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My best friend is a Lesbian and is trying to "get it on" with me what should i do
Tell her flat-out you're not interested. If you're not interested, that needs to be respected. Don't be afraid to be straight-forward just because she's a girl.
Hi Im Gracie and I'm 13! Remember me? No? That's okay. LOL :)
Anyway, I have a question about, like guys and dating and stuff. Kinda, 2 questions actually.
Well, Im 13 and he's 16.
Okay so my first question is, is it weird to date someone with the same name as your brother? His name is Matt and my brothes name is Matt. It's kinda awkward and my friends say some stuff like its gross and stuff and it's kinda embarrassing. What do you think?
My second question is, Do you think its wrong for us to date each other because he's older? I really, really like him and he says that he likes me too but he doesnt want his friends to know we're dating because they're gonna say stupid stuff about it because he's older and everything. I mean, I don't see the bid deal and it kinda hurts my feelings a little. He wants to keep it a secret that we're dating. It kinda makes me feel like he's ashamed of me or something. Maybe Im just being over sensitive?
But I like him alot, maybe even love him a little and I dont want to keep us a secret. I told my bestfriend Natalie that we were dating now and Matt (My boyfriend not my brother) found out and he got really mad and he hit me. I get why he was mad. He's popular, and has lots of friends and tons of girls that wish they could be his girlfriend and he gets mad when his frinds say stuff about him hanging out with me. It makes him upset. Its just that I've like him for a long time and I've alwaysed wish he would like me back and date me. I dont want to hide it from everybody. What if other girls start flirting with him because they dont know he's dating me?
Am I being stupid?
(FYI- We're in the same grade. I skipped a few grades. Im the youngest kid at my high school. Im a sophomore.)
Hey :) My brother's name is Matt, also! Well, there's nothing wrong with dating someone who has the same name as your brother. It's just a name, nothing more.
I do think that dating a 16 year old while being 13 is too big of an age difference. 3 years may not seem like much, but when you are young, it is.
If he can't tell his friends he's in a relationship with you and wants to keep it a secret, I would take it as a sign of immaturity...
And did he really hit you? Hell no. Don't ever take that kind of treatment!
I'm 18/F
I've never been kissed, never been on a date, and have never been in a relationship.
Is that normal? I feel like i'm not good enough for anyone to love me, or even like me...
I mean... I've never really put myself out there, or flirted or anything, but no one's ever made an effort for me either.
I'm just kinda freaking out over this.
I don't know if it's "normal" but doing what everyone else perceives as normal may night be beneficial to you, anyways. I'm 20 years old and have never been kissed. It honestly doesn't bother me. Being kissed doesn't mean being loved. I know I have people that love me, so it's not a big deal. Focus on your goals and ambitions for the time being. In the mean time, you'll give guys a chance to mature a little more :)
What is the best way for me to show my girl friend that she means the world to me and that i fully trust her and love her with all of my heart?
Being thoughtful is something every girl can appreciate. For instance, say that she's telling you about how her last hair tie broke, go to the store and surprise her with a new pack. The little things mean so much. I promise!
Ive been with my boyfriend for 4yrs already we have 2 kids together. He treats me like im a piece of garbage and i dont understand why I put up with it.
Im a smart person i got my AA and now im working on my teaching degree. Im the one that works and takes care of our kids while his lazy ass sits around and does nothing yet he has the nerve to call me nasty names to tell me im ugly, fat, and worthless... I know i deserve better i just had my son 2 months ago and im not fat i have a pouch but that will go away with some exercise im 5'4" and i weigh 155. I think im a beautiful person inside and outside. I just cant understand why he treats me the way he does I do everything for him. I go out of my way to try and keep him happy I even go to the extent of taking my kids in the mornings on my days off out to visit my mother or run errans just so he can sleep and not start insulting me.
I come from a great family my parents always helped eachother out and they would do anything for me. Its sad that even after all the things that he has said and done to me I still love him and Im trying to make it work between us. I love myself too I know im not ugly im a good person i just dont understand why he is such a nasty person and why i put up with it?
For you to realize your worth is a great thing. Now, act on it. Prove to yourself and your kids that you are aware of your worth. This means parting ways with your boyfriend. He sounds like a toxic person to be around and I don't feel that it would be worth it to "work things out". He sounds like a vicious individual.
