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life going downhill
breakupp a month ago. he broke up with me. i liked him too much. lost any self confidence i had. HATE where i live. friends suck. some are moving next year. dont have an endless supply of friends so having friends leave is bad, even though they get really annoying. grades going down. family is annoying. cant think. help?!
thanks.
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WHOA. been there...
it seems that you need to do something for yourself.
keep your eyes peeled for job openings.
having a job will be such a fufilling experience.
study HARDER. focus on yourself and how to get your life together, so that you can at some point begin to reach out to others.
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I'm in the same situation. Except for the friends part. But I've seen it happen so much that I can relate. Breaking up is just another word for, "Finding somebody better." Make new friends! Just relax and try to be happy. Stress makes my grades down horribly. But you can let your stress run your life. You run your stress. You're the boss, you call the shots! My friends always come to me for their problems. I know I don't know you or anything, but if you want you can message me & tell me more about it. But if not, good luck. & Don't be so hard on yourself. It's not your fault your life is like this. Everything will turn around for the better. I PROMISE.
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ok first off take some time to clear your mind.
go to the gym, a spa, tanning... something, somewhere where you can relax!
dont let all this stress you. alot of people go through things like this so dont worry yourslef.
you'll rewbound from your break-up, hearts dont stay broken forever, what happened was ment to happen so dont think about it too much and try your best to move on. things will fall into place when they are suppose too.
your probably lossing confidence because of the break-up, dont let it get to you, it wasnt meant to be and there are ALOT of other guys out there.
you have to remember that in the end everything will be ok, your life isnt over.
You cant do much about lossing friends, but you can always gain new friends. that doesnt mean you have to lose contact with your friends, you have the phone, myspace, e-mail, vacations... there are alot of things you can do to sray in contact. but in the meantime think of this as an opportunity to meet new people.
i know that all these things that are going on are problably distracting you from homework and school, but again, try and focus. keep thinking that everything that everything that is going on will pass, and eventually it will. its not the end of the world you'll bounce back, just have faith.
family can be annoying to alot of people so just ignore them, if they are complaning about something just sit there and dont really say anything even if it is annoying, and you can always go into your room just to get away from family.
what i think you should do is maybe have like a girls night out with some of your friends, when you girl are all together dont think about anything else, and dont talk about what you all are going through. forget about the world and just think about that moment.
i hope i helped =]
good luck!
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Hey!
Sometimes crappy stuff happens in life and we all have to try and find a way to get through it. Sometimes getting over the crappy stuff is harder than actually going through it. But I have some advice that I hope will help.
First of all, with the ex. Remember that relationships end. boys come and go, maybe you arent ready to move on yet, but you need to get over what ever happened. Try writing about how you feel. I keep a journal, not because it helps me to remember my life (its not THAT interesting) but more because I feel that by writing things down it helps to slowly figure everything out. That will help, I gauruntee. So give it a try some time.
As far as the self confidence thing, try and figure out why he broke up with you. If you have to, call him up and find out (Closure will help you move on) because theres a good chance that it had to do with like him liking someone else or something. Guys can be idiots. but what ever it is, remember that its not your fault. There s a like 99% chance that whatever it is, u couldnt have changed it.
Second, do this exercise. Go look in a mirror and write down as many amazing things about your self as you can possibly think of (Try and write down like 50) and then get artistic. Either write them on a peice of paper, or make seperate ones and put them around your room, but do something so that when you have a bad day you can sit down and think hey I have nice hair. or hey at least I have a great sense of humour. I can tell you that it works. Then every day try and pick a different one to tell yourself. As you're getting ready in the morning, think wow, I have th prettiest eyes. Complimenting yourself will really help.
Dont compare yourself to people. If someone else has the same top as you, dont think she looks better than i do. Think, hey that girl has the same sense of style as I do... meh.
And finally, join some kind of class. Acting or drama would be great. it will help you to get out there and put yourself on the line. You'll make friends (which you say you need) and your confidence level will soar! Trust me, I've done it!
Write a list of all of the things in your life that you can change and a list of all the things you cant change. Then devote your time to doing things to change the changeable ones (Ie study to bring up your grades) and try and accept the ones that cant be fixed. If you work on accepting them, then you can begin to see the okay things. Try and be positive. Like if you think your family is annoying, well at least you have a family that loves you. It wont fix your problems, but if they cant be fixed anyway...
I know that your life kind of sucks right now, but it will get better, I promise. I hope that some of this stuff helpped, but if it doesnt, let me know, I have a billion tips, and some of them have to work. Good luck, I hope I helped. Love ya,
Angie91
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