, it just can't be over I need to talk to him. What do I say is this over u heartbreaker? lol It's weird bc we only had a few fights and stuff and we were doing good a few days ago..please what do I do I'd do anything for this boy and anything to get him back ik thats desperate..but I LOVE HIM!!!!!
Well, is you love him you should realise what is best for him. Talk to him ,work it out. Explain how you feel. Or write him a letter, explaining exactly how you feel about this whole situation, and how much your in love with him. If you keep it all up inside of you, then you're most likely to feel even more emotional pain. I think that the fact that he thought there was something wrong with your two's relationship is what is REALLY getting too you. let it out. Talk to someone. Letting it out will help you so much.
-Ava
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so this guy asked me out finally.
but idk if it was a joke..
he asked me on myspace.
heres the exatc convo..
will you go out with me?
really?
yeah i like you alot.
awe.
yeah i dont want to be mean but whats the answer i gtg soon.
yeah sure.
so you will go out with me?
yeah.
then it ended..
the part where he said i like you alot dosent make since.
it could of been a joke.
what do you think.
i really need help
THANKS SO MUCH!
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Well... if hhe hasn't called you or anything saying it was a joke, or his friends haven't come up to you and said "ha ha ha ha you really believed he liked you?" Then he really must like you hun.
Much love
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i have a huge problem....i am completely in love with my ex, but he has a girlfriend. i have known this guy longer then i have known anyone besides my family. he was even at my first birthday party. we were together off and on for 3 years and i cant get over him. i have gone out with several guys this year trying to get over him and its just not working. and like 2 months ago we had talked about getting together but then we just stopped talking out of no where and the my "bestfriend" went out with him and then cheated on him. so they broke up and now he is going with this nice girl but i have never really liked her anyways. i love him so much and i want to be with him more then anything and i knwo you are probably thinking he has a girlfriend so just get over him but i cant. he has my heart for the longest time and i dont want anyone else to have it, i think he still has feelings for me because he always choose me first over everyone and vice versa and he goes out with a lot of girls but never stays with them long but he did with me , we were together once for 6 months last time.... please help me because i need help so bad to get over him or get back with him.... thanks in advance
Well hun, if you love him as much as you say you do, then you would know that you would only want whats best for him. Which means makeing him happy. So if he decideds to date other women, then you should respect his desicion. But maybe he hasn't moved on. Maybe he still has feelings for you, but he doesn't know you have feelings for him. I think you should open up and tell him how you feel.... It would be a lot better for your consience. Because your being selfish, saying you want him and you love him and everything. But love is all about selflessness, Careing about the other person. I didn't really under stand the concept untill i met my current husband (even though im only 19 years old i know what love is) But Hunny, just talk to him and everything will work out fine.
Much love
♥
Ava
Some girls in one of my classes keep saying that me and this other guy (who im friends with but dont get to talk to all that much) would make a good couple. Today I wore a skirt and he said he wanted to look up it. And this girl said he liked me but he didn't really seem to say anything. But I wasn't really paying attention. Do you think he likes me? More than 2-3 people have said we'd make a really cute couple too....
ya i think so.........
Why are boys so... i dont even know what word to use.. i mean they tell you they love you just to get in your pants! and they are sooo confusing, they bring so much pain but i still want them! ... grrr, am i making any sense? all i truley want is this...
i want a boy---
who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything.
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with me and remember each one.
a boy who notices girl's haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will bring me seashells
from the beach.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesn't send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
who saves his genuine, big smiles for me.
a boy with deep eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.
who wears baseball hats and
lets me wear his too.
who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dad's handand look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me i'm beautiful.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who suprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who tells me i have a nice laugh,
and a smile that lights up the room.
a boy who's simply mine to hold."
that is exactly what i want!
why cant i get that?
Im lucky thoguh i have all of that and he just bought me an 8 thousand dollar ring and asked me to marry him!!! god im so effing lucky
Alright, so, as it's probably helpful to know a little info about me, I'm 16, female. And I'm in love, I know it, I can feel it's true just as surely as I know that 2 x 2 = 4. I find myself having a whole new perspective, a whole new outlook, on life. I realize that whatever happens, it's going to be alright, because I'll have someone there by my side who I can trust with anyone, and we can be there for eachother through whatever happens. (btw, Thanks to anyone who answered my previous question, the answers have helped me realize that going to seperate colleges, while tough, is something we can handle.) Now, I know he loves me, and he talks as though whatever happens, we'll always be there for eachother, but am I doing the right thing? I mean, there doesn't seem to be a doubt in my mind about this, or him, or whether this is the real deal. But I feel like I should just step back and take one more look, I mean, I'm 16, and this isn't something that usually happens at this age. Any thoughts?
well im 17 and i know exactly what your going through. I always thought am i making the right decision saying that i lvoe this man? we havea hd many rough times but its made me realize even more how much im in love with him then i even thought. but i realized i love him and if he loves me we will stay true to each other and wait till were older to get married and we are going to seprate colleges but we promise to go visit each other all the time when ever possible.
