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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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There is a 50/50 chance. But you're gonna have to wait and see.
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So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
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All of what you're doing is NOT wrong if he feels the same way that you feel about him. As long as he feels the same way for you then I believe that you should take it slow and do your best till he finally move to the US or UK.
But if he doesn't feel the same way, then why waste your energy? It takes two people to make a relationship work. So, if you're the only one who has feelings for him whilst he doesn't feel anything for you, then it'll be just a waste of your time.
But talk to him about it. See if he feels the same about you. Good luck :)
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As well as other meet & fuck websites & zoosk. We've been together over 3 years & I love him so much idk what to do. His family means more to me than my own, & I really can't see him cheating. Do you think it's possible he could be part of these websites without actually going though with it? (link)
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The only way you\'ll find out is if you ask him.
It COULD be that someone is using his picture. Who knows?
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now. I'm 19 and he is 24. When me and him first got together I was 17 and he was 22 and we couldn't keep our hands off each other and he was always texting me and calling me and telling me how beautiful I am and we were always excited to see each other. He is also the only guy I've been with sexually. Now that we live on our own and have a 9 month old son he doesn't do everything he used to and he doesn't seem happy to see me anymore and we only have sex once a month. Is this normal? I feel unwanted and unloved:( I really wanna get back to the way me n him were before:/ please help. (link)
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Marriage and having a child changes everything, love.
From my own experience, you can\'t change it.
I feel the same way too, and it hurts deeply, but there\'s nothing I can do. Things change.
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What do you do when your significant other is kind of a jerk but knows it and is depressed about it and trying to change?
My boyfriend is a complicated person. He is extremely smart, logical and straightforward. He is loyal, honest, and fair. But these qualities make him terrible with people and relationships. He just doesn't get niceties, emotions, or how to relate with people. He is kind of dry and very serious. He can't pretend to enjoy something is he doesn't.
This brings me to my problem. He has slowly been losing his friends because he's been depressed and realized that people don't like him because of the way he is. Everyone is put off by his nature and they think he always has a stick up his butt. I don't know what to do because to me he opens up about how much he doesn't want to be the way he is but he just doesn't understand/trust/believe in people. He's always gotten bad reactions from them. He is extremely afraid of ending up alone and clings to me because I'm the only one who understands.
Slowly my friends started noticing this and I've noticed they contact me less to hangout. It was minimal and I tried to ignore it until the other day they told me I wasn't allowed to invite him to hang out with them because they don't want him there.
I don't know what to do. I know he has issues but he is a good person that just doesn't get people. He is not disrespectful or rude or anything. I feel bad leaving him because I know he's good but I feel like I am losing all my friends because I'm choosing to stay with him.
I don't know what to do. They do understand he's difficult but it's not their problem to stick by him or me until he changes. I'm stuck. Help? (link)
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I\'ve always been a firm believer that true friends would ALWAYS be there and have your back no matter the situation. Friends just don\'t leave each other when their friendship is hard or get hard to be around each other. Maybe you both need new friends.
I can understand where your boyfriend is coming from because I too can be honest to the point of being rude, but I have a humor and I can joke around. And trust me, no one likes to be around whose always telling it like how it is. Most people can\'t take the truth, but if he doesn\'t want to be lonely then he needs to change. How? It\'ll take time. He just can\'t change within a day.
