hey im heather. im 18 and im a senior in highschool. im here to help anyone who needs advice so leme no the problem and ill be happy to help
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Hi. Okay so this is my problem.
I have a new boyfriend. But I love my exboyfriend, and he loves me. My exboyfriend has a cheating problem (he's cheated quite a lot). Finally, I told him I was done and I got a new boyfriend, who I really like, but not as much as my ex. My ex has been telling me that he never knew what it felt like to be put through what he's put me through, and now he's convinced that he's never gunna cheat again. I want to be with him, but I also don't wanna break my current boyfriend's heart. I really don't know what to do because I'm torn between the two of them. I'm scared that if I stay with my current boyfriend, I'll go through what I always end up going through with my ex where we just don't talk for months and I'm miserable until we start talking again. My current boyfriend is more loyal, but he also lies alot.. he's famous for telling girls what they want to hear instead of what's really happening (he told his last girlfriend he loved her when he really didn't). And he's really bad about like talking to me. We barely talk at all unless we're hanging out, otherwise we almost never talk on the phone or text or whatever. He's also really late all the time which I can't stand. I really don't know what to do. I love my ex, but I don't wanna go back to him just to get my heart broken again. He seems legit this time. But I also don't want to hurt my current boyfriend. What do I do? I'm 16 by the way, and they're both 16, if that helps anyone. (link)
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hey girl, wow when i read this i thought of exactly what i went through and am currently going through. im going to give you all the advice i can so that maybe you won't get hurt like i did.
ex boyfriend- cheater!
current boyfriend- liar!
when i was 17 i was in love with my bf. we dated for a year. he loved me and always told me we would be together forever. we wanted to go to the same college and even did stupid stuff like planning our wedding that would happen someday (:
we told eachother about our past relationship at the beg. of our relationship and when he said he cheated on his ex i didnt think anything of it caz he said he had "CHANGED" and he would never hurt me. well he did. he cheated on me and then blamed it on me and said that he couldnt handle all these guys looking at me and me bein around guys all the time (caz i model). we broke up because he couldnt be faithful. about 2 months later we start talking again and he begs me to come back and says that he is a loyal man now and wants to be with me, so in the process of us getting back together (we were together unofficially) he goes off and cheats again and it hurt me so bad caz i opened myself up again and he jus tore me apart.
i am now with my new bf and hes a sweet guy but he doesnt txt much and hes really shy. at times i miss my ex but you gotta tell yourself tht you deserve better than that. hunny, hes your EX for a reason, and once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater and its soo true.
as for your problem, i would stick with your bf and leave your ex in the past. let him no that he had his chance and he lost it. it was his fault and you deserve a loyal guy. i know it will be hard caz you love him but if you go back to him it will cause you more pain because the truth is once he has you back he will disrespect you and continue to be unfaithful. dont let him win girl. let him leave with regret of the huge mistake he made by letting your relationship go.
goodluck and if you need anymore help with this or anything else jus message me (inbox me.
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okay so im 15/f almost 16:). anyway me and my ex kyle broke up about a year ago. hes been dating this new girl for awhile now. and me and him talk still like we use to when we dated he still says he loves me and wont get over me. and well i feel the same way about him, but he has a girlfriend. they fight a lot a lot. she doesn't like him talking to any girl at all. she has spies on him if shes not there she has one of her friends watch him like hes a baby, hes a big boy and can do what he wants to do. im kinda the other girl like we talk about hooking up and stuff im fine with him having a girl friend. just because i don't care about her. i know how she would feel if he cheats on her but. its like i said i don't care about her. i know what i want and its him. but its going to be even harder in school to see him with her and when he kisses her im going to have to live with that. he says i cant date another boy. but hes dating another girl is that fare? he also gets mad at me when we talk about our pasts and what we have done. he doesn't like the fact that i've done somethings in my past is that fare? when hes done more then me?? i don't get mad about it. (link)
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hey girl, heres my advice because i had the exact same problem with this guy i dated for a year and we recently jus broke up but we still flirt and evrything. first off, NO MAN SHOULD TELL YOU WHAT TO DO! (: whether its who your talking to or what your talking about or even who your dating. you and your ex arent together and he has a new gf so he has no right to tell you that you cant date other guys. second, if you want to talk about your past then go right ahead. he has no right to control you.
