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How can I rekindle my relationship?
I met the guy through some friends, let's call him A. We began talking for a year, but we never met privately. We would always bump in to each other and talk that way, but never meet personally on our own. Through the year of speaking, we stopped for almost 3 months, and in that 3 months, I got myself in to a relationship with a guy who I were close with. A came back in to my life and I decided to give it another go, then we stopped talking again, and I met a guy who I was interested In. Again, A came back and I decided to give it another go. Whilst I was on these dates and in another relationship, I still really cared for A, he was still my first thought of every morning. Anyway, when he came back, we decided to give it a go in to an official relationship, our first 2 months of our relationship was amazing, pure love everywhere, we were great together and then the arguments started again, I began ending us every time we argued, now we have been together for 6 months and this past month has been stressful, we argue over the stupid of things and we haven't been together for almost one month now, but we do text sometimes. I feel like I've pushed him away because of the fact we kept arguing and I kept ending us. He knows he has me wrapped around his finger and I'm guilty of that, no matter how long he goes without calling or texting me, he knows I'll always be there. I want to re kindle our relationship, I want it to be like it was at the start, but I don't know how to. He called last night after 1 week of not talking and he was being cold, he was asking if I'd met anyone yet. I told him I want to move on and I'd appreciate it if he didn't text me, take care and whatever else and all he said was ok, and that was it. Does anyone have any suggestions or personal experience they'd like to share?
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"I told him I want to move on and I'd appreciate it if he didn't text me, take care and whatever else and all he said was ok, and that was it."
And you want to rekindle this relationship? It's over. Over with a capital O.
You say that he has you wrapped around his finger, but that's not what I'm reading. What I'm reading is that you go from one relationship to another, and in between times this guy is your fallback guy. He's not 'A', he's your plan 'B'. Maybe what's going on is that he's worked it out.
But it doesn't matter. You don't come back from stress and stupid arguments unless something external is keeping you together.
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It sounds to me that you really aren't sure what you want. First thing you need to do is decide if he is worth your time and effort or not and stick with it. He can probably tell that nothing is going to last very long after all of these break ups and rekindlings. You said you loved him, if you still do and he is still the person you originally fell in love with I say give it a shot. But please don't give him all the power to control your emotions because then he will likely play with your head. You need to be your own independent person and not let him think you will do whatever he wants, you are doing it because it's what you want. I don't understand why you told him to stop talking to you but if you want a chance at keeping the two of you together you need to also stop with the back and forth confusion. I would assume he's as confused as you are and maybe doesn't want to deal with the drama that seems to inevitably come up. Remember it takes two to argue, and that arguments happen in every relationship so it's just that you'll need to decide if he's the one you're willing to argue for or if he's just wasting your time. A lot of people have that person they are back and forth about but eventually you two need to decide if together is better or worse for you. If you're happiest with him, give it you're all, and if you're not or the least bit interested in someone else then he is not your one true love. You can always just remain friends and if things being you back together in the future after trying with new people for a while then dive back in when you're both older and more experienced with the situation. And if you're friendship dies in the time of you two exploring your options then neither of you were who the other should spend their life with.
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First, it's not just YOUR fault. In a relationship it takes two people to start and ruin a relationship.
Well, why did you keep ending the relationship when the road was tough? It's not going to get any easier and you're definitely not escaping by breaking it off. I think that as a couple, no matter how hard the relationship gets, you guys should always fight and pull through. It actually brings couples closer.
I think that you two should try to work something out. And if it doesn't workout, then you're just going to have to let go. Sometimes, the things we wish to last forever doesn't last, but that doesn't mean that we're bound to not have great things in life. Sometimes, you have to let go so better things can come.
Good luck on trying to workout on the relationship. I hope all goes well. :)
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