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Ava
So me & this guy were going out.. it had been going great and all but his ex girlfriends were real bitches!! but anyways.. so we ended up braking up because he got suspended and got grounded for the whole summer. He's usually aloud to go to his best friends house (dont ask me why) even if hes grounded but he couldnt even go there.. so we decided to brake up. but see the thing is that about a week into summer (we broke up about a week before school ended) he was able to go to his friends house again. and about three days after that he wasnt grounded anymore.. i saw him at the carnival all over his ex girlfriend (the bitchy one) but he calls me once and a while(we were friends before we went out) but it just seems like i was someone to try and get over his ex and not someone who he really cared about. is he a jerk.. or what?
Well most guys, after they brake up with someone, they try to avoid there feelings by trying to be manly and flirt with a nother girl.
so hes acting like a jerk but if you really talked to him for like and hour or more then you would find out whats really going on
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okay well me and my boyfriend were going out for 5 years and then he proposed, and well we were gonna get married but some stuff happened and we made each other really mad so we broke up. so then he got a girlfriend and they got married. so i wasnt that upset because i had a boyfriend. and we went to my xboyfriends house to see it, because we dont hate each other. and then i was mad when i saw the house because it was the one i'd been looking at for like ever. so my boyfriend and his wife were inside and i was outside getting some air and he came out and he was turning the sprinklers on, and i walked up and asked him what his problem was and he fliped out on me and was saying how my boyfriend doesnt love me and hes only with me because im hott. then i got upset and my boyfriend drove me back to where we lived at a camp. so i told everyone [family + friends that live there] and they got mad at him. and he showed up 2 days later and told everyone that he still loved me and all that. so then my boyfriend proposed to me and i didnt know what was wrong, i said no. i told him i loved him and everything but i still had feeling for my xboyfriend. so i went to walmart ((idk why)) and i saw him there. and i asked him if he still loved me why he got married. nd he said cuz he wanted me to feel the pain he put me through. so i told everyone at home that we were back together and now theyre all mad..did i really do anything that bad?
But if he's married, how are you back together. Anyways, from what i read other then he is married you didnt do any thing that bad.
Good luck and hope i helped
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hey so theres this girl were friends and all but i like her. shes 2 years older im 14 i like her alot i mean ALOT but i want to tell her. so last time i told my self id tell her on my next 5 star day and here i am its a taurs 5 star day and i havent told her. i think im scared
Tell her. It will be worht it in the end
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ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks!
Talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him. You know, Open up to him. Let him get to know you better. If this doesnt work then talk to your friend Jason to see if he can do anything. If this all fails, then just wait it out seew what happens.
Good luck and hope i helped
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Princess Ava
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Okay, my best friend in the whole wide world is moving. And I have no idea what to say to him. He's only going like 30 minutes away, but he's my best friend! And I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I'll miss him to much. How can I get over this?
Call him every day. Tell him how much you miss his company. Tell him even if he is far away yall can still hang out and he can talk to youy about anything.
Hope i helped and good luck
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(im 15/f)ok so im starting a band. and 2 of them are guys, 19. And one of them started comming earlyer last week... and he sang all these love songs.. it kinda creeped me out.. and then when the other guy showed up he was all normal again. But then when he was trying to show my something on the drums he put his hands over mine while holding the sticks. (like they do in movies you know? when a guy likes a girl..) it felt ocward too.. but hes also been like really nice to my parents too.. like trying to impress them. Its really freaking me out and i dont know if i even want to be in the band with them anymore.. and we just go together too.
sorry its so long.. thank you to those who help though :D i really appreciate it
Well sit him down and say to him " so and so, lately i have been getting vibes from you. Like when you put your hands on mine when playing the drums and showing up and playing loves songs. If you like me that way, thats GREAT, but you see i would rather us just be friends. your a great guy but i think theres someone so much better for you then me." you know something like that
Hope i helped and good luck
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I'm switching schools next year so I won't be going back. I want to admit to my guy friend that I have feelings for him. I like him alot but I know he likes another girl & she knows that. If I tell him how I feel, do you think things will be weird this summer if he rejects, since I planned on hanging out with him as friends anyways?
