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How should I deal with this drama?
I'm a 32/female. I work as a server and worked til midnight on Thursday. I drank alot of caffeine while working so I thought I would stop on the way home and get a drink and order some food for my boyfriend who i live with. I ended up drinking 3 beers and got some wings for him and talked to this girl who said she had just moved here from LA and had no girl friends here. When i got home it was almost 2:00 in the morning and when I walked in the cushions were gone off the couch, the tv was gone, computer was gone, mattress gone. My phone had been dead so i put it on the charger and called my boyfriend. When he answered he called me a whore and said i had been out whoring around. I said first of all dont ever call me a whore, and that i had gotten him some food and had money for him as he had said he was broke before. He called me a liar and this made me very angry. I have never cheated on him. I have since been able to get him to bring back the tv and computer but have been sleeping on the box spring with no mattress and thinking what should I do? I do love him very much so this has really hurt me. None of my friends or family like him which makes me feel even more sorry for him. I guess I will move out the first of May. He will not take my calls except once to tell me he loved me and hated this sitution yesterday morning. What should I do? ANY ADVICE?!!!
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Ah yes, women love guys who treat them like crap. The rational thing to do would be to tell him to take a slow boat to China, you're done, but of course that would be too easy, right? You want to fix him.
Look, by continuing to come back for more you are teaching him that you are so pathetically needy that you will put up with his uber control freak horsecrap. It's your life toots, do what you want, but look at this incident as a preview of coming attractions, so to speak.
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that is kinda psycho. from what i get here, he stole furnitures from you and accused you of being a whore the moment he cant find you. and you had to buy him food and give him money? girl, leave, just leave.
you seem like a great girl, hardworking and really tolerant. if your friends and family dont like him, it's for a reason. he seems to just be using you. im glad you got your tv and stuff back, but he has to give your bed too. are you sure he's not cheating on you and thats why the bed is the only thing that he's not giving back. and when he left with the furnitures, to whose house did he bring all those stuff to?
im sorry if im too harsh. it's just my opinion. good luck with your decisions.
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Do you still want to be with him? If so you can simply call him over or meet up at a local restaurant to talk about the situation. It seems to me that their are many doors left open and unsolved questions. So a nice dinner/lunch will be great to air out some frustration and sadness. Simply explain to him everything that happen that night just as you explained it to us! Either he will accept your truthfulness or continue to think that you're lying. If he continues to think you're lying and you have no way to prove to him that you're telling the truth simply move on. Ask him these questions... Are you finished with us? Is this it? Do you want to try to work things out? Where is the trust? If he fails to acknowledge these questions just remember that their are many bee's in the hive that would love a precious rose like you. So don't let one guy stop you from living life, his lost! Good Luck!
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The guy stole from you in the middle of the night with false accusations of cheating?
My advice: Tell him to bring back your property or the next phone call he'll get is the from the police.
It would appear, at least from your question here, that your friends and family have rather legitimate reasons to dislike this person.
My advice is to cry it out, accept the break up and thank your lucky stars he's out of your life. At best, he's a bit nuts. At worse, he an abuser.
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I'm curious...why does your family dislike him? He must have acted immaturely like this before. I can't understand why a grown individual would act in such a way. This leads me to believe that he has a lot of growing up to do. Do you intend to be the one to "raise" him?
-Thanks for the feedback! You are very strong and wise for being so willing to walk away from this situation when most people would stoop to his level. I admire your courage and wish you luck!
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