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My real name is Christiana, but most people call me "Nina". I am 18 going on 19. I enjoy helping people--just not when they are still in middle school and asking about love or sex. I do alot of painting on canvas, creative writing, reading, and listening to music. I'm pretty mellow. I love sci fi and fantasy based books and movies. I love medieval history--really I like most history but sometimes I wish I could live in a time period that didn't deal with so many technological complexities. I guess you could say I love the simple things in life...



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I did (except i did it over msn) and we kinda resolved everything...were gonna b friends for now and then see what happens....the only thing is that my family and friends are totally against this, because they said if he can hurt me once he can do it again kinda thing...and i feel like the realtionship is doomed again before its even begun....wat do you think i should do? i mean hes up to getting back together he even said that he still has feelings for me and the reason he broke up with me was because he was afraid he was going to break my heart and he couldnt bare that (didnt knw wat that meant) and that the relationship was getting boring-now that i believe. the thing is im in university and hes in high school so im kinda awlways busy but i try and talk to him as much as i can. can you see where im going with this??? ooo and by the way thanks soo much for the help...if you could give me your opinion and advice again it would be much appreciated:D

Goodluck with that, time can only tell what will happen. A break will probablly do you two some good anyway--be very weary of the way he treats you. Be hopeful (:

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So what would u do?

this was ur answer to my question:

Sounds to me that it was mutual. However, (as much as I know you don't want to hear this) you also pushed him over the edge by saying "You can't be in the midd...lets just end it", he really could have been "in the middle" sometimes when it comes to these things its hard not to be indecisive.

If you still like him, and I'm sure you miss him, call him and explain your feelings---even if it goes to his voicemail leave a long message. Brace yourself for anything offensive he may say--but don't be offensive towards him, just stay calm and say what you mean.

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Ok I need help deciding something....me and b.f broke up after 6 months well i think we did, and i cant tell who broke up with who...so heres how it went...

the night b4 we had a fight..so the next morning i get a text asking.."so is this is? is it over?" i answered only if you want it to be. and then i called him later and we spoke and i asked him to you want to break up and he was like "i dunno im in the middle" and i was like "you cant be in the middle you either want to or not" and i was like wats wrong? and he said he was bored...so i said well theres ur answer..lets just end it..there was a pause from him and then he said ok. and then we said goodbye...

i have no idea who really broke up with who? wat do you think..?

Sounds to me that it was mutual. However, (as much as I know you don't want to hear this) you also pushed him over the edge by saying "You can't be in the midd...lets just end it", he really could have been "in the middle" sometimes when it comes to these things its hard not to be indecisive.

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my boyfriend dumped me after a year of seein eachother Every single day and i spend all my time with him he was there for me wen no1 else was wen i lost all my friends and because wen we fight i take it too far he just had to dump me i begged for another chance but he said no i feel so sick im achining i miss him so much i see him everyday so its soo hard not to see him from now on i dont want to see him with another girl to thats going to make things harder please help because no1 is giving me good advice to stop the pain i love this boy i told him EVERYTHING and now its all over he dont want anything to do with me help!

Judging from your spelling/grammar errors (no offense) I doubt that you are old enough to know what true love is, or at least mature enough to have a REAL relationship. You will find someone new, break ups are meant to happen, you have to go through these things in order to have a mature relationship later on.

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My bf didn't kiss me for a long time because he was nervous and didn't want to do anything wrong. We finally did, and it was great since I care about him but otherwise, I didn't really like it. I don't really know how to describe what I didn't like. He opens mouths mouth too much and it's slobbery and wet. Kind of passionate, but wiping off my mouth afterward is definetly not. It reminds he of getting licked by a dog or something. Yuck... I don't know what to do because we've kissed several times since that and they all seem the same. Should I say anything? I don't want to hurt his feelings because I know how scared he is of doing "wrong". Please help!!! I care about him so I don't want kissing, a display of affection, to be what gives us problems. That just seems silly to me.

Tell him you want to play a game. Make him close his eyes and do whatever you do as exact as possible. Kiss him the way you want him to kiss you, if he does it his sloppy way tell him thats not how you did it. He'll be more conscious about it there after.