Acctually the same the happened to me but sorta flipped. I liked this guy Diego. He's from mexico and said he was only gonna be here for a year. He was really sweet and nice and a truely genuine person. WEll on the last day of school i gave him my number and said, Diego, i really like you, i have for a long time. i just wanted to tell you that. you dont have to like me i jsut wanted to tell you. well the next day he called me and said"Ava, i really like you too. It's just that im moving back to mexico and i dont wanna have a relations ship with a girl thats 10,000 miles away." i under stood well then a week later he found out that his father was staying because he got a huge job here in new york. So now we have been going out for 2 1/2 years and we are truely in love. So for you i dont think it would be any different. its fine things shouldn't change. I mean he will then know you like him so if he starts like ya your still there!!
Hope i helped and good luck
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Alright! I really like this boy and he thought we broke up because i didn't reallt talk to him because when i sit near my friends and with him, i am more tempted to talk to my friends. well, he broke up with me and asked this other girl out who he said was annoying. My brother was talking to him and he told him that he broke up with me because he thought that if he went out with me for a long time, i would talk to him more but i didn't realize it. He said he doesn't hate me but he wants to be my friend. How do I get him to like me agtain????
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well this is a tough one. Wait it out ahile. then tell him how you feel.
good luck and hope i helped you
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ok, so recentally i have been crushing on one of my friend's brother. I know she is really protective of him and i dont know if i should tell her or not. what should i do?
Tell her. She might be able to help you. Thats what i did with my friend Kylee. She has a twin brother Kyle and i liked him. She helped me out and we went out for awhile
good luck and hope i helped you
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I am so worried, I ruined the relationship with the woman of my dreams over 3 years ago. We haven't spoken a word to each other since then. Last week I called her parents house and left a brief message and , suprisingly, she called and left me a message telling me that she will be at home for fathers day weekend. How do I stop myself from telling her that I still think about her everyday and that she is still the center of my dreams, or do I just tell her and risk the chance of her telling me to buzz off? I need to tell her but I don't want to risk gaining back the friendship that we once had, even if thats all it will be. Someone help me please!
Go for the plung! Tell her. It will make her realize that you didn't mean to ruin the relationship. Your obviously in love with her. Its just the matter of how you tell her.
good luck and hope i helped you
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well today is my bf's birthday so we are going to lunch at a nice (in other words, expensive) resturant with another couple. i invited him, so does that mean i have to pay for him? its a pretty expensive place and im 14 and he's turning 15. thanks!
You pay it will be a birth day present to him
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i have a friend who i really seriously think i love.i've never felt quite this way about any other guy before.he's my best friend and he says he doesnt like me that way but sometimes it seems like he does.we flirt and talk all the time and he's always there for me.i just dont understand.he got hurt really bad because some girl broke his heart.this happened about a year or so ago and he never sees her anymore because she goes to another school.i think he's just afraid of going out with me because he doesnt want us to have something happen and break up and then never be the same friends we were before we started going out.im not sure tho.please help me out with what i should do.thank u.
~*~confused~*~
Talk to him about how you feel. Show him this artical. Its a very hard thing to go through. At this moment i am going trought the same thing with my friend Ryan. Its hard and i really truely understand your position.
If you ever need some one else to talk to about him feel free to contact me.
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i told my boyfreind if he is not going to be there for this second child then get out i already have a two year old boy with him and my feeling for him have changed i care for him i am starting ti think i don't love him any more is that a normal thing to go through while you are pregnanat
Hormones are ragin when your pregnant. This is very common when your pregnant.
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My 7th grade class is going on a school trip to Lake Compounce in Conneticut. It is on June 16th and (this may sound weird but...) I want to GO with someone (as in a DATE) I am not sure what to do. Should I drop hints, or ask? Ask one of ym guy friends and tell them I want to go as friends? Or tell them it is a date? Please help!
Also although we usually have a dress code we can wear w/e we want (I am going to wear a bikini under my clothes) but I am not sure what to wear. I want to dresss attractively, but not sluty.
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Tell them you want to go as friends and then talk to them then eventually tell them that you like them or what ever you feel about thim
hope i helped and good luck
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