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more teenage drama :b
So this all began when I told my friend I had sex with my boyfriend. I still don't really know why I told her, but I guess I brought all this upon myself for doing so. Anyways, I told her and had her swear she wouldn't tell anyone because you know how it is...in teenager world, if you have sex one time with your boyfriend, you're automatically a slut and nothing will ever change that. So obviously, I didn't want this getting around. But I told her and she, of course, went and told people. Now that's not what's bothering me. I mean yeah, it wasn't her secret to tell and she shouldn't have told, but looking back I should have known that she was going to tell someone. The thing is, she told her exboyfriend (who I really don't know, he is a complete stranger to me) and that makes me wonder why she is talking about me and sex to her exboyfriend, when she has a new boyfriend. I mean I know she talks about me behind my back all the time but the only way they could have come to that topic of discussion was if they were talking about sex, right? I mean after all that this guy did to her, I don't really understand how she can even still talk to him, let alone talk to him about sex. I don't think her current boyfriend knows that she still talks to him, and he would be so heartbroken if he did. I can totally see her cheating on him in the future with her ex, or maybe dumping him for her ex, and I really don't want that to happen :/ I don't know...I don't really know what to make of all of this...I've already decided that i'm not mad at her, becase there's really know reason to stay mad, it won't help the situation. However, I'm not ever trusting her with anything again. So if you have any advice for this situation, I would be glad to hear it because I'm lost :b Thanks!
(We're all 15-16 so yeah, this has everything to do with teenage angst haha :b)
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well in the first place..
if she really was your friend then she wouldnt be talking behind your back like that.
& in the future if you slip up and say something really personal, she might tell the whole world.
what im saying is that you dont have to be mad at her and hold a grudge, but maybe you shouldnt be so close with her and start backing away from her. & if she cheats on her boyfriend, thats her problem..not yours.
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How close are you to this female friend and what is the main thing bothering you about this situation?
The issue of her ex? Well, I've had a similar problem with my current boyfriend and my ex and really it is up to her. She will most probably still feel the comfort levels she had with her ex, especially if she was with him for a long period of time.
I've been selfish in the sense that I've been waaaay too close to my ex after our break up and I don't deny it.
I think if you are sincerely, as a friend, worried about her causing problems with her current boyfriend, I suggest you address the matter with her in non condescending tones. Talk to her on a friendly level about the issue and try not to judge.
Then again, be careful not to prod where you're not invited or that may just cause more drama. Most of all, I'd encourage her honesty with her current boyfriend, rather than trying to change her habits.
Hope to have helped in some way. :) x
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