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I'm 17. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. He's 24, and things couldn't be better. One problem. He's married to another woman. I had NO idea he was married when we got together 4 months ago. Had I known then what I know now, I wouldn't have ever kept up contact with him. So, I know, but he doesn't know I know. And I'm guessing the wife has NO idea about his infedility. I've known this for about two weeks. I taped us "in the act", in case I ever needed proof.



Question is: how should I go about handling this?

Should I bring it up to HIM first?

Should I somehow tell his WIFE? And if you think I should do that, in what form of communication do you think would be best?

Do you think I should just end the relationship suddenly without mentioning it to him, and then stay the hell away, or what?



I would like to know if MY significant other were up to no good. I know it's not so much my business, but I would have trouble living with myself knowing I kept such a drastic secret from a woman who has every right to know. :(

Can you really trust a guy that wouldn't even tell you he's married? You should inform his wife that hes been seeing you...its not fair for her to be left in the dark about it. Depending on how close you are to eighteen maybe you should wait a little longer to tell anyone. You definitely need to hint around the subject when talking to this guy see what he says.
-Nina

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What is the best possible way, form, time, and place to ask a girl to be your girlfriend? Well, maybe not the BEST, but a pretty good way. I have a feeling that this girl I know and talk to a lot likes me, and I like her. I'm 15/M, and she's 14/F. Thanks! ^^

If you know her pretty well, buy her a flower with a note attatched (I know its cheesy...) (or even a stuffed animal!) We, (girls) love this sorta thing. Make sure you include a couple of things that you really like about her in the note...but try not to sound obsessed.
-Nina

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okay well i have a bf and hes gone for about 2 weeks so i wont be able to see him and i barley get to talk to him. but the thing is wen hes not gone we dont talk (well barley anyway)) and the thing is im started to like this other guy. and i dont want to but then again i do becuz hes not shy unlike my bf and idk what to do im so confused right now. please help me.

If you and your boyfriend barely talk--and yet you can talk to this other guy freely who do you think you are more COMPATIBLE with? Its important to date people you can really talk to for hours on end. If I were you I would try to get out of your current relationship as quick as possible (to avoid any avoidable extra hurt feelings) and get to know this other boy better.
I hope I helped.
-Nina (:

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today is my one month anniversary and i want ot spend time with my boyfriend but im not allowed to hang out during the week. so should i sneak out or wait to the weekend to come? what would you do? i rate 5s

thanks for helping
kriddle06 :)

*Please do not take offense to this(many people on here would...)* But, it is only your one month anniversary. Its not worth sneaking out---now if it was your six month or year anniversary that would be understandable. Do something extra special this weekend instead.

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On sunda is my boyfriends little sisters birthday party. It will be the first time I have ever met his parents! I want them to know I am a really nice girl and that I love there son alot. What kind of things can I do to show them that I am really nice and that I will treat there son well. I love him and I want to be with him for ever!

Well for one, you don't want to be TOO nice, parents especially can see right through that. As nervous as you are you really do just have to be yourself. Tell them how much you enjoy being around their son and that they have done a good job raising him--they would really appreciate hearing that.
-Nina

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My boyfriends birthday is coming up and I have no clue what to get him! I've asked him for some ideas but he doesn't give me any good ones. Any Ideas????

Well what I did for my boyfriend (out of the blue) was I got one of those small "treasure chest" from an arts and crafts store. Then I cut paper into about 100 small rectangles and wrote memories/ reasons I love him. Baking him a cake or batch of cookies could never hurt either (:
-Nina

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At what age is it appropiate for a person to have sex? Ss we get older the standerds seem to be dropping. I just read a question by a thirteen-year-old asking if she should get on "the pill" if she has had sex. Since when is that what is on a 13-year-olds mind?

Its not a set age...its when you are ready. When I say ready I mean you don't have any doubts about it in your mind. As soon as you hit puberty your hormones start going crazy. (to answer your question about the thirteen year old) Remember, sex should be about love--you should be involved with someone for awhile before you start.
However, I don't think any thirteen year old is old enough to make that decision.