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I was seeing this guy mostly on and sometime off for about 7 months. At first he seemed like the perfect boyfriend, but then his ex interrupted our picture. The thing is, he has a daughter with her, who is adorable I may add. His daughter is going to be 3 this year and they basically are in a custody battle over her because the Mom would rather party then raise her daughter and though he works full time, he says if he got custody he would make it work so he's with his daughter even more than he is now (everyday after work). He's a great father at 27, his ex is 19 right now and I'm 22. See, the only trouble is that when he sees his ex, his attitude completely changes for the negative... but he doesn't realize it, which caused little disagreements between us and now we've stopped talking because I know I can't fix whatever is going on between his ex and him. I'm not saying I've tried to fix their situation as that is purely between them and I can only be supportive, but he never wants to talk about it.. he'd rather be bitter. So now we are in limbo with eachother and I found out I'm pregnant. I have never believed in abortions, so I am keeping it. He once told me if I got pregnant he would support us 101% like his current daughter but now I'm not so sure and he may have deleted my number. I was thinking I might wait until I know I won't miscarry to tell him since I have some health issues. Part of me says he'll be excited to be a Dad again and the other part... (link)
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In most relationship where it didn\'t end well, there ARE going to be bitter feelings when you see each other or hear about each other. That\'s normal.
But he shouldn\'t be bitter towards you. You\'re not the reason why he\'s bitter, so he should bring it out on his ex.
Sweety, listen to me. No matter what he\'s going through right now. Either hell or not, he DESERVES to know that you\'re pregnant. It takes two people in the act of making a child. So, he should know. Don\'t hesitate to tell him due to his problems with his ex. If you do, the one whose going to be miserable is you. Do yourself and the baby a favor and TELL HIM.
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Hi, I'm 19/F. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years now but our relationship has been kind of private due to my parents. They are not allowing me to start dating until I get at least a bachelors degree but I love my boyfriends so much. He wants me to tell my parents about us so do I but I'm scared that they'll get mad and start drama. His mother knows about us and I just want to be able to tell my parents about anything. What should I do? (link)
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It shouldn\'t always matter what your parents say. When you love someone, you fight for them.
Yes, I understand that your parents care for you, but is it really call caring if you do what they say and it breaks your heart? They wouldn\'t want to see you upset. You have to make them understand that you\'re in love with him. And there\'s nothing that can tear you two apart. And if you two shall ever part it is because of you two, not anyone else.
I was in the same situation as you are in now. I fought against my parents to be with him, but you know, sometimes parents know best, but that was in MY case. Even if you do fight and in the end, it didn\'t turn out the way you wanted, at least you could say you tried and it made you stronger.
Never give up on your love because of other people.
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Hey guys, there is this guy, named Matt. And he is really shy, but he talks to me online all the time. He seems really funny and nice, and I want to be friends with him. He normally takes the intiative to message me. Today was the first time we talked in person, face-to-face. I was the one who talked the most, and he seemed like he didnt want to talk to me even though he told me he wanted to. Now i'm really confused... he says online that he wants to be friends, and that he likes me and stuff, but in person he hardly talks.
1) Is this like a shy-flirting thing?
2) What should I do about his shyness?
3) also, i've heard from many people that he has a crush on me... he's really outgoing yet he doesnt talk a lot.
Thanks for the help guys. :) (link)
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When two people meet for the first time, of course they\'re going to be shy. I mean, if you\'re not that kind of person, then props to you, but most people I know and met for the first time, the majority was very shy.
I think you just need to give it time. You two only met once, meet a couple more times and see where it go from there.
You can try to make him open up to you. He needs to feel comfortable around you.
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I had sex with Nathan after not seeing him since I was four yreas old he's a friend of,y older brothers . He seems t
He might like me but I know I like him more after having sex with him he doesn't really cuddle and I told him about it in fb not in a nagging manner or at least I don't think I did and he just read the message with no response which he might wait unilateral were both online ugh what the heck lol.....I'm a 21 yr old female and he's a 29 yr old male. (link)
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Well, obviously if he isn't responding, then it means he doesn't feel the same way about you. It only makes sense. If he DOES feel the same way, then he would of wrote back.
I know this might sound harsh, but I think he just wanted sex from you, nothing more and nothing less.