as for the whole hooking up thing.. you can take my advice or leave it, im jus being honest because ive been there before and personally don't hook up with him. i mean he is your EX for a reason so there is obviously a reason you two arent still together. even though you dont care about his gf, what if you were his gf and he was trying to hook up with his ex, wouldnt you feel betrayed and hurt. all im saying is it isnt right because hes goin to use you and then go back to his gf and there you are all broken hearted. if he wants to be with you then he will break up with his gf. my advice is to stay away and jus be casual friends with him but move on to new guys that you can date.
goodluck and if you need any more help with this issue or anything else i am always here jus message me! (:
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I am a sophomore in college and have been friends with a girl since my junior year of high school. Well I guess I shouldn't call it a friendship. Here is a little bit of background on the situation. Good "friends" until she got with her current boyfriend ( they have been together for about a year and a half I would say). During their relationship, I noticed the girl and I hung out a lot less. It's not like she ditched all of her friends, just me. I never confronted her about it because we never talked anymore. I find out her boyfriend doesn't like me for reasons I don't know. He didn't like her hanging with me an it's pretty obvious she listened to him and ignored me. She even deleted me off her facebook friends and blocked me for no reason a couple months ago. But today I got a facebook message of her apologizing and how she was a terrible friend and what not. I did not write anything back yet. I am not sure what to say, if I should make it a big deal or not. We haven't talked since June. I want her to know i forgive her but at the same time I've realized I don't need someone like that in my life. Sorry for the length. Any advice? (link)
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hey girl, hmm my advice would be to let her no that you accept her apology but that what she did was wrong. she picked her bf over you and that should make you pissed. i wouldnt take her back as a friend jus yet. make her work for it and let her know that you dont need her in your life if shes gonna treat you like that.
goodluck. (:
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everytime after i pee, like right after, i have this pain that feels like i have to pee extremely bad. like ive been holding it in but i just went pee and cant pee anymore. what is it and can i do anything to fix it? (link)
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hey girl, what it could possibly be is a urinary tract infection. it is cureable with antibiotics. my advice would be go to the doctor and they will be sure to help you. (:
goodluck and if you have any other questions lemme no (:
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Ugh seriously my life sucks so bad and i just can't deal with it any more.!:(
I have been home schooled for a year now I left public school second semester of 7th grade and now i am in 8th. I lost ALL of my friends from being home school i have not EVEN one friend! I hate being home schooled i want to go back to school so bad i hate being home on a computer all day and i have no freakin life! It's not fair i want to go back so bad i just want to be a regular teen! Whitch leads to my second problem.... I hate the way i look I hate my body and i am to emmberest to go back to school cause I am fat! so thats why i can't go back i hate myslef and i am not strong and comfterable anuff to go back. I just want to be a normal teen, when i was in school i was the popualar girl not the annoyying mean stupid ones but everyone new me. Well now i am nothing. SO to fix my problem i work out everyday!!! 7 out of 7 days running bikeing stretching light weights EVERYTHING!!! i am on like the 4th month so far and i haven't lost a POUND!!!! i don't get whats wrong with me:(? I seriously cry everyday wondering why i can't be happy with myslef and not be huge i just want to be skinny and ughh it's not fair.
Next problem!.... I am the youngest one in my family My siblings cousins everyone! there all at that age were they can go out drink blahh blahh blahh and then theres me i am kinda of an outcast in my family for certin things, but it sucks that i can't be at that age they get to experince things i don't and i am left out it sucks! so bad being the youngest in your family. I hate how i have to prove to them i am not a freakin 5year old anymore the expect me to watch like Pooh bear (not really but do you get what i mean) and it pisses me off how they don't think i no what going on in the world like they think i don't no what sex or anything ugh idk they treate me like im 2 like really? your fucking anoying ugh whatever!! i hate my life and it's such a waist! i don't understand why any of this is going on it's not fair!!!!!!!
