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i have a huge problem....i am completely in love with my ex, but he has a girlfriend. i have known this guy longer then i have known anyone besides my family. he was even at my first birthday party. we were together off and on for 3 years and i cant get over him. i have gone out with several guys this year trying to get over him and its just not working. and like 2 months ago we had talked about getting together but then we just stopped talking out of no where and the my "bestfriend" went out with him and then cheated on him. so they broke up and now he is going with this nice girl but i have never really liked her anyways. i love him so much and i want to be with him more then anything and i knwo you are probably thinking he has a girlfriend so just get over him but i cant. he has my heart for the longest time and i dont want anyone else to have it, i think he still has feelings for me because he always choose me first over everyone and vice versa and he goes out with a lot of girls but never stays with them long but he did with me , we were together once for 6 months last time.... please help me because i need help so bad to get over him or get back with him.... thanks in advance
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Well hun, if you love him as much as you say you do, then you would know that you would only want whats best for him. Which means makeing him happy. So if he decideds to date other women, then you should respect his desicion. But maybe he hasn't moved on. Maybe he still has feelings for you, but he doesn't know you have feelings for him. I think you should open up and tell him how you feel.... It would be a lot better for your consience. Because your being selfish, saying you want him and you love him and everything. But love is all about selflessness, Careing about the other person. I didn't really under stand the concept untill i met my current husband (even though im only 19 years old i know what love is) But Hunny, just talk to him and everything will work out fine.
Much love
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Ava
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wow your story sounds so much like mine. Its been a year now since my bf and i split up. Hes had a gf for a year too(ya, jumped right to the next one) 5 mos into their relationship he was pouring out his feelings for me. I was so hurt and angry that i didnt let him know how i still felt about him. Just recently, him and his gf broke up. (theyre 5th time at least)
We were talking online one night and he told me to call him later, so i did. It was midnight on a school night, and we talked for 2 hrs. He wanted to hang out on the next night, so we did. First he told me to come to his work (he told me he worked till 8 and he tolded his other ex he worked till 11) I wasnt there for more than 30 mins. when guess who shows up? You got it! She proceeded to tell me how he calls her up at night telling her how much he loves her and cares about her.
Well they fought. He told her he was taking her back home(she walked there)i just gave him a look and left. 1 hr. later, he called me, and told me he didnt want to be with HER! i was happy!
He took me to his house and he made all the moves. We cuddled, wrestled, i gave him a back massage, and yes>we did make out!(nothing more)he told me thats its obvious that he still loves me.
The next day we went out for lunch then he took me back home. I didnt hear anything from him for 5 days(im the one that called him)
I knew something was up. He called me back 2 days later, and said that being with me made him realize how much he loved "her". He told me that a part of him will always love me. Thats so bull, because if that was true, hed dump his little ho.
I still have feelings for him, but i cant keep letting him do this to me. This time im not looking back anymore. Its not worth all the heartache hes put me through this past year.
If it hasnt happened for you yet, hun its not gonna. I dont mean to sound negative, but guys dont know what they want!
I think we both need to move on and find that special guy out there whos worthy of our love.
Get rid of all the memories> like pictures, gifts, and everything else. Avoid talking to him too if possible. Whenever you get a thought about him in your head, think of something else!!
If they have our hearts, then they better give it back, because they obviously dont know what to do with it, but crush it!!
Good Luck Hun!!
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Honestly, I don't think there's anything we can say to fix it. I'm a firm believer in that you always have a special place in your heart for your first love. But since you guys have been consistently on & off, you need to try & remember why it never worked all the other times. Hard as it is, you need to move on. I think the only thing that'll work is cutting him out of your life completely. It'll be incredibly hard, but I really think it's for the best. Gradually you'll get over him.
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