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Hi I'm Bhuvana from India. I have a caring lovable boyfriend. My problem is he is too much caring.Its a kind of possessiveness. I'm unable to sacrifice many things for him as he do to me. My nature is to be independent. But he says he is making me to be independent but I'm unable to feel that. Whatever I do casually he is makng complaints out of it and begging me to change that quality. He is ready to change anything for me but I'm unable to do it.At the same time I'm unable to leave him.He is such a nice guy ever. He is suffering a lot because of me but I'm unable to sacrifice my independence. He makes complains if I speak to other boys. He always intend to see my call logs in my mobile. If I ask for, he is saying he is doing everything casually. How should I take this? Moreover, he is getting upset because of me since I'm not satisfying his expectations in talking something dirty like all tat stuffs. I help him in that but he is expecting all that often with which I'm getting irritated. How to deal with this? I have asked for a big gap for this relationship. But its being very hard to handle this gap for both of us. At the same time we are not able to live happily if we are together. Misunderstandings! I'm scared he will find other person who suits his character if I have this gap between us. I'm helpless. Need advice! (link)
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It sounds like he's just being possessive. And that is never a good sign.
A good man wouldn't do that to you. A real man knows what independence is and they can always tell when a woman is independent. Your boyfriend does not seem like that at all.
Why is he trying to change you when at the same time he wants you to be independent and you ARE? That just doesn't make sense.
You need to have a talk with him and make him understand where you're coming from with your independence.
I am the same way, I am independent and I don't like anyone trying to take my freedom away from me, especially doing the things that I want to do.
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I'm having a hard time right now. There are things that are changing in my family environment and now things are changing in my relationships.
There's this guy. We dated when I was 17 years old. We went on and off when I was 19 years old, we weren't really seeing anybody in between those times. Our on and offs were pretty much him saying that he wanted to move on, and three days later he'd come back. We were going through a rough patch of him telling me to move on and then coming back asking me to stay. We fought constantly over the past 4 years... But recently, things got better. We stopped fighting. I thought because we've been through so much we don't fight as often anymore. When we get into an argument, we apologize and we automatically know what to do and we make up within those 1-3 hours. I thought things were going well.
I saw him two days ago and he seemed fine... But after I got out of the car things changed. He avoided me, he barely spoke to me, etc. I told him instead of keeping me in the dark, what was going on, he said he didn't want to "continue this complicated relationship anymore" and that he wanted to "start moving on" again... Since he was planning on moving to Japan.
I hate it when he says that. About Japan, he told me these news sometime last year. He told me he wanted to move to Japan for a couple of years and work for a company before he goes off to medical school because after medical school, he would not get a chance to go. I was in denial.
For the past year I was trying to believe what other people told me. The people that I trust the most and has a pretty good grasp about him, believe that he won't go and that it's just a dream that he has since he has this habit of running away from his problems and trying to escape reality and if he did move, he'd only be there for a month because it's quite pricey and the work environment there is terrible. His friends told me that they don't know what he's going to do, and that maybe he's doing it now because he feels like this is the only time to do it and that he will be back for medical school. Others? They say they don't know him well enough to tell whether or not if he's going to go.
To be honest, I've been having a hard time grasping onto that idea. The more he talks about it, the more he tells people, the longer time passes, it makes it hard for me to try to believe he's not going because I don't want him to. And I feel selfish thinking and hoping he wont go.
I've been needing the reassurance that he won't go but I feel more sad when the time may come.
I fear that if he goes, what if he finds someone else? What if things do work out there and he's there for years? To even think about that, it scares me and worries me. His decision on going makes me feel like I'm not important enough for him to stay and he's leaving me behind instead.
What am i going to do? I've been trying to be the best for him because i want him to stay but it comes off as not enough. Do you really think he's not going to go at this point or is it still a dream he has to escape medical school? (link)
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Hard truth, if he does go, he'll definitely find someone else. Why? He's already wanting to leave the "Complicated relationship" with you. So, why wouldn't he move on and find someone else? You see where I'm coming from?
And if it's his "Dream" to go to Japan, he's most likely going to go. If he feels that the time is now, then I don't think anything would stop him. But hey, who knows?
To be honest, I think you should just let him go. What kind of man says that he wants to break up, then come back a few days later only to tell you that he was wrong and you two should be together? Only idiots do stupid things like that.
