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Im 14/f and I have a boyfriend. But the problem is im not really happy with my boyfriend and I think I understand why. When my boyfriend asked me out I didnt expect him to for another week and I was going to use that week to think of my decision, but my friend convinced him to ask me out earlier and I ended up saying yes because he was being really cute and sweet about it.

The other problem is I think I still like this one guy I have liked for a while. This guy however is one of my best friends, he tells me everything and it kills me when girls hurt him and he gets really upset, we have gotten into conversations where we would bring up the possibility of us dating, and after a few jokes we'd both always say we see eachother as such good friends that we can always joke around with and have fun with that we'd never date. Ive slept over at his house a few times but once again we are really good friends so that was why. About a week ago he told me that if I did ask him to this one formal (i told him i was thinking about it cause we were both dateless) that he wouldve definately said yes and for some reason that got me really mad cause I kind of blew my chance.

I dont understand why this is happening cause we are such good friends and he'd never be interested in me. Is there anyway I can convince myself to get over the other guy and try to learn to be happier with my boyfriend?

I can't promise that things will work out with your friend, but it sounds to me like you both like each other. If he does like you, ovbiously you wouldn't feel like he does right now because your in a relationship and he, as a really good friend, dosn't want to mess that up for you.

BUT REGARDLESS OF HIM

If you don't feel like you like your boyfriend in that way...that probably won't change and you really need to rethink that relationship. It's not fair to him not to.

good luck!

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k so I'm with this guy Cody but I'm so confused on if i like him or if i don't when I'm with him its kinda boring and i have kissed him like 4 times so should i be with him or should i break it off??

Well you havn't really given alot of information for me to work with...

but I mean if you're not happy when you're with him...
then don't be

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15.f
I need everyones opinion on this topic please.

would you go out with your ex boyfriends cousin? Or do you think it wouldn't be right? ....

Boys what would you do if your ex went out with your cousin?

Girls would you go out with your ex boyfriends cousin?

it depends on your current relationship with your ex. I mean, if yall are still good friends and there's no awkwardness...then maybe it could work. But I'd talk to him about it first...because it really is different for every ex couple

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ok well im stumped about christmas ideas...he isnt into much stuff.


i got an idea of what to get him
does this sound ok?
i was thinking a cute little teddy bear with a picture frame in the middle that will have a picture of us.
&&
also maybe a little gift basket with candies in it.
sound ok or no?

i feel bad tho because he's gonna be going all out and spending tons of money and i dont have a job so i dont got much.
PLEASE HELP :D

its sounds really cute
There's nothing wrong with not affording a big present...because, like you said..he isn't in to much stuff!lol

The picture frame idea is great, but you could also make a whole collage of pictures of the two of you!

I really think you're on a roll.....

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14/F

There's this one guy, Tyler. He's friends with a lot of my camp friends, who I see regularly. I talk to him online at least once a day, generally. We have great chemistry. We just fit together really well. He's like a puzzle piece that connects to me. I only met him once, and we didn't really talk then. It was at a party, and I was kind of shy. We just said 'hi' twice and left it at that. But I really really like him. I think about him constantly, and everytime I do, I have to smile. I can try to supress it, but I do it anyway. We're meeting up in a few weeks, and I absolutely can not wait.

But there's this girl, Kate. She's a friend of mine, and she knows him. She's really great. I kind of used to feel like I always had to act a certain way around her, to impress her, and I know other people who have said that too. But it's kind of stopping now, and we're getting closer. Being friends with her means a lot to me. And if we weren't great friends, I feel like I'd lose a lot of my other friends, too. She's kind of the leader of our camp group. Also, last year at camp, I wasn't really part of the popular group, but I was friends with all of them. I've been going to camp for the longest out of all of them except one. I even introduced it to two of them. And I always, always wanted to be part of that group. If I don't have Kate, I don't have anyone and once again, I won't be popular. This is my last summer at camp before I become a counselor, and I really want to be part of their group. Not even for that, but it just means a lot to me. But there's still the thing with losing friends if I don't have her.

The problem? I don't think she really "approves" of Tyler(when I say approve, I mean he's just not really cool enough for her. He's not into anything bad or anything like that; he's a good guy). I mean, she talks to him, but sometimes she'll say something about him(I usually don't let it slide though, I'll be like, "I don't know, he seems so sweet," or something). My other friend, Lyla, was really great friends with her before. Her and Kate were best friends. But then Lyla started going out with another guy who Kate didn't approve of, and they're not nearly as great friends anymore. They keep having mini-fights and they're just not close. I'm afraid to spend time with Tyler, because if we end up together, or even if she finds out that I like him, she might not approve of it. I really need her to, but I also need him. I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do.

