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Boyfriend smothers me
I'm 15. My boyfriend is 17. I am a pretty normal person, but he is a complete geek. He wears glasses, likes computers, etc. I don't mind though, because he's still cute and I love him. The problem is that we have only been dating for 3 weeks but he acts like we're married! It's Valentines day on Sunday but I won't be seeing him so today he gave me this huge rose and a chocolate and a teddy bear and this huge home made card and everything! The worst part is that it was in front of everybody! He wants to be with me 24/7. I don't mind that, but I also need some time with my friends! It feels like he's smothering me with too much love. I want to take it a bit slower or the love will fizzle out too soon. How do I tell him it's too much too soon without hurting his feelings?
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AlyssaMarie15 's advice is NOT advice, dont listen to her hun. she doesnt know anything about you and cannot just say that stuff. you should really report what she said, but anyways..
3 weeks is not a very long time, and i see where you're coming from, but maybe put yourself in his shoes.. he obviously cares for you very much and it started even before you became a couple. im completely certain that his intentions are not to smother you but to show you that he is falling for you and that you deserve the best. i mean, not every girl is going to find a guy that gets her all of that stuff and is bold enough to give it to her infront of people, especially your friends, so give him some credit :] it takes alot of confidence to do that, even though you may not think so.
with that said and that thought in mind, either talk to him in person or over the phone or whatever. and nicely tell him how you feel. first thank him again for the sweet things he got you and how youre sure he put alot of thought into the gifts and that youre very greatful [mkae sure he knows youre not just taking it for granted or disliked it] then continue to say how although it was such a sweet thing to do you just think that for 3 weeks the relationship is escalating a little too fast for you and youd rather just take it slower more baby steps then big leaps. yuh know ? and just tell him that he did a very caring thing but to just take it down a knotch so you both can get used to eachother and more understanding.
hell get it and you wont hurt his feelings, i promise. youll only hurt his feelings by not telling him whats wrong. you obviously want to have every moment be special and not just spur of the moment [which can sometimes be good] but for 3 weeks, you have a right to feel a little overwhelmed, hes just very happy to have you as his girlfriend :] you have what every girl wants.. except youre getting it very fast.
dont worry, itll get better, but communicaion is key :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck girl, xxo.
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Just be completely honest with him =] Annndd sometimes a guy like that is better then a guy who ignores you.. trust me
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Don't listen to that girl alyssa or what ever you need to report her answer thats rude.
Being honest with your boyfriend is your best bet. Tell him I like you a lot or love you and I dont want a break I just want us to slow down and I want to spend sometime with my friends to. Just say it nicely.
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hey there
id say tell him exactly how you feel. say you appreciate things he does for you and that you like being around him, but also say you dont want to neglect your friends while being in this relationship with him.
tell him you want to take it a little slower, but at the same time let him know how much you like what he does for you. let him know that you do like this relationship with him, but that you also want to be able to balance other things and people, such as friends, into your life.
if he doesnt understand tell him you need space & sometimes, have time for yourself, but in a good way dont make it seem negative. only reason for the space would be so that you dont find yourself wanting to avoid him, hence an unhealthy relationship you'll soon want out of.
sit him down and just talk to him about it but as i said dont make it seem negative or make it seem as if you're about to give him some bad news.
as your boyfriend he should be able to be understanding to your wants and needs, he should want you to be happy.
hope i helped hun.
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