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Hey everybody ! I'm Callie. I'm from St. Louis Missouri.. yes yes SoCo,Mo. I'm 16. sophomore at MHS. 2010 bitchesss. I'm involed in a whole bunch of shit at school .. I'm class president for the 2nd year and a StuCo officer. StuCo is more than a club, it`s a passion. I`m in Paws & Peace, STL, yearbook, A+ tutoring, Sophomore Executive, cheerleading. I`m an over achiever and I love it.




I LOvE to give advice; if you ask me a question you will get an answer. If you ask a dumb question, you will get a dumb answer. Easy as that. You can ask me about anything; I know what I should for my age, maybe more. I've been through alot.. maybe not all personally but I've seen alot of shit happen with my friends and just people around school. I'll help as best as I can. Any question you ask I will answer it as best that I possibly can.. even if it's just and honest answer of " I don't know. "



Don't rate me bad because you feel like it. If I don't answer your question the way you wanted me to, then don't rate me bad.. just don't rate me. If you honsetly think that my advice to you was absolutly horrible then okay rate me bad. I don't mind. Please comment when you rate me thought :)


If you wanna want to ask me anything at all, I have an AIM screen name. Don't send me messages on here saying ILY or HAPPY BIRTHDAY or THANKS or anything like that. Send me an IM or comment. Advicenators gets mad if you send it in my inbox. I also have facebook that I'm compleatly addicted to, it's kinda sad. But if you have a question that you want answered right away, send me a message on facebook. I'm on there atleast twice a day.. not on here so much. If you're not old enought to have facebook.. I also have myspace. I'm on there about once a week. But still.. more than this. I'm really gonna try and start this up again. I really enjoy giving and receiving advice so I'm gonna try hard. My screen name is on the bar along the side. If you IM me I'll tell you my usernames for myspace and what not.


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OK,im am in maddly in love with this guy named Richard,he whited a month for me 2 break up with my ex cause he really wanted to go out with me.So anyway afted i did breakup with the guy he asked me out.We dated a month and everything was great, we fell in love with eachother and we were inseprateable. then on our one-month anaveriry he cheated on me with one of my friends when i found out i coulent belive it!!! i mean hes my first love! iv never felt like this about any other guy iv dateted (which is alot) anyway i called him crying when i found out he kept telling me he was sorry and he dident know why he did it. the next day he got drunk and called me over cause he needed me.When i went over there he was crying REALLY hard and was telling me that he loved me so much and that he would never do that again then when he soberd up he told me he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. so i dcited i would go ahead and give him another chance cause i felt he really was sorry about what he did and i still loved him then we hung out a couple of times after and he called me and told me i was acting weierd so we both decided to tke a 3 day break to see how things go.The very next day he called me and told me that he dident want to take a break anymore cause he dident want the freedom to flirt with other gurls so i was like ok then lets get back together we talked again later that night and we got in a big arugement about his ex that he dated for 9 months cause i got mad cause he told me he was still in love with her. the next day he told me he wanted to take a nother break for longer so i was like really worried he dident like me anymore so i asked his why and he said he was confused and he dident know what he want so i was like ok so i gave him some space after that i was really worried so i talked to one of his very close friends and they said that he ex that he dated for 9 monthes recently told him she was still in love with him and he said that he was still in love with him so i havent really talked to him lately exept for last night and i asked him if he is still in love with me and he said yes so i really dont know whats going to happen and im really freaking out here!!! i just have a feeling that in being used as a rebound if it dosent work with his ex (atleast thats what every1 keeps telling me) so i really need your advice!!!! i still really love him and its killing me being on this break. i just thing where how they used to be when we firt started going out im just really scared right now. HELP!!!!

I'm really sorry, but I'm just now getting this message; I haven't been on in a while. really sorry.
So how did everything work out ? You can leave a response in my inbox. or you don't have to answer, it doesn't matter.

again, I'm really sorry I couldn't help ! = [

♥ Callie

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im in 9th grade an im a guy im only 4'10" im probabl the shortest kid in the grade. when i ask out a girl i usually get a no maybe when we r in 10th grade. i realize that means im too short i like this girl i went out with her 2 years ago i think she likes me cause when i flirt with her she blushes and smiles she is only like 5 inches taller than me should i ask her out?

Woah, this sounds so familiar !! One of my friends is really short too and he gets that answer alot I guess, girls think he's cute.. but pretty much because he's little. He went out with one of my best friends (about 2 years ago the first time) and then he liked a couple girls but the didn't like him back, and so he liked my friend again last year.. and he asked her out and they went out. So I think that if this girl went out with you then, then she'll probably go out with you again. Not caring about your height then or now. Ask her out. If it doesn't work out then don't even worry about it because she's the one who's being shallow about it.