Here's what I think, but you probably won't like it.

Anyone who would be mean to a friend because she is going out with an "uncool" guy isn't a friend at all. I KNOW how tempting it is to be "in" with the "cool crowd", but think about it this way: Would you really be having fun with these girls if you were always worried about them judging you? And you would be giving up this great guy just to impress some lousy friends.

So, in my opionion, you SHOULD see Tyler. And that dosn't mean that you have to stop talking to your camp friends. If Kate wants to know why you want to hang out with him, then explain to her how and why you feel about him. She might be cool. And if she has a problem with it, well, she's not a very good friend. And never feel like you can't be friends with a group of people just because one of them has a problem with you.

xoxo

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hey lovess.

i have an issuee with a love triangle.

bob [friend]

Well, you don't have to tell Bob about Sam, but you should probably tell him that you don't feel that way about him. You don't want to string him along, with him thinking that it could happen. No, you gotta be honest with him. You don't have to keep distancing yourself, but make sure he understands.

Now for Sam. Well, if it would be awkward for you to tell him how you feel, maybe you just need to spend more time with him- so that you're more comfortable and confident around him, you know?

As for them being friends, there's really nothing you can do about that. I honestly think that you should still go for it if you really want him.
Good luck!

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i need to break upo with my bf, but i dont know how. im too scared to do it face to face. but is that necessary?

It's not easy, but it's probably the best way. Just think how you would feel if someone broke up with you over the phone or in a text message! But then, every relationship is different, and you know him better than anyone who is going to give advice, so you may just need to think about what would be the best way for yall.
good luck!

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There's this guy who i like alot. He's not the hottest person ever but his personality is the best in the whole world. We were really good friends (bestties) for like 2-3 years and then things got kinda serious twice. The first one i kinda broke up with him because i was too young and the second time...i'm still not sure what happened the second time. It ended about 1 week ago and I'm confused. He didn't break it off but we don't really speak much again and he isn't as talkative with me again. IT's kinda awkward and weird. I want to be friends with him again..and the bad part is i can't get over him...i'm falling more inlove with him day by day! It's tough...i just want to know what to do? get over him...or start back again?

Well, it might be time to try again! Your previous attempts at a relationship might have been thrown by the awkwardness of the situation: You were really close friends, then all of the sudden you were dating! It might've just felt weird. I think you should talk to him, and let him know that you really want to be friends again. After a while (don't rush it!) you should try it out again. If things don't work out...mabye you are just meant to be friends!

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so theres this boy today who just asked me the dance and as a gf! i like him but im not sure if its there!

how do i no?

Go with him and find out! lol

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ahh ok where to start.. 16/f and 17/m.. well ive been with him about 10 months. and i love him i really do, but i cant freaking breath anymore! ive felt this way for awhile. i just need some space man. but its like hes soo dependent on me.. like im his oxygen or something. we go to diff. schools, so i talk to him in the mornin, after school if were not workin, and at night. we used to talk for hours and hours, but now, i just want some chill time ya kno. so now i might talk to him for 30-45 minutes, and then be like ill call you back later or somethin, and he'll give me the whole "you dont wanna talk to me anymore" guilt trip deal.. or else he'll be like where are you going?? [another thing.. i HATE being soo invaded.. its always "what are you doing, where are you going, who are you talking to".. and he doesnt give up until i answer.. i mean honestly, privacy anyone? but then if im like "i dont have to tell you everything" then hes like "i didnt say you had to" but when you keep pushin me like that.. then uh hellooo]. also, sometimes when i say ill call him back, a few hours will roll around and he'll call me back and be like im sorry but i was going crazy i had to talk to you. AHH. or if he does actually wait till i call him then hes all moody and bitter bc "i didnt wanna talk to him" or wtfe. or else he`ll answer and in stead of hello its "...finally". this isnt a once in a blue moon things its ALL the dang time. i feel so suffocated! and talking to him really does a whole lotta nothing.. ughh wut can i do before i go crazy?


btw.. no breakin up.. i dont want that.

I don't see many solutions other than the ovbious: talk to him

I know that you are probably hesitant to tell him to back off when he's such a dependant guy, but it's an approach that you haven't seemed to go for yet. Just be honest with him, and tell him that you need your space. Don't worry- there're nice ways to say it!

I would begin by letting him know how much you care for him and that you are really glad to be dating him. Then just tell him what you've been going through (all of the things that you listed in your question) You could make it sound complementary by saying things like, "When I don't see you for a while, it only increases how much I love you, because I start to miss you!" If he is angry because he thinks that you are annoyed with him, then his only solution is give you some space.