Love yourself. You don't need any man to love you. Yes, we all need love, but his kind of love? Nah, I'll pass any day.
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Okay so first of all im 15 and let's say my ex is tom(15) and my new boyfriend is chad(16).
So tom and I dated like a little over a year ago and our relationship didn't end too swell. We had lots of fun but every time he'd try to move farther with me in the relationship I would say no and yes he respected that. But the thing is I was an 8th grader and he was a freshman at the time and our schools were different but we saw each other every weekend and sometimes during the week. Then all of a sudden 3 weeks into our relationship he dumped me over a text saying that he can't do the long distance? Lol it wasn't even long distance? We lived like a mile away from each other...it took me awhile to get over him because he was the first guy I actually truly liked. Oh and he has been the first and only guy to ever dump me. Then last summer I met a guy through a friend and we talked and we have been dating for almost 11 months now. We are very serious with each other and tell each other everything and very open but we've never had the chance to meet face to face yet. But this summer we are going to see each other. So this past 11 months its been long distance with Skype and texting and phone calls. So my dilema is I love chad but tom has never fully left the back of my head...I feel like a horrible girlfriend just thinking about tom. Because chad is so perfect for me we hardly ever argue or anything. I want to be with chad I love him (whatever love is at this age) but tom I find myself thinking about.. is this because chad and I haven't been together yet? (Kiss, and hug etc) and the last guy I was with was Tom. Tom and I text sometimes out of the blue but completely as friends, he trys to flirt but I stop it. I want to be with chad once again. I just dont know why I keep thinking about tom. How do I stop it? Oh and tom and I have not spoke of the breakup since it happened. (link)
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You can't possibly stop thinking about someone whose in your head. It just doesn't work that way.
I think that you haven't fully let Tom go yet. If you did, you wouldn't be thinking about him. And sorry, but if you can't possibly be with another guy if you're still thinking about someone else.
Why be with someone, if he is not the one in you're thinking of and why think of someone whose no longer in your life?
I think you should think things through before you make a move.
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I met the guy through some friends, let's call him A. We began talking for a year, but we never met privately. We would always bump in to each other and talk that way, but never meet personally on our own. Through the year of speaking, we stopped for almost 3 months, and in that 3 months, I got myself in to a relationship with a guy who I were close with. A came back in to my life and I decided to give it another go, then we stopped talking again, and I met a guy who I was interested In. Again, A came back and I decided to give it another go. Whilst I was on these dates and in another relationship, I still really cared for A, he was still my first thought of every morning. Anyway, when he came back, we decided to give it a go in to an official relationship, our first 2 months of our relationship was amazing, pure love everywhere, we were great together and then the arguments started again, I began ending us every time we argued, now we have been together for 6 months and this past month has been stressful, we argue over the stupid of things and we haven't been together for almost one month now, but we do text sometimes. I feel like I've pushed him away because of the fact we kept arguing and I kept ending us. He knows he has me wrapped around his finger and I'm guilty of that, no matter how long he goes without calling or texting me, he knows I'll always be there. I want to re kindle our relationship, I want it to be like it was at the start, but I don't know how to. He called last night after 1 week of not talking and he was being cold, he was asking if I'd met anyone yet. I told him I want to move on and I'd appreciate it if he didn't text me, take care and whatever else and all he said was ok, and that was it. Does anyone have any suggestions or personal experience they'd like to share? (link)
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First, it's not just YOUR fault. In a relationship it takes two people to start and ruin a relationship.
Well, why did you keep ending the relationship when the road was tough? It's not going to get any easier and you're definitely not escaping by breaking it off. I think that as a couple, no matter how hard the relationship gets, you guys should always fight and pull through. It actually brings couples closer.
I think that you two should try to work something out. And if it doesn't workout, then you're just going to have to let go. Sometimes, the things we wish to last forever doesn't last, but that doesn't mean that we're bound to not have great things in life. Sometimes, you have to let go so better things can come.
