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Wanting out of a bad marriage!
My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years now. We have a 2 year old son and another on the way. However, I am not happy anymore... He is such a little child and doesn't want to man up to anything! He doesn't work (or doesn't "want" to work i should say). All he does is sit at home all day and play video games and spends all my hard earned money on CRAP! I'm so sick of it! He doesn't help me out with the house or kids and acts like he doesn't care.
Anyway, I have been miserable for a long time, but never had the guts to actually leave him... until recently, I have met this really awesome guy who makes me feel so good about myself and is totally bringing out my husband's flaws in a brighter light. I'm not the type to cheat on my husband (as big an A-hole he is)... but oh my lord I am soo tempted! How do I get up the nerve to tell my husband its over I want out? :(
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What you need to do is talk to him if you havnt already. tell him exactly how you feel about him and how its effecting you. before you try to leave your husband, try hard to save your marriage for the sake of the children. Its not gonna be easy but even though you're having a tough time with each other, keep the children in mind.
As ive mentioned, tell him how you feel, this is the first step. find out what he has to say about it or if hes even willing to do something about it. remind him of the sacrifices you've done for him and the family. depending on if he changes or not should determine your next move. tell him you've been doing so much for so long and see him do nothing. you MuST be firm to get it across. after you tell him all this let him know if nothing changes you are ready to leave, you dont deserve this at all.
i hope this gets better for you and if you have any other questions let me know.
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dont mention anything about the other man. tell your husband you would like a trial separation -- pending that he grows up, gets a job, respects you and the family that you have built by taking care of them. if he cannot deliver make it clear that you will not be around to take him back simply because you refuse to raise your beautiful children in an unhappy home and you do not want your children looking up to a father who cannot provide for his family. "if mommas not happy, nobodys happy". but tell him exactly why you want to separate otherwise he wont know what to change.
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its hard to answer but i got this.....
you have to man up and tell him be truthfull with him he wont hurt you and maybe it will be for the better.... does he at least he shows he loves you and if not leave and if he has a problem with it leave hijm when he least expects it you know what im talking about and if he tries to hold you back there are programs that cam help you out
i hope i helped
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