[♥]Callie[♥]

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I'm 15/female.

I am not an experienced kisser.
I am dating someone who is.
Is kissing/making out something that just comes naturally and I'll get used to it right away?
Or is there a lot more to it?

If he know's what he's doing, then he'll 'lead' if you know what I mean. After like 2 seconds it will become natural and you won't even think about it, it just happens !

[♥]Callie[♥]

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I am getting married in three months and I really love my fiance. I'm a model and we met at a fashion shoot, his brother was the photographer. We were going out for A year before he proposed and everything is perfect bewtween us. We also have a lot in common,like we both went to yale. But here's the thing, he grew up in England's High Society,he's the heir to the family fortune and he's dated heiresses and women a lot richer than me and I guess I feel like he can do better or I don't deserve him. I feel inferior to him in some ways, and I can't shake that feeling. I keep thinking "Why is he marrying me? or What makes me different than all the other girls he's been with?" He was a player before he met me, I'm the first girl he commited himself to and I dont even know why! He's starting to notice a change in my behavior. He asks me "Why are you being so distant or Baby, what's wrong" and I don't know what to say. He thinks he did something wrong. Maybe i'm just nervous. I mean i'm getting married! But I need advice I don't know what to do. Should I marry him.

Definatly marry him. If he dated all those people that are 'better' than you or richer than you and he chose on his own to be with you and marry you, then he really loves you. If he was a player before and changed because he loves you, then he's the one. Don't question why he want's to be with you, he wants to spend the rest of his life with you because you're special and different from all of those other girls. And I agree, maybe you are just nervous.
[♥]Callie[♥]

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okk so heres the story..
14/f && i have a boyfriend
the problem is hes like really prude
&& ik that he really wants 2 do stuff cuz he keeps telling me he does & stuff
& i only see him like once a week becuz he goes 2 another school but he like never makes a move
so what should i do?
should i like make the move or what?

Make the move. He says he wants to do stuff and then he doesn't, he's just got alot talk. but maybe he thinks that you don't want to. Show him that you want to too. Make him feel like he was stupid to wait and he'll know next time that he needs to step up and make the move so you won't have to. But make sure he doesn't just assume "well last time she made the move on me so this time she will too".. although he probably wouldn't think that.

[♥]Callie[♥]

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ok this is very complicated but here it goes: there is this guy who rides my bus and he is the cutest sweetest guy i have ever met.but heres the thing he does not really ride the bus anymore so i barely see him and he is not in any of my classes. but now here is where it gets complicated he told my friends that i was really pretty and really hot and he was thinking about asking me out and i really like him but he has not made a move and i really want him. all i can think about is wanting to kiss him and i just really want him and i am so sad please know one tell me that there are other guys out there because i just need advice about this one.

go for it. go for it. go for it. if he really told your friends he was gonna ask you out then he has to like you, and your friends wouldn't make it up either. so just go for it ask him out. if he says no then you don't really lose anything. and if he says yes, then you got yourself a new boy friend !

[♥]Callie[♥]

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~~~~~A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her~~~~~
I read this somewhere, and really want to know if this is true or false.
So, is it true or not?

I think it's true also. Because if a guy finds out that the girl likes him then he thinks about if he likes her, but also likes the attention. Both people who already answered said the same thing, but I'm just saying what I think. I also think that if a guy thinks about he likes the girl or not too much, he might [probably will] end up liking the girl.

[♥]Callie[♥]

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theres this guys who i reallllly like. people also think he likes me, too, just because he always looks at me and talks to me. But, I told my friend to tell him that I like him. So, my friend told him that i like him, and now he seems to pay much more atention to me and want to talk to me more and stuff. is that normal?

ohh yeahh.. def. normal ! if he knows that you like him and now he's talking to you more.. he likes you. if he didn't then he wouldn't lead you on [since he knows you like him (if he didn't know then he might 'lead you on' by accident) ] but yeahh.. good job with letting him know you like him. always a good thing to do. now just wait to see what happens.. i think he'll ask you out = ]

[♥]Callie[♥]

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I have never kissed a guy and I'm scared that when I do I will be really bad at it. Does anyone have any kissing advice for a kissing virgin?

