YES. You are way too young. You have your enitire life to date. Wait until you're atleast in highschool.

Glad to know that you've come to realize that you'll never meet that kid.
And yes, it is VERY unhealthy & just plain dumb to waste tears on. I'm not sure why so many people are so obsessed with him, but get over it!

You KNOW its not going to happen, sooooo stop with the tears. And btw, you should think about listening to better artists.

Hey hun

You should definitley confront him about this. If this was MY husband, he wouldnt've gotten away with it.

BUT talk to him! As we all know in a marriage communication is so very important. And PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN! He needs to know what he can & can't do. And not to degrade men in any sort of way, but its like training a puppy. They need to know how to treat you, how to do things to your liking, and to know what they CAN OR CANNOT GET AWAY WITH!
As his wife, you have the right to know what's going on in any situation. So I advise you to talk to him. This is clearly innapropriate material to be sending to his lady friend. He should have known that it was too. If you need help with any further problems with this please feel free to ask.

hey there
well you've pretty much made your choice, which is not support him which means not living together. you need to realize this.
since you've chosen this, you need to figure out how to live without him. how to balance school, work, friends, family etc... do what you want to do now, you're young, single, going to school and working. spend time doing things you love. if the two of you were meant to be you'll find a way to end up together some how. but since you dont want to support him anymore, focus on yourself. do things you've always wanted. you've made your choice not to be with him over this.
money in relationships can be difficult to deal with. ive been in the same situation as you, but the reality of life is that money is hard to save and use it on things you want because you have to spend it on things you need.
hope i helped.

hey
you need to talk to him about this as a problem. dont use it to threaten him, just calmly sit down and talk. he needs to know how this affects you in your part of the relationship. tell him how hurt you are about it. if he respects the relationship and cares how hurt it makes you, then he'll do it from now on.
but also, find out why hes stopped doing it. to come to an understanding, but if its something like he forgets then its obviously not acceptable.
Im not saying he is, but he could easily be doing things behind your back as this is rather shady for him to be doing. why is it so hard for him to make a simple phone call? and it only seems fair to you as his g/f to call when he gets back so that you know hes okay and have you worrying. you need to tell him this and find out the reason why he hasnt done his part.
Hope i helped.

Hello there
What you need to do is talk to him if you havnt already. tell him exactly how you feel about him and how its effecting you. before you try to leave your husband, try hard to save your marriage for the sake of the children. Its not gonna be easy but even though you're having a tough time with each other, keep the children in mind.
As ive mentioned, tell him how you feel, this is the first step. find out what he has to say about it or if hes even willing to do something about it. remind him of the sacrifices you've done for him and the family. depending on if he changes or not should determine your next move. tell him you've been doing so much for so long and see him do nothing. you MuST be firm to get it across. after you tell him all this let him know if nothing changes you are ready to leave, you dont deserve this at all.
i hope this gets better for you and if you have any other questions let me know.

Hey there
Well regardless of the situation, one should never go after someone who is already with someone else, no matter how their relationship is going. The simple fact that this guy already has a girlfriend and cheats on her doesnt mean you can do things with him. Hes in a relationship. Whatever he does with his relationship is his business and in this case, problem because they both cheat.
Now im not saying you wanna take him away from his girl or trying to get physical with him, just explaining how things should be. In your case, still dont flirt with him. Its not right to flirt with someone else's man no matter how bad their relationship is or how they choose to treat it. He needs to have more respect for his girlfriend.
I know you may like this guy a lil but stop now before anything further happens.
Hope i helped.

hey there
id say tell him exactly how you feel. say you appreciate things he does for you and that you like being around him, but also say you dont want to neglect your friends while being in this relationship with him.
tell him you want to take it a little slower, but at the same time let him know how much you like what he does for you. let him know that you do like this relationship with him, but that you also want to be able to balance other things and people, such as friends, into your life.
if he doesnt understand tell him you need space & sometimes, have time for yourself, but in a good way dont make it seem negative. only reason for the space would be so that you dont find yourself wanting to avoid him, hence an unhealthy relationship you'll soon want out of.
sit him down and just talk to him about it but as i said dont make it seem negative or make it seem as if you're about to give him some bad news.
as your boyfriend he should be able to be understanding to your wants and needs, he should want you to be happy.
hope i helped hun.