Good luck on trying to workout on the relationship. I hope all goes well. :)
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I'm 19, female and my ex boyfriend is 20, male. We were together for over 2 years.
He broke up with me a couple weeks ago. In the moment he said it was because he didn't feel the same. He's not very good at communicating, so our relationship was more difficult than it should have been because he couldn't really express what he was thinking.
So we didn't talk for awhile after he had broken up with me. Then we hung out, got some food and talked. He said he was sorry for the way he did it, apologized for not being able to tell me what was going on, ect.
He told me he was stressed and is confused about our relationship. Not that he doesn't care about me anymore, but our relationship had some pretty stressful moments. So we went over and talked through them, figured out where we both went wrong in handling certain situations but in the end he said the relationship was unhealthy.
So at this point, I'm really not sure what to do. We talked about getting back together, giving it more time. But then he said he still doesn't know yet.
So I don't want to wait around because who knows how long, or even if he'll actually want to get back together. I did reflect on whether or not these problems we had can be fixed. I do believe he cares about me. I know he just doesn't want to have the fights we had before. So I've been getting advice from people on how to handle the certain situations we've been having problems in.
To be honest, I'm scared of asking him. If he says no, I'll be upset of course. But if he keeps telling me I don't know, then what do I do? Just let him go and move on? I'm thinking of giving it a couple weeks till we talk again. Good idea or just wait till the next time he contacts me?
I talked to my dad about it. He told me he's a good guy and all that, but if he can't figure out what he wants in two or three weeks, then don't wait around.
I've never been in a situation like this. I've dated quite a bit before him, but was never broken up with. I always ended the relationship or the "talking". He truly is a good guy, just a very confused good guy...he has good qualities and is overall just amazing. Even though I was mad at him for how he handled the break up, I can't really talk trash about him. So hopefully that helps showing you how I feel about him.
Just any advice at all would be appreciated. Sorry it was long. (link)
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He DOES seem like he is confused.
Maybe you should wait for a week or so and see what it is that he really wants. I mean c'mon, if he wanted to be with you, the answer would of been clear. Usually when people don't know what they want in a relationship anymore, that is a sign that they're giving up.
So, I guess you have to wait and see. Don't wait too long though.
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I was badly burned in an accident. Im recovering but I have noticed that I miss a guy greatly. We were friends and started getting in a relationship but it ended before it started. Its been years but I think we should give it a shot. But we mainly talk in texts. And when I dont get a reply I get really anxious and sad. I feel like its unhealthy.could it be that I need some sort of comforting. I dont want to get attached. Any advice? (link)
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First off, I'm sorry to hear about the accident. I hope everything goes well for you.
Well, to start, if this is a guy who you liked years ago, then I think you shouldn't bother. Everyone at one point in time will eventually miss someone in their past, but that doesn't mean we should do something about it. It'll eventually go away.
It really is unhealthy. We're supposed to be focused on the future, not the past. If he was meant to be in your life, he wouldn't be in the past.
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I have a crush on this boy, but recently I found out he likes someone else. At first,I told myself I'll find someone else, and try to forget about him. But I can't seem to find another boy to replace him, and no matter how much I try to prevent it,I still have some feelings. How can I get over my first love? (link)
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You can't do anything to get over him. It doesn't work that way. Time heals all. Time is the answer.
It sucks, but that's the way it is.
When you think about him, just go do something you love doing. Don't force yourself to forget about him though. You can't erase the things in your head.
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I've liked this guy for a few months and I've finally gotten up the courage to get his number. When I asked him for it (on Wednesday) he blushed and while telling me he forgot it for a second then remembered. I texted him on Thursday (today is Saturday) and I still haven't gotten a response. He talked to me in the hallways on Friday and walked me to my next class which is weird since we haven't talked much since school started. So anyways, since he hasn't responded, I don't know what to do because it doesn't seem like he's ignoring me purposely and I don't think he'd purposely give me a fake number. He either: 1. Got his phone taken away (I asked him for his number while he was on his way to detention so that's a possibility) 2. Accidentally gave me the wrong number 3. Is doing some psychological thing and waiting awhile to text me back.