I'm a 32/female. I work as a server and worked til midnight on Thursday. I drank alot of caffeine while working so I thought I would stop on the way home and get a drink and order some food for my boyfriend who i live with. I ended up drinking 3 beers and got some wings for him and talked to this girl who said she had just moved here from LA and had no girl friends here. When i got home it was almost 2:00 in the morning and when I walked in the cushions were gone off the couch, the tv was gone, computer was gone, mattress gone. My phone had been dead so i put it on the charger and called my boyfriend. When he answered he called me a whore and said i had been out whoring around. I said first of all dont ever call me a whore, and that i had gotten him some food and had money for him as he had said he was broke before. He called me a liar and this made me very angry. I have never cheated on him. I have since been able to get him to bring back the tv and computer but have been sleeping on the box spring with no mattress and thinking what should I do? I do love him very much so this has really hurt me. None of my friends or family like him which makes me feel even more sorry for him. I guess I will move out the first of May. He will not take my calls except once to tell me he loved me and hated this sitution yesterday morning. What should I do? ANY ADVICE?!!!
I'm curious...why does your family dislike him? He must have acted immaturely like this before. I can't understand why a grown individual would act in such a way. This leads me to believe that he has a lot of growing up to do. Do you intend to be the one to "raise" him?
-Thanks for the feedback! You are very strong and wise for being so willing to walk away from this situation when most people would stoop to his level. I admire your courage and wish you luck!
Have I met my true love?
Yes. Of course...
if you bleed while intercourse does that mean u have hiv
No. Of course not. Bleeding will not indicate if you have/don't have HIV. Bleeding and HIV have nothing to do with each other.
I'll try to keep it short. One day, I was playing games on my boyfriend's phone when I noticed a series of texts from this girl (we have tons of mutual friends so I was wondering why I didn't know this girl). I went through the texts and I didn't like what I saw. Texts like "smart is sexy", "hanky panky is a fun exercise ;)", etc. were in there and I got really angry. I confronted him about it, but he didn't seem concerned at all. He casually mentioned he's known this girl for a while and they've always joked around like that and it wasn't a huge deal. I'm old fashioned and I see it as a mild form of cheating. Am I overreacting or should I be worried? Thanks so much guys in advance.
No, I don't think you are overreacting. I'd be concerned, too. She's being flirty by being dumb and it's uncalled for on the basis that he already has a girlfriend.
About a week ago, my boyfriend Scott and I (we’re both 18) were hanging out and we saw this guy jogging, and Scott said to me, “his boobs are bigger than yours!” For some reason – perhaps I’m just being neurotic and silly – my feelings were really hurt by the comment. Since then I’ve just been feeling really ugly and self conscious. He called me this afternoon and he was all like, “hey, I noticed that you’ve been really quiet lately. Is everything okay? You can always talk to me if you need anything.”
Am I justified in feeling this way? I know that this is a completely ridiculous thing to ask for help about but... I’m kind of at a loss of what to do. I don’t want to talk to him about it because it’s so embarrassing, and I won’t have him think I’m an insecure, hypersensitive wuss.
I can totally understand why that comment bothered you, but it doesn't seem he meant it that way. If anything, he was insulting the guy...not you. The fact that he noticed you weren't being yourself lately shows that he is a good friend and has genuine concern for you. I would just let it slide. If it happens again, speak up...but just one time isn't a big deal.
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
If I were you, I would feel violated. The relationship was supposed to consist of you and him. Not you, him and the rest of the world. I could understand writing in a journal about your relationship together, but a facebook group? Seriously? I would flee in a heartbeat!
I started dating my boyfriend last month and he treats me really good. The problem is that his friends really don't like me. They keep telling me that I'm hideous, ugly, and skanky and that he deserves so much better. I haven't really said anything to him about it but he never says I'm pretty or beautiful like guys are suppose to do. It's weird. What should I do? Do you think he thinks I'm not pretty? Should I tell his friends off?
If he's friends with people that would talk about you that way, then his thoughts about you can't be too different. Are you hideous, ugly or skanky...? Probably not, so ditch this boy.