hey there
well seeing that your only 15 and hes an adult you might wanna stop talking to him...he has no business flirting with a minor such as yourself. you see these news stories on tv about older men picking up minors (females & males) online, its wrong and 100% illegal.
Hes calling you cute names & flirting w/ you now, next thing you know hes gonna try to come & see you or ask to hang out somewhere.
yes girls dat older guys but charges can be put the men if they are dealing with minors & if sex is involved.
im not trying to scare you im sorry if i come off too stong but im just lettin you know for your own safety. i'm glad you realized something was kinda wrong about this enough to ask so yeah dont talk to the guy.
hope i helped.

hey im sorry about what youre going through but there are some things you can do....
first, dont give him too much attention. if he expects you to hug up under him, dont do it. all unessecary attention shouldnt be given. dont do too much for him either. do your duties as a wife, yes, but dont do little things for him anymore. no wife should be treated this way when shes done nothing wrong.
what the both of you might need is space right now. you cant seem to get through to him at all & the last thing you need is get in any type of arguement or fight, so on your part try to avoid them. go out with friends, go to the salon & treat yourself. try to relax & be stress free, take care of yourself.
but, eventually you are gonna have to sit down and talk to him seriously. if not now then later. you have serious thoughts of divorce, this you need to tell him. if he really doesnt want to lose you & if he really cares hed step his game up. if he continues to act the same way, put your foot down & tell him what your plans are if nothing changes, no b/s. if still nothing then take action to let him know how serious you are. nothing too drastic but something that you feel will get through to him.
i hope you can fix this and if theres anything else i can help you with let me know.
hope this was helpful & good luck.

Hey
I know how much you may feel for your boyfriend right now and how you cant wait to be living with him etc....but girl you know you cant honestly say you are 100% sure the both of you can handle a baby right now. And if you think you are, well, theres a LOT of learning for you that needs to take place immediatley.
I'm married, and living with the person you love & care for is not always the fairy tale people assume its going to be. What you need to do before you even think about having a baby (well there are several things) is acutally live with this guy. You will learn a LOT about him, yourself, and the both of you together. Its important that you two work as a team through everything. You wont know anything for sure until you live with the person.
Firstly, you are still 17. Im not saying theres anything wrong with young mothers but fourtunatley for you, you have a choice right now since you dont have a baby yet. You need to think about your life ahead of you. And most importantly, the baby's. You need to think about school and work and family and friends. Adding a baby to all of that is NOt cake.
Dont you wanna go to college? Dont you wanna be able to hang out with your friends whenever you want? You may say you feel like you can handle a baby right now but a lot of freedom is gonna be taken away from you.
Think of the baby...how are you gonna support it?
To be honest, I dont even think your boyfriend is gonna agree with you, and if he does hes probably not taking you seriously thinking its not gonna happen anytime soon.
You have so much to learn. And im sure everyone here has told you the right thing to do for now, which is not plan to have a baby. You may not even take our advice but i gaurantee if you do, you are gonna wish it wasnt so soon.
Be a smart girl and dont to this to yourself.

One should never have sex if they dont want to. And most importantly since you're in a relationship, dont let him talk you into it especially if youre not ready. Being scared & those other thoughts of you not wanting to have sex i wouldnt call immature, it could quite simply mean that you're not ready for it yet and thats perfectly fine, there are a lot of people out there that are in relationships that feel the same way. Dont rush it and dont let any guy tell you you have to when you dont want to.
No you dont need help hun, you're fine the way you are. :)
Hope I helped.

Hey there :)
Well my husband is in the air force and has been in for bout 2 1/2 years now. My experience with his work is acutally quite alright. Just like a regular job, he goes in at 7am and then comes home around 4-5pm. Twice a week he has something called PT. (Physical Training)Every few months or so he works 12's (12 hour shifts) This can last a few days and during this time hes usually on stand-by, so when he gets a phone call to come in, he must go. He hasnt been deployed yet but he hopes to be soon b/c they get paid a lot more $$ when they are. Also what a lot of people dont know, when someone is to be deployed doesnt mean they're going to the middle east, or even over seas. They could simply be going across the country. Depending on what location in the world, spouses can come along as well.
In all, it really depends on what type of job & what it entails. So i cant speak for all the wives or girlfriends out there, everyone has their own experiences. But hes taught me a lot about it and this year I'm planning to join myself :)
Hope I helped!

Hello my name is Gina. I'm 21-years-old
and would love to help anyone out.
A little about me: I've been married since I was 18 and have been to hell and back to keep this marriage together. But the only thing that has truely kept us together is our love....and a LOT of work. We have a son who is just a few months old whom I LOVE SO MUCH!

I am honest & blunt in my advice giving, and will probably tell you what you dont wanna hear.....Life isn't easy folks.

I look forward to helping anyone who needs it so please, ask away!

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