SOrry i just needed to let this out cause i have no one to talk to! i tell my mom this all the time but she never helps ugh this suckkss :( sorry if you have any advice feel free to let me no:( (link)
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I have had my period for about 3 years now. For some reason I am always late in November.BUT not this late! I have jus recently been fingered. And I am one week and a couple of days late on my period. I have sore breast and cramps. I have no idea whats wrong with me!! Could U have missed it??? (link)
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hey girl, okay take a deep breath. (: the only way it is possible for you to be pregnant is if the guy who fingered you had his cum on his fingers when he fingered you. if there was no site of his cum near your female part then everything is okay. when you have oral sex or sex for the first time it can cause your period to run a little late. give it a few more days and then look into seeing a doctor.
goodluck and im always here to help
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i have a crush on this boy in the year above me an he knows. whenever i see him around school he always looks at me but then when me or my freind turns and looks back at him he looks away quickly like as if he doesnt wont us to see he is looking at me. so what i was thinking was asking him out, but theres a problem he already has a girlfriend. i have liked him for ages but it doesnt seem to be getting me anywere with him so should i just give up on him and move on or should i wait till him and his girlfriend breake up. because i dont wont to give up on him if he likes me. im just so confused any help please ? :P (link)
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hey girl, my advice would be to move on. if he already has a gf and hes not planning on breaking up with her fer you then it means hes happy with his relationship. find a guy who is single and who gives you the attention you would like. someone who you can start a relationship with.
goodluck and im always here to help
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ok, im a shy girl and i have kinda a pretty girl style. and i was thinking about going scene/emo because i really like thier styles and hair. but i dont know if i should, because im afraid of what people might say. like "oh look at her, shes trying to be all scene now. poser!" and i dont want that.. so help?? (link)
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hey girl, my advice to you is do what makes you happy and dont worry bout what others think. (: if you want to change your style then go for it! whatever makes you happy!
goodluck girl and im always here to help! (:
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I am angry. I'm sure there are more girls out there who are as angry out there as I am. I am 17. I am so sick of pussy hungry guys. Why does it seem like now days all guys want is sex. They can't stick with one girl for at least a month. Its like, they can't ever get enough pussy at all. I am just sick of it. It's just so selfish and pig like. What is happening? It just seems to get worse every year. I know not all guys are like this, but most of them are...ew...its so irritating! I just want to hear your opinions guys/girls, what you think about what i'm saying. (link)
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hey girl, i know exactly what you mean. all guys think with their dick and jus want to stick it in some girl. their horny as hell and really immature. even though like 3/4 of the guy population jus wants pussy, their are a few nice guys out there who want an actual relationship. so keep your head up and eventually youll find someone who wants you for you not for sex.
goodluck
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OK so I have to ask. My girlfriend has been crazy for me to cum inside her but I am afraid of making her pregnant. She is on birth control and everything but still I feel like she is trying to trap me with a baby. Why? Because this is what she told me: She said that having cum inside her is a feeling of completeness and is 1000x better than orgasms.
Have any of you ever heard this? Is this for real? Do you really feel like that?
Thank you! (link)
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hey, my advice to you is continue to use protection. even through she is on birth control doesnt mean it prevents pregnancy 100 percent. i no shes yer gf but if she ends up pregnant do you really want to have to take care of a baby all bc you didnt wear a condom. goodluck and if you care about her youll use a condom.
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My relationship with my ex was incredibly stressful and destructive. We argued constantly and even though we loved and cared about each other, we couldn't make it work. We were together for about a year but split up at least twice during that period. Eventually, I ended the relationship. He claimed to be heartbroken and kept calling and texting me with angry and hurtful messages.
About a week later, it turned out he was seeing a girl I'd always been suspicious of. He is now having a relationship with her. Although he admitted he was still in love with me, he said he had moved on and refused to discuss it with me. Now he won't talk to me at all.
I know I broke up with him and he has every right to do what he wants but I can't help being hurt and upset. It feels like a betrayal. Although it could just be a rebound thing, it's like he's chosen the one girl he knew would hurt me the most. I can't help but think he didn't really love or care about me if he can move on that quickly. I assumed we had mutual respect for each other and after he tried so hard to guilt trip me and upset me when we split up, I'm surprised that he immediately got into a new relationship.