Also, try organizing fun and private things to do together- you could like set aside one day every other week or so when you just spend the whole day together. Planning stuff like this could make him feel more wanted.


Good luck!

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Okay so i really like this guyyy, hes in my homeroom but thats it. He's not the most gorgoues guys i've ever seen but hes very good looking. I really like him because of his personalitly. We like a lot of the same bands and songs, and we both are athletes. He is my bestfriend. OK, now time for my problemm. We hung out last night with some of our friendss, and we had a pretty good time. me and him would always stay together and we had races and stuff and we laughed a lot. we acctually held hands at one point but only for like 30 seconds. I think he likes me too but im not sure. My other friend thats a guy, has been acting like a real jerk lately and told the guy i liked that i was like in love with him, and the jerk told me he liked me too, but i cant go out with him becuase he his bestfriend and i cant take him away from him? so idk, what are some ways i can get this guy i like to acctually tell me how he feels about me so i dont have to wait any longer? HELP WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Because yall are already so close, just ask him next time you get a chance. If you guys want to be together then there is no reason why you should not be. As for the *jerk*, mabye he is acting this way because he likes you. Guys are weird like that. Or mabye he has lost friends to their girlfriends before, and is worried that he will lose another friend. I don't think that you guys should let the way he is acting affect your desision. But mabye the guy you like should let him know that he won't totaly ditch him if you guys were dating. Hope that was helpful!

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SAM 14/f
ok well i really like my friend Jesse who ive known since last yr but only recently we've become really close friends. but there are many problems. its a long story:
1st i liked him and i then i told him, he didnt seem to mind, actually he started acting really flirty: like hugs, putting his arm around me, things that you would do with a bf.
But then he told me he had problems with commitment, as in he doesnt want a gf. it was ok with me i didnt really care too much. but then i told my friend ashley that jesse liked me. even though he never said "i like you" i just assumed he did.
the next day he told me he was sorry but he didnt like me. so that really hurt but we were still friends all the same. a few weeks have passed and we started getting closer, like best friends, and he keeps flirting in the same ways as before. out of all his friends that are girls, im the one he seems to care most about. he only wants to hug me sometimes, stuff like that.
but the other day i heard from erika (one of his good friends) that he was always a big flirt with girls and that he doesnt like me. and then we talked about it and he said the same crap as before, about not liking me.
so now im just tired of being confused and so im trying to get over him, cuz its clear that jesse either cant decide wat he wants or just isnt interested....wats ur take on all of this?

thanx a bunch,

SAM

Well I think you're doing the right thing by trying to get over him. He doesn't sound like the kind of guy who would be a very reliable boyfriend. However, there is no need to sever the relationship completly- try to stay friends. Mabye he'll get more mature and you guys can date later. Just don't let him use or abuse the friendship. Good luck!

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What do you look for in a guy?

Well if you're looking for a standard there really isn't one, because this is a very personal preference. So I'll just give my opion and I hope that helps!

*Pays attention to you and listens and cares about what you have to say

*Makes you laugh

*Is intelligent

*Is athletic

*Someone who knows you well or wants to

eh I'm haning trouble with this for some reason..hope I helped!

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it is possible that a guy likes you if your friend says see you later at school then he says it too, if hes like semi into the popular group and your a normie? cause we chat quite a bit and he asks for help with his spanish homework and all (lol). so.....what shoudl i do? i tried asking him out in 5th grade four years ago when i liked him the first ime but everyone found out....long story. i do'nt want to feel stupid and embarassed again. even though we didn't even awknowledge each other back then.
thanks in advance!

It does seem like he might like you, but he might also just be a really friendly guy. As to what you should do...just keep doing what your doing. Keep chatting and hanging out and helping him with homework. If you all of the sudden start flirting extremely or ask him out, he might get freaked out. Just go for being friends for a start- guys like girls that they are comfortable around.

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I have a boyfriend,and were both kind of new at this thing! My parents think Im not quite old enough to date him, but I can be his girlfriend!!! Were also both really shy around each other!!Im 13 And female

What can I do to convince my parents to let me date him?

What can I do to be less shy around him?

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

Well middle school relationships are always akward. It's an akward part of life, plus, there's not much you guys can do as far as "dating". Mabye you guys should do stuff like going to the mall with a group of friends. That way it's less akward for you two because it's not just you, AND your parents will be more comfortable.

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hi.(female)
my boyfriend is really anoying and i can't call him (even though i have his number) because i am to shy. My sister says i should wait until i go back to school and everything but i like this other kid ALOT more and i don't want to ask the kid i like out cause i don't want to cheat on the kid i am going out with now. I know it is wrong to cheat on your boyfriend but i really want to go out with the other kid and my sister and mom are no help. PLEASE HELP ME!!-thanks a million YOLIV :)

Hah! Ths one's easy!