It all has to be natural. Just let it happen and 'go with the flow'. Try not to think about it too hard and it'll all just kind of happen. First times are special so don't do it if it's awkward.. wait til the moment seems right so it's just a natural feeling or else it will be tense.
Good luck and have fun !!
[♥]Callie[♥]

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Why do guys hate/not like when girls cry? For example, last night I was telling my best guy friend about something really upsetting, and he just kept saying, "Please don't cry, please don't cry." What makes guys always say that, like why does it upset tem when girls cry?

it's not that guys don't like it when girls cry.. they don't really care, it's just that they don't know what to say to make you feel better. they don't know how to comfort you in the way that you want to be comforted.
hope I helped !
[♥]Callie[♥]

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i need advice.. Brissa (girlfriend) we've gone out for about 5 days now and she is kid of shy. but i need advice on like what to talk about in Lunch or in the hallway. something other than school or homework something that is about home or cool. HELP!!!!!! thanks in advance.


p.s. do you think i should put my hand around her?

talk about what her plans are for after school. ask her if she's heard the new _______ song or something. I think you should def. put your arm around her, but she should let you know if there's a problem (but there shouldn't be) maybe she's shy around you because she likes you that much and she's waiting for you to do something to her or talking about something first.

Hope I helped. Comment Please.
[♥]Callie[♥]

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hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch

If you reply to him tell him that you would like to hang out sometime because you miss the old days. Make sure he knows that what he did hurt you real bad and it's not gonna be the easiest thing to forgive him even though you want to real bad. Tell him that if you guys hang out then you want it to become a relationship again or just stricktly friends .. whichever. Let him know that you still have feelings for him and you're not sure if hanging out together would be good if he doesn't have feelings for you too.

Hope I helped. Comment Please.
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Hey, ive been going out with this guy for a lil over 2 months, and he is awesome..i love him soo much. He's 15 but with christmas coming up i have no idea what to get him!! Please HelP!

I'm having the same problem. My boyfriend is also 15 and we've been together for 6 months. I was thinking about cologne. If you think it's a good idea.. think about if he wears it, if he already has a favorite scent, where he normally buys it (i.e. hollister .. they have more then one fragrence so you can buy the one he doesn't have). But other than that.. kinda talking with his friends.. go shopping with them. That's what my bf's doing for me! lOl !

Hope I helped. Comment Please.
[♥]Callie[♥]

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So there's this guy and I really like him. And everyone says he likes me. Yet, he didn't ask me out. Well, my friends and I are going to see Stay Alive soon and I wanted to ask him. How do I do it?

talk to him. ask him what he's doing that night. he'll prob. say "nothing. what about you" and you say goin to the movies, you should come! easy peasy lemon squeasy!
--kalie

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and a half. One time, he just kept telling me how he wanted to kill my friend Dan because he flirts with me and always asks about hooking up.He's also really mad because I'm sleeping over my friends house and Dan's sleeping over too, but not in the same room or anything.I'll tell my boyfriend to STOP and all he does is keep on talking about killing him like I didn't even say anything in the first place. Then, I told my boyfriend some things and I told him I only wanted this to be between us. So he just goes to school (we dont go to the same school) and he goes and complains to two of his friends about it. Then one of them calls me and starts interrogating me about the situation. What can I do? He barely even listens to me.

tell him that yes, dan does flirt with you but you DO NOT flirt back and that he is the only one that you want to be with and dan is just jealous and that he shouldnt be getting mad.
--KALIE

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Ok, well, my friend...RG, I have known him since kindergarden and we're in 7th now. And he's in my 2 longest classes ((We have blocks at our school)) and sometimes we have pe together.Well, everyone thinks i like him. I supposively act like i do...but secretly i do. I don't know why. I just got over him, because i knew he'd never like me but here i go fallin for him again. I don't know what it is that attracts me to him so much. He's tall, ((6'1)) he alwayys smells good, and makes me laugh. He smiles whenever I laugh or laughs at me whenever i giggle because he's tickling my ears. He's gotta girlfriend. I guess he seems to be happy with her. Everytime I see them hug I just want to rip her hair out. Yeah jealousy I know..I guess it's hard for me too move on i just don't know what to do..

have you tried telling him how you feel? because maybe he thinks thats just how you are; flirty. but he doesnt know thats how you really feel. it seems like he likes you too but has a girl friend so hes not putting himself out there for you. but idk. i just think you should tell him that you like him and see what he has to say about it.
-- KALIE

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Prom is coming up fast... and at first i wasnt even going to go. But my friends convinced me. But now im dateless. There is this one guy i wanna ask. I've liked him for awhile but i have no clue how to ask him. i asked my friend who knows him if he knew if he was going. He said prom wasnt really his thing. But then i asked does he think if i asked him would he go... he said he would. Im soo confused... what should i do??? Ask him to prom??? Or should i leave it alone???