I want to just forget about it, but I can't stop thinking about the fact that he's with her. I've avoided going out because in case I bump into them and because the girl lives just round the corner from me, I'm scared I'll see her. My ex also goes to my college and is in one of my classes, so I can't avoid him. How can I forget about this? It's making me angry and upset and affecting everything in my life. (link)
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hey girl, i went thru the exact same thing! its going to be so hard to get over him but in the long run itll be for the best. you deserve better then him. now as for his quick relationship, it could be for many reasons, to make you jealous, as a rebound or maybe he really is trying to move on and start fresh. my best advice to you is go out and have a good time caz baby girl now yer single and no one can tell you what to do (:
goodluck!
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latley my boyfriend and i have not ben nearly as close, weve talked about it alot and have stopped fighting as much but how can we become so close again? also i might have fallen out of love with him :'( i dont want to talk to him on the phone anymore i find an excuse to hangup, id rather be with friends instead and so on. how can we become close again, i love him but idk whats going on.
today i went to kitaro and asked for an application and the waiter an i talked for over ten min and we both kept catching ourselves ,dare i say, flirting, the other guy never came back with an app so after a while i just said i had to go il come back some other time. i wasnt going to cheat but i felt so much more love out of him than out of my boyfriend of a year n a half.. any tips? :( 15/f (link)
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hey girl, i think its time to move on. it seems like your bf isnt what your looking for anymore which is perfectly okay. i think by ending the relationship, it will allow you to find someone that you are truely happy with and you wont be stringing along your bf any longer.
goodluck!
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Okay so i met this boy... Lets call him J. He is an awesome guy we talked for a few weeks and hung out and stuff until one night I stood the night at the house. Now let me make it clear that he did say he liked me and I told him the same but I cant start anything because Im leaving in january for 5 months.... Okay So anyways I stayed the night at his house one night and things got heated lets just put it that way. But ever since then he hasnt texted me or anything he'll answer back if I text him but it's only one word answers. SO I was just wondering if I should text him and bluntly ask if Ill be wasting my time trying to continue talking to him or just keep trying to see whats up... Im not gonna cry over it or anything ill get over it but I dont know, it just bugs me when people start ignoring me.... Now now, what should I do? (link)
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hey girl, dont text him. forget him. let him text you. dont get worked up about it bc he seems like a jerk. im gonna be completely honest caz ive gone thru what you went thru and it sounds like he jus used you as a hook up and doesnt want you as anything more which is why he isnt txtn you as much to hint around that hes not interested. the best advice i could give you is move on he isnt worth it.
goodluck!
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I'm love my boyfriend and he loves me. Neither of us is religious so we don't really believe in the whole "wait until you're married" thing. We've done everything except sex. He wants to have sex, and I do too, but I'm kind of scared it might change our relationship. Lately all we've been talking about is having sex, and I'm afraid once we do, there's not really going to be a meaning to our relationship anymore. I brought this up to him and he said that he doesn't look forward to sex as much as he looks forward to seeing me and just hanging out with me. So maybe I'm just paranoid, but does sex change a relationship? Did it ever change yours? Please don't tell me "if you're asking questions then you aren't ready for sex" because I think it helps to ask questions so you can prepare for sex :) Oh and we're both virgins if that helps. Thanks! (link)
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hey girl, yes sex deffinitely changes a relationship. im 18 and i had sex with my bf when i was 16. we went out for a year. 3 months after we had sex we broke up. he started to disrespect me and treat me really bad. if i had a chance to take it all back i would. im not here to lecture you bc its yer choice but jus for a minute put all emotions aside and think about the cons to sex..possible pregnancy so you better be covered caz condoms can break..and you might want to get on birth control. just be careful and make sure you two really care for eachother and have thought about all the possiblities bc if you get pregnant will he stay by your side or leave you?
goodluck!
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Well I'm currently in a relationship but I also still talk to my ex boyfriend who I still have strong feelings for and I know he has them for me too because he tells me...well today we talked on the phone because he texted me saying he needed to talk to me about something important so i called him and he told me that his feelings are getting stronger for me to the point where he can't just be my friend and that he needs to be more than that and he sees us going far together in the future and I've been thinking the same way but I have a bf sooo I dont know what to do but the thing is me and him dont live in the same state because i moved but before i moved we developed feeings for eachother and told eachother and in the current relationship I'm in now I'm bored and I dont wanna be in it but I'm trying to give it a chance...I'm sooo confused...what should I do??? and he acts ike more of my bf than my current bf...plz help me (link)
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hey girl, i understand what yer goin thru. what i think you should do is sit down and think about if you can handle a relationship where you will not be able to see yer bf all the time, and that you can trust him when yer not around bc you dnt want to ruin things with yer current bf but if you have more feelings for yer x then go for it.
goodluck!
