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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and a half. One time, he just kept telling me how he wanted to kill my friend Dan because he flirts with me and always asks about hooking up.He's also really mad because I'm sleeping over my friends house and Dan's sleeping over too, but not in the same room or anything.I'll tell my boyfriend to STOP and all he does is keep on talking about killing him like I didn't even say anything in the first place. Then, I told my boyfriend some things and I told him I only wanted this to be between us. So he just goes to school (we dont go to the same school) and he goes and complains to two of his friends about it. Then one of them calls me and starts interrogating me about the situation. What can I do? He barely even listens to me.
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tell him that yes, dan does flirt with you but you DO NOT flirt back and that he is the only one that you want to be with and dan is just jealous and that he shouldnt be getting mad.
--KALIE
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I think you need to stop and think about the position that your boyfriend has been put into. Theres a guy that has been flirting with you, and now you are going to sleep over under the same roof with him?
You may not think it's a big deal, but it is. You need to start thinking about what you would do if there was a girl always flirting with your boyfriend and then you find out that him and her will be staying over night at the same house. You would absolutely hate it, and be extremely upset. And you may not think so now, but thats only because you aren't in that situation.
As for him telling his friends about what's going on, I think it's ok for him to share his feelings with his friends, but when they start cutting in and questioning you, you need to hang up or walk away. But, I do think that you should put more thought into what you are about to do.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well.. to me it sounds like its a jealousy issue. no matter what, boys are always going to flirt with you- whether your taken or not. its just something your boyfriend has to deal with. he should realize that if you are with him, you obviously want to be. it sounds like he is a bit of a control freak. you shouldn't let him overpower you.. tell him to listen to you when he ignores you. and just tell him how you feel about the whole situation.
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if your boyfriend is so concerned about you ... then he obviously doesnt trust you which is not a good thing in a relationship, tell him once or twice more that you can handle it and that he should trust you but if he keeps trying to control you, i would break it off with him. also, does he seem like the kind of person who would actually kill someone, cause if he is then you might be getting yourself into trouble. be sure and be careful!!
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Ah sounds so familiar kinda.Okay well since he so called wants to kill your friend Dan you have to talk to him *( ur bf )* even if he wants to or not. Tell him you don't like it when he says that he is going to kill Dan and if he doesn't stop you don't want to keep goin out with him.Or something close to that..just give him a little wake up call.If he doesn't listen then he isn't a good boyfriend at all.♥ Good luck.
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Sit him down and talk to him. He needs to respect you for who you are and if he really does care about you has to be able to trust you and believe you. Let him know what you just wrote.
It could just be he doesn't like other guys flirting with you, whether or not you do it back. He might just be over-protective or just not 100% when it comes to trusting due to past experiences. Whatever it may be, ask him about it.
It doesn't seem fair for your boyfriend to say he wants to kill him if you aren't doing anything wrong in the first place. Sure, it probably drives him crazy to hear that it happens in the first place, but he should be able to understand that if you are not doing or saying anything to have Dan think you like him or want him, then it is not your fault he does that - and your boyfriend needs to believe you over anyone else...you are the ones in the relationship, not his or your friends.
So yeah talk to him about it and let him know how you feel - that you don't like what he is doing - and that he needs to accept your friends for who they are and cannot choose them for you. If after asking him to respect you and your friends, he continues to do this, then point that out to him: that he still does it after you asked him to stop. At that point then I would think about the relationship a bit more...being too overprotective is not always a good thing, and if it is there, you need to avoid it and get out as soon as possible. As for his friends, just ignore it. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Talking about killing people is pretty disturbing behavior. And betraying your confidence by telling his friends your secrets is REALLY bad - it means he doesn't respect you, and that you can't trust him.
He's not treating you right, and he doesn't seem to be a stable or trustworthy guy. He also seems to be very controlling, and potentially abusive, although I hope I'm wrong about that.
I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think that your relationship with him is going to work out well. If I were you, I'd look for ways to cool things off with him, or even start thinking about ways to end the relationship.
But if you do, be careful. Anyone who talks about killing people sounds at least a little nuts. The odds are that he's harmless, but still...be careful. Good luck!
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it seems like your boyfriend is frustrated that you spend time with other boys.. he probably trusts you but he is nervous about losing you! even though it comes out wrong it is a compliment and shows he really cares.. best thing you can do is spend more time with him and show him that you dont have interest in your friend dan. he will probably feel more comfterable about the situation then
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