Lost Angel

ask him! he said that if you asked then he would go! definatly ask him! see im only in 8th grade so i havent totally gone threw the whole 'prom' thing yet and 8th grade social is at the end of may so yeahhh sorry.. i dont have suggestions about how to ask him except to just flat out ask him face to face!
-- KALIE

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sorry if this is difficult but im 13 (almost 14) and have never had a boyfriend. My firends tell me all the time im beautiful and i dont think im ugly or anyhting. the thing is ive had offers and stuff, but never really felt like i should be doing it. maybe its form my parents influence but up until now i didnt see anyhting wrong with it. whenever i think about it makes me feel as if no guys want me and that something is wrong with me and then i start to cry and feel really bad about myself?
what im asking is 3 questions

1. is there something worng with me?

2. should i be doing something to help me get a boyfriend

3. what things do i do?

theres nothing wrong with you! you said that youre beautiful and youve had offers. if you arent comfordable with having a boyfriend right now then dont force yourself just because "everyone else has one" or "youre 13 now and its that age" . just wait til the right one comes around, and in the mean time it wont hurt to mess around with a couple of the 'wrong' ones! lol!
--KALIE

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What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss?

it really depends on the person. my first kiss was in pre school at nap time. but the my first kiss that really ment something was in 6th grade. alot of people wait and alot of people dont. but about the middle school-ish age.

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My ex and i havent been together for 18 mos. now.
Hes had a gf for over a year, but the relationship burned out as quickly as it started.(they had sex the 2nd night they hung out) Him and i did alot of stuff, but we didnt have sex completely>(I didnt let him go in all the way> we liked each other since 7th grade, but we didnt start going out until our soph. year)We grew to love each other. This last gf that hes been with is as easy as they come(she will have sex with any guy) Shes 16 and has had at least 6 partners that i know of. My ex and her fought all the time. She told me he was an ass to her, but she would always keep taking him back! Its just a vicious cycle. He told me they fell in love very fast. I told him thats not love and that love takes time to grow, and he told me not to tell him what love is because he already knows!!! His version and mine arent the same by any means!! Sex is very sacred to me and i take it very seriously. This girl he cant seem to let go of throws it around like it means nothing to her!
When we were together>he never wanted to be with anyone else, just the two of us. He didnt want to hang out or do anything with anybody>just us two!! He was the very same way with his last gf too, but way worse! All they did was screw all the time! He lost all of his friends because of it. I wanted him to spend time with his friends and he always took that the wrong way, like i didnt want to be with him.
Since hes had her, he looks at relationships so differently now. When he was with me, he told me that hes not like that, and he didnt care if he got any, he just wanted to be with me!
We've hung out 2 times now since they have been broken up. The first time was last Nov. In the 3 hrs we hung out, we wrestled, gave each other back rubs, then he started making out with me. I was cool with that until he asked me to let him "stick it in". I told him no! He asked me at least 4 more times after, and i just kept saying no. I didnt hear from him after that. He told me he made his choice and wanted her back! 3 mos. later after they broke up again...we hung out once again! This time we just cuddled. The things that he was saying to me, i couldnt believe that was him talking! He told me he wants someone experienced, and that he doesnt want a virgin. *Theyre no fun*! (well screwing his last ex must feel like a virgin because he told me she bleeds everytime they do it) Shes been with another guy and he brags to everyone what they do and he talks so much crap about her, but he told me shes easy and thats all he wants. She still calls my ex says she still loves him, goes to his house before going to this other guys house. He doesnt care that she has sex with other guys just as long as he knows she still loves him and he will wait for her for as long as it takes.(just as long as she still gives him what he needs) and im sure she does.
He told me that im not up to par. I have been known to "Kiss" a guy here and there. wow, "kissing" verses "sex".
I thought that guys wanted girls that havent been around! How could he have changed soo much, and think that sex is love?? He can tell me hes in love with her all he wants, but i know, and so does everyone else>that hes in love with the SEX!! If he cared about her, he wouldnt be treating her like shit, and calling her a slut!!
So if any guys are reading this>please help me to understand what love is to them!!
Will rate high! Im sorry this is so long!

wow he sounds like a loser for sure! one of my ex's that is like one of my closest friends now, tells me all the stuff that he does with the girls down where he moved to. i just dont let it bother me. you have to do the same. dont let it get to you. he doesnt seem like 'your type' so when you too hang out dont get so 'physical'. make a friendship with him and let him figure out the hard way that theres more to love besides sex.

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