I've always felt that it's never right to continue dating someone that you don't like, whether it is for a few days, or a few years. Just make sure that you really want to break up before you do.
I also suggest not breaking up with him over the phone. In person is the best (though hardest) way to go. If you absolutley can't do that then write a note to him that you deliver to him yourself! Don't use any "messengers".
It sounds like it's time for you to move on (just make sure about it!) and if it is, then good luck!

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f/15

I had this one REALLY close guy friend, Jason, who I had been friends with for three years. Recently we told eachother that we have stronger feelings than 'just friends.'

Since then nothing had happened between us and I was okay with that but I REALLY wanted to kiss him. So last night we were at a party and when he arrived I kissed him. It was shortlived since it was just a 'hello' kiss, but it was our first (and last?).

Five minutes before this I told one of my best friends, Ann, that I liked Jason a lot. Ann has a boyfriend.

Just after I kissed Jason, so did Ann. We had been drinking (Jason hadn't) so I thought it was kind of funny and she only kissed him on the cheek.

About thirty minutes later Ann, who was NOT drunk, said 'Jason, I want to kiss you' so she kissed him on the cheek again. As she was pulling away Jason started to make out with her and they frenched for about 30 seconds. I was shocked but blew it off. I was SO turned off by what Jason had done and he looked at me right after he did it. I don't know what was going through his head.

I quickly left the room and tried to forget about what I just saw. I was shocked that Jason would do that.. and shocked that Ann would too since she knew I liked him.

Once it came time to go back to my house (Ann was sleeping over), Ann and I were saying bye to everyone. Then Ann went up to Jason and they french kissed and it was obvious that he likes her now. I couldn't even look at him, nevermind say bye, I was disgusted.

Should I ever talk to Jason or Ann again? Right now I am telling myself not to be upset (since that never helps anything) but I need to make a decision. I don't know if I should even continue to be friends with Jason. Plus, Ann cheated on her boyfriend by doing that but Jason doesn't know she has a boyfriend.

If I stop being friends with Jason I will probably lose 20 friends since he is always hanging out with them and I won't want to be there if he is. And he is usually the one to invite me to be with them. I have a lot of other friends since I'm one of the 'popular' girls but I really like being with them (I get straight A's but that gets boring so I like to party and drink with them.)

I am thinking of forgetting of what Jason did and if I run into him at another party I could be like Ann and make out with him and then he could like me again.

Sorry that this is SO long, advice is greatly appreciated so thank you so, so, SO much. :)

Ok I am going to anwser your direct question, but first I must say this. Why the heck are you drinking at 15? I'm glad your a smart girl, but be careful that you don't ruin things for yourself by haning out with the wrong people and doing bad things.
So I'd have to say, don't give other people power over you. If you like your other friends that hang around them,you should still see them weather ann and jason are there or not. Be bigger than they are.
Also, just because they acted like slutty idiots (eh..no offense?) does not mean you should. If you think making out with Jason will make him like you..then why the HECK would you like him. A guy should more intrested in you than the pysical stuff (though that is also important) Do not lower yourself to earn the "attraction" of a guy who sounds like he doesn't deserve you. Hope that helps!

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so ive turned 18 most of my friends are in relationships and im not i feel really low sometimes because im not like ugly or anything or fat i keep thinking why do i not have a bf! Ive just never found anyone i could say yeh ive been in love with him,all i keep thinking about is my x and he was very mean to me im still a virgin and im getting old now someone please help! i mean also there was a x i still kind of like but i duno if he still likes me.

I know this sounds cliche, but wait for the right person. There's nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend. It's better to be single and availble for the right guy that to see someone just because you want a boyfriend.

You are not "getting old" at all, that's rediclous. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, and when the time comes for you, you'll be glad you waited. (Which in my opinion should be after you are mairred, but yeah..)

The only way to know if your ex still likes you is if you stay in touch with him. However, if he was mean to you, don't go back to him just for the reason above. Hope I helped!

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Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas?

Well, you're right. Leading him on would much worse. The best thing you can do is tell him what you just wrote. Tell him how much you love to be around him and how much you care about him. Don't do it over the phone, email, internet chat, text messages, or through other people, etc. Just tell him in person so that he can see that you sincerly mean it. It'll probaly be akward at first, but if you keep trying things could get comfortable again.

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Okay, so, they guy i like, has a girlfriend, but he told me that he liked me and to wait for him. Should i continue to wait for him?

Well, what does that tell you about him? If he would like another girl while he's with someone, then mabye he'd do the same to you.

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