I don't know if I should ask him if he have me the wrong number (I'd wait until maybe next Wednesday) or if I should wait it out. If I do ask him how would I do it?
Sorry if this is confusing!
I'm a female, junior in highschool if that's any help! He's the same age as me. (link)
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Wait ... Did he ever texted you back? Or you just never had a reply from him?
Maybe he didn't get it, or maybe he didn't see it? It could be anything. Ask him.
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So there is this boy at school who I would say is fairly shy around girls and I'm not sure whether he likes me or not (I like him a lot..). Basically I always catch him subtly looking in my direction and staring at me when he thinks I can't see. He also kind of comes over to stand with me when we're waiting to go into a lesson. About 2 months agp he asked me to go to the prom with him (I said yes) but apparently it took him about three weeks to pluck up the courage to ask. His friends tease him about me and him an awful lot and say that we're a good couple and make heart shapes at us.. Whenever this happens he gets annoyed with them and calls them things which are not very nice. I don't know if he likes me because he's never asked for my number, we don't hang out outside of school (although his friends have invited me to go to the cinema with them) and recently he's stopped replying to facebook messages I send him :( I'm confused as I think I'm sending pretty clear signs that I like him and I'm not sure what to do now? (link)
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Maybe he calls them names because they're making him nervous around you. I've seen that happen a lot.
Obviously, he had some sort of feelings for you, since he DID asked you out to the prom, but for him to not reply back to your messages? Hm? You should talk with him face to face. That way, he can't ignore it. You need answers, so ask him for the truth.
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Everyone always assumes that I'm married or have a boyfriend. When I tell them I'm single they are so surprised like 'why are you single' and I just say i dont know. To be honest im 26 years old and Ive never had a real serious relationship. When ever i am interested in a guy I either get rejected or something else happens where it doesnt work out. So it always surprises me when people assume im taken because of all of the bad luck ive experienced. And if all these people assume this does this means that they are guys that like me but wont approach me because they think I'm unavailable? What do you think? (link)
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From past experiences, whenever guys think that I am in a relationship, they're interested. So, maybe it could be the same way with you.
But don't worry about past experiences, someone special will come to you. :)
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13/f (Ik Im young, but I have been through a lot for a 13 year old. This is just a part)
So over the summer me and my crush had a summer romance, we dated for about 2 and a half months then since we didn't go to the same school he broke up with me just saying we should take a break and that it might be the biggest mistake he has ever made. So then about 2 weeks later one of my guy friends asked me out and I said yes but I couldn't help feeling like he deserved better because I was still heartbroken over my ex. So I told my bf about this and he understood where I was coming from so we broke up. And about a month after that I was doing pretty good. But one day I was helping my friend after a breakup and I was trying to help him get over his ex and I kept mentioning my lost love (ex 1) like I got over him u can get over her.. Well.. I realize Im not over him and I miss him a lot. My heart is still in ashes and I don't know how to fix it and I dont want to talk to him about it because Im afraid he doesn't feel the same way even though he told me it might be the biggest mistake ever. I want to be someone's special someone- some of my friends are in there first relationship and it is already like 7 months and I wish it worked out so well with me. I just want to be in his arms and be together with him. He was my first kiss and the first one I said I love you too so he is super special to me. What do I do? Could he still like me? Should I talk to him? Any advice in general about how to get my life together? (link)
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The first one is always the hardest.
I know you don't want to hear this right now, but you need to let him go. Your both still young, you don't know what you want just yet, especially him, but guys are always like that.
My advice to you is, don't go out with someone when you know that deep in your heart, you still have feelings for your ex. You're just hurting the person you're going out with and you're more miserable.
Time will heal everything. If there was a way to make anyone's life better, it's Time.
I know that when I'm sad, I do something that makes me happy.
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