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Why does everyone assume I have a boyfriend?
Everyone always assumes that I'm married or have a boyfriend. When I tell them I'm single they are so surprised like 'why are you single' and I just say i dont know. To be honest im 26 years old and Ive never had a real serious relationship. When ever i am interested in a guy I either get rejected or something else happens where it doesnt work out. So it always surprises me when people assume im taken because of all of the bad luck ive experienced. And if all these people assume this does this means that they are guys that like me but wont approach me because they think I'm unavailable? What do you think?
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From past experiences, whenever guys think that I am in a relationship, they're interested. So, maybe it could be the same way with you.
But don't worry about past experiences, someone special will come to you. :)
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The fact that people assume you're married tells me a bit about you, still there is information missing that I would need to really answer your question. For instance what career field do you work in. Certain career field are a turn off to the opposite sex.
For instance; people who work in the emergency service field. Police, Paramedic/firefighters, these career fields take a special kind of person to be with them due to the inherent danger of the work. Few people can live with sending their spouse off to work in the morning knowing that there is a greater chance of them not coming home again then say a plumber or accountant.
Then for women there is still the double standard and the glass ceiling to contend with. The fact that people assume you are married tells me you are a very pretty young lady who should be able to attract any young man she pleases. IF you are not only beautiful but well educated and have a high powered high paying position. This is where that double standard, caveman mentality comes in. A great many men cannot deal with a women earning more than they do; they have to be the breadwinner or at least the senior breadwinner.
These are just a couple of reason that I can think of as to why you might be having trouble with men. Beauty and sex only go so far in a relationship. At some point you need to communicate and it is at this point you find you have nothing in common.
My son is an emergency service provider being a Paramedic/Firefighter. He has no trouble attracting women, keeping them is another story. As I said when it is time to get serious the stumbling block is do they really want to be with someone who may leave in the morning and not come home again.
I suggest you do as I have suggested he do. Try a good dating service, especially if you are in a powerful career field. The dating service cuts out the awkward part of dating where you feel each other out to find out if a relationship is possible. If you have both been honest in your bio's as to who you are and what you are looking for in a significant other or spouse then it works more times than not.
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