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We can't get along
Hi,I am 24, me and my husband have been together for 9 years and married for 2 1/2. we had our up's and downs, like all couples do bit lately we've been at each others throats. We argue constantly mostly because he's a 24 year old man with three kids who only wants to spend time with his playstation3.I feel like he doesn't care about me. For example last night I was feeling really sick and I ended up running to the restroom leaning over the toilet and you already know what happened. But, what bothered me is that my "husband" was fully aware that I was sick and he just watched me cup my mouth and run to the restroom but he never moved from in front of the television. the only one who came to check on me was my 6 year old. I feel that he doesn't care. and I can't make him. I want love, he tells me he loves me but he doesn't show it. There have been times when I have been crying because we've gotten into an argument(i don't cry often)and he'll walk away singing like nothing ever happened he won't even see if I'm okay but then he expects me to hug up under him later like nothing ever happened. I am at my wits end and seriously thinking about divorce. I've already talked to him about it, even when he does listen he's goes right back to acting like he doesn't care about me the very next day.What should I do?
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hey im sorry about what youre going through but there are some things you can do....
first, dont give him too much attention. if he expects you to hug up under him, dont do it. all unessecary attention shouldnt be given. dont do too much for him either. do your duties as a wife, yes, but dont do little things for him anymore. no wife should be treated this way when shes done nothing wrong.
what the both of you might need is space right now. you cant seem to get through to him at all & the last thing you need is get in any type of arguement or fight, so on your part try to avoid them. go out with friends, go to the salon & treat yourself. try to relax & be stress free, take care of yourself.
but, eventually you are gonna have to sit down and talk to him seriously. if not now then later. you have serious thoughts of divorce, this you need to tell him. if he really doesnt want to lose you & if he really cares hed step his game up. if he continues to act the same way, put your foot down & tell him what your plans are if nothing changes, no b/s. if still nothing then take action to let him know how serious you are. nothing too drastic but something that you feel will get through to him.
i hope you can fix this and if theres anything else i can help you with let me know.
hope this was helpful & good luck.
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