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Hey guys well I'm having this issue with my boyfriend and I feel that I need advice on. Yesturday we argued because he gives his phone numbers to girls and of course they call him, and yesturday was the same situation in which a girl had called him and he didnt want to admit he gave her the number. But then after he did. I don't wanna say that he's cheating on me because as far as I know he's not. But he is very social and talks to alot of girls in school, I'm not on the other hand when I have a relationship I like to back away from being too friendly with other guys because I know for a fact that brings drama. I don't like the fact that when I bring up that I don't like having to deal with all these girls he gets upset and starts acting defensive because he's not cheating and he doesnt understand why I don't like it. I tell him that if he were in my shoes he would be pissed off too, because he's really jelous but he doesnt have to deal with this because I don't doit. Im debating on whether to start talking to guys and giving my number out too because at the moment I dont think the relationship is being fair towards me. I don't like to think I'm a control freak but I don't like that half of those girls he gives his number out to speak to me bad and they like him, even though he claims they don't. I feel he doesnt respect me. What do you guys think? Let me know.
Thanks!:) (link)
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hey girl, okay well i recently just broke up with my bf bc of that same issue. there should be no reason for yer bf to tlk to other girls when he has you. idc if he is social or not, he is committed in a relationship and you deserve better than that. it doesnt seem like he respects you and you should demand respect (: i would tlk to him about this and if he is not willing to change then drop him girl and find a real man (:
goodluck!
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hello. i am 15/f.
okay so there is this guy who i have a crush on. we are kinda friends. we talk a lot on facebook and we just started texting. i talk to him a bit at school, but rarely because we barely see each other. he is a senior so he had early leave. i see him right before he leaves the school to drive home. so you know everytime i see him i walk all the way up to the door that leads to the senior's parking lot and i give him a hug goodbye. the other day i saw him at the beginning of school and he gave me a hug. i was surprised because i am the one who usually gives hugs... so there is a play going on at my school and he texts me to come see the play so i can hangout with him a bit. i told him i didn't have a ride and he should come pick me up. he told me that he wished but he couldn't leave the school. so the guy i am crushing on, his name is jack, has a good friend named steve that has a crush on me. jack knows that i am not interested in steve cuz steve does pot and i don't like guys like that and jack knows that. so i am in school walking jack to the entrance to the parking lot and i was going to give him a hug but he was walking so it would be hard to just stop him for a hug so i decided not to but i think he noticed i wanted one because he leaned his arm on my shoulder. but then i notice he was walking faster than me but he slowed down for my pace. i thought that was wierd. and we both have facebooks and he answered a question that was asking if he ever had a crush on me, he answered yes. so i text him on monday night and i say "HAHA YOU HAD A CRUSH ON ME!:P" and he just answers back "HAHAHAH XD" so i told him i was making brownies and bringing some to school the next day and i asked him if i saw him would he want one. and he said "if you see me, then sure :p" but i saw him yesterday and i asked him if he wanted a brownie and he just says "no" and walks away. i dont know. maybe i am just sensitive. maybe he just acts that way all the time? we made plans to go to the movies the week before and we planned on going together the weekend that just passed. so on that day i text him "hey are you busy?" he answers "yeah. :0 por quee?" and i text him "MOVIES" (but in spanish). and he goes "what movie?" and i told him "didn't we agree on xxx" and he goes "oh yeahhh :p" so i go "hmm". he texts back "hmmm". i ask him "unless you want to see something else". and he goes "no i dont care :p". so i ask him "so we going are what?". and he texts back "not today :/". i think he has a crush on me. but i am getting confused. maybe he is kinda backing off a bit because of steve? (link)
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well it looks like this guy is very interested in you but just remember that since he is a senior, he is probably lookin to attend college which could complicte things. i would take things slow with this boy because he is 18 and you are 15. goodluck (:
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