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He's Johovawitness and i'm 'worldly'
Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i've known this guy for about 2 years now. A few days ago he kissed me out of nowhere and then almost immediatly afterwards asked me to be his girlfriend and we both have had feelings for eachother. The only problem is he's johovawitness and for anyone who knows anything about that he's not allowed to date out of the religion or even at this age. To make matters worse i'm aithiest. He's really not even allowed to get close to 'worldly' people(people not part of the religion). He once tried to have a relationship like this but it ended badly with his parents intense disapproval. Alot of his privileges were taken away and are still gone. I'm not exactly sure how i should handle this...with his last relationship he hid it alot but got caught and snuck out time and time again to see her. i dont want him to put a barrier between him and his family again like he did for his ex, but i cant just see him inside of school till he's old enough to move out. I could really use some advice from someone who knows an acceptable amount about this religion
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Like the previous poster stated this relationship won't work. They are too set with their beliefs. You're the outsider as far as they feel and they only want him to associate or be with girls of their faith.
I know you don't want to hear this but spare yourself a ton of aggravation and tell him that a relationship isn't possible due to the rigid beliefs of his family.
Tell him you respect his religious beliefs, what his parents want. It's that you don't want to cause him or yourself considerable problems.
I once went to school with a woman that was a Jehovah's Witness. She never spoke to anyone outside her faith. She was completely unapproachable and difficult to work with because of what she was taught by her parents.
Sadly, she died of an asthma attack over Christmas break a few years back. When students were told there was two reactions "Who's so-and-so?" and "why should we set up an award in her memory?
She felt alienated by everyone else and we felt alienated by her due to her faith. You believe in traditional Christian teachings but they focus on the second coming of Christ, deny most of your beliefs and refuse blood transfusions (not a bad idea really). They are often ultra aggressive to make others convert.
There's no way to duck their disapproval or deal with it. They're rigid and won't change. If they ever learned you don't believe in God it could lead to a lot of headaches. It will be difficult to change romantic feelings but he's best as a friend only and to associate with at school.
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My best friend shares the same beliefs. Well, if you're not interested in sharing hs religion, then the relationship just can't occur. You have your beliefs and he has his. He's still of the age where he should be obeying his parents and you don't want to be the one who puts a strain on his relationship with both parents. So your options are:
go to some meetings with him if you are seriously interested in converting
or
look for someone else.
It doesn't seem fair, but as for this religion: those who are affiliated are really into their beliefs.
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