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Hey! Cute column! Haha, anyway, I was wondering what I should get the guy I like for his birthday? First let me tell you a little about our relationship. We met in science this year when he transferred into that class. He sits behind me and we talk whenever it wont crash with our learning. He meets me in the halls so we can hug and talk. He walks me to science sometimes, and if I am cold he gives me his jacket. I think he might like me and I know I like him, and I want to get him a present that says "I like you" but not in a huge way. I am also old-fashioned and dont think that girls should ask out guys or be the first to say that they like them. I want to get him a teddy bear and some candy, but it was just Halloween so he probably already has a bunch of candy. I really want to show him that I remembered that it was his birthday. Please help!

You know the saying "Food is the way to a man's heart"? Try baking him a cake or cookies..that shows "hey, I remembered your birthday...and you do mean SOMETHING to me (:"
Goodluck!
-Nina

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okay, what should I do...I really like this girl and she says she likes me also but she has a boyfriend. We hang out quite and lot and have the best time because we are practically best friends. I want to stop liking her but I know the only way to do that is to stop talkin to her because if I do that makes me only liek her more. I tried doing this already but she got really upset and really sad and said it hurt her most out of anything, knowing she was loosing me...I dont know what to do...because we are such close friends and I really do love her

She is already in a relationship. If she cared enough she would leave the other guy for you. Don't trust her (believe me I"m a girl...I know how we think!) Don't let her think of you as a "fall back".

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I need major help , im 15 f dc and i'm just
confused about my love life. My boyfriend told me that he loves me but now i don't think he means it. The reason why is because i haven't talked him in about 7 weeks. i talked him like twice and all he had to say was whats up and then he would leave out of nowhere with out saying goodbye or what not. It's starting to get fustrating. He didn't tell me he was going on vacation or anything and when ever i try to talk to him its like he has nothing to say. Now im really wondering if he has another girlfriend or something ... i mean could it be true or what?

please i am asking for your advice. please help me.

He's not worth it. If he doesn't even inform you that hes going on vacation...than how can you trust him? If he doesn't have much to say and its basically just silence the whole time theres not much of a connection between you two. If you just end things now, you'll find someone new sooner.
-Nina

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f/14....is it normal to get "wet" when your boyfriend makes out with you? a little bit of touching below the neck but not past the stomach?

Yes, its perfectly normal. Especially at this age when your hormones start going crazy.

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WHat if the whole skool find out that your pregnant. But you didn't want errybody to know. You told the one person you thought you could trust, and they told. What do I do? Should I deney it or should I say something to that person I told?

Approach the person you told and ask them about it before pointing any fingers. Denying it isn't exactly going to help due to the fact its useless to try and hide after the first couple of months. As I said before, you need to discuss it with the person you told more than anything.
P.S. If people at school start tormenting you about it they are not worth the stress, you will find that you most likely have true friends you never knew you had--the people that accept you for your mistakes and won't judge you on this one factor.
Goodluck,
Nina

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okay, so i like a guy and i think he likes me back. the only problem is that there's this girl at my school who's his ex-girlfriend and they've been though a lot, and also just recently broken up. the girl isn't really my friend, but sort of a "friend of a friend". so i don't know whether to keep liking the guy, or to forget about it because he might be "off-limits". i'm really confused, please help!

[i give 5's for good answers, thanks]
by the way, i'm in junior high.

You can't really help if you like him, and its alright if you keep on! You just need to wait a little bit before trying to pursue an actual relationship. Considering they had put eachother through alot and just recently broken up, he needs time to get himself together again. For the time being get to know him even better and be there for him (:

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what if your boyfriend does not know your kissing his best friend and me and his friend act wierd around him

You SHOULDN'T be kissing his best friend in the first place (or anyone besides him for that matter!) You need to tell him and deal with the consequences.

Ok so I tell you the truth and you rate me a "1" and tell me "Youre fucking crazy, you need to get killed, I"m serious!"?? wow you're real mature.

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hey everoyne im 13 and i will be going to a party this saturday now therfe will be palying spin the bottle but i have never palyed before! how do u kiss? i know how you paly just not howu kiss the gyts, im nerovus i dont wnana mess up!

You don't need to be playing "Spin the Bottle" at the age of 13. Save your first real kiss for someone you truly care about...as in wait until you have a boyfriend you really care about.
-Nina

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