SO many times i have heard over and over that you cant change people. Women cant change men, men cant change women... yet I've seen it happen. Right before my eyes. How is it possible that some of us are exceptions to this rule and some of us ARE the rule???? and how would one know...
I guess I'm just looking for some insight on how this psychology of changing occurs... I would like some opinions. How is it that no matter how stubborn a person is, someone comes along that can change them...and why is it that only that person can, nobody else...
any opinions, personal philosophies, that sort of thing?
I think a person can only be changed by their own will. Sure, someone can inspire them to make that change, but it could be because they fully respect that person. But like I said: nobody can change a person who isn't welcome to changing themselves.
Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"
well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it
Ya know, I'm already 18 and I've never had a boyfriend. I feel like I owe it to myself to figure myself out before trying to make sense of who someone else is. I know I'm going to find the truest love out there because I didn't get caught up in having a relationship too young and I won't have baggage to carry forth to the relationship I actually want to settle into.
There is someone out there with a lot of love to give. Just make a believer out of yourself!
Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i've known this guy for about 2 years now. A few days ago he kissed me out of nowhere and then almost immediatly afterwards asked me to be his girlfriend and we both have had feelings for eachother. The only problem is he's johovawitness and for anyone who knows anything about that he's not allowed to date out of the religion or even at this age. To make matters worse i'm aithiest. He's really not even allowed to get close to 'worldly' people(people not part of the religion). He once tried to have a relationship like this but it ended badly with his parents intense disapproval. Alot of his privileges were taken away and are still gone. I'm not exactly sure how i should handle this...with his last relationship he hid it alot but got caught and snuck out time and time again to see her. i dont want him to put a barrier between him and his family again like he did for his ex, but i cant just see him inside of school till he's old enough to move out. I could really use some advice from someone who knows an acceptable amount about this religion
My best friend shares the same beliefs. Well, if you're not interested in sharing hs religion, then the relationship just can't occur. You have your beliefs and he has his. He's still of the age where he should be obeying his parents and you don't want to be the one who puts a strain on his relationship with both parents. So your options are:
go to some meetings with him if you are seriously interested in converting
or
look for someone else.
It doesn't seem fair, but as for this religion: those who are affiliated are really into their beliefs.
I dated this guy for a year we met at collage it was going really well and we were really close. About a month ago he dumped me and he said he couldnt go out with me eneymore as me being mixedraced confuses things to much for him and that when it comes to relationships he would rather stick to his own race which is white. I dont understand this at all as he dated me for a year and we never spoke about race should I confront him as I really love him still. Thanx sophie
Honestly, why confront him? For him to put the blame on you being bi-racial shows immaturity as well as insecurity.(on his part)
You're way more than a skin tone and shame on him for not knowing. He's not right for you.
what is the most meaningful thing anyone has ever said to you when you were at such a low point in you're life? i would really love to know what people say to others, something that they will keep with them forever. any advice that helped you get through some rough times, because right now i'm going through really hard times.
Somebody once told me "don't doubt yourself"...
think it through and it'll make you feel a lot more comfortable with yourself!
=]
what are some good songs about raising money or things of the sort? or what are some good songs about changing the world?
"The Earth Song" Michael Jackson
breakupp a month ago. he broke up with me. i liked him too much. lost any self confidence i had. HATE where i live. friends suck. some are moving next year. dont have an endless supply of friends so having friends leave is bad, even though they get really annoying. grades going down. family is annoying. cant think. help?!
thanks.
WHOA. been there...
it seems that you need to do something for yourself.
keep your eyes peeled for job openings.
having a job will be such a fufilling experience.
study HARDER. focus on yourself and how to get your life together, so that you can at some point begin to reach out to others.
13/f
my boyfriend has been talking about having sex in the summer, but....thats a BIG step, and i dont know if i should or not. ive been trying to figure out what the worse that can happen is...and if we use a condom...i dont think i could get pregnant.
Everyone has it in their mind that they "won't be the ones to get pregnant", yet we all know that's not the truth. So many people do end up getting pregnant and a good share of those pregnancies were not planned.
Having sex should be a mutual agreement.
Your boyfriend only represents half the relationship and therefore, it is not just his role to decide to have sex.
Also, you are much too young to even do so with him.
You are going to be consumed by regrets if you give in, so honestly...
If he's worth your while, he will respect your choice to hold off on sex.