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Forgiven but not fogotten
I am a sophomore in college and have been friends with a girl since my junior year of high school. Well I guess I shouldn't call it a friendship. Here is a little bit of background on the situation. Good "friends" until she got with her current boyfriend ( they have been together for about a year and a half I would say). During their relationship, I noticed the girl and I hung out a lot less. It's not like she ditched all of her friends, just me. I never confronted her about it because we never talked anymore. I find out her boyfriend doesn't like me for reasons I don't know. He didn't like her hanging with me an it's pretty obvious she listened to him and ignored me. She even deleted me off her facebook friends and blocked me for no reason a couple months ago. But today I got a facebook message of her apologizing and how she was a terrible friend and what not. I did not write anything back yet. I am not sure what to say, if I should make it a big deal or not. We haven't talked since June. I want her to know i forgive her but at the same time I've realized I don't need someone like that in my life. Sorry for the length. Any advice?
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Hey!
First I'd like to say that I'm sorry to hear this, Its so hard to find a good friend and when you think you've found one, they go and do something that makes you question the friendship so i totally know how confused you might be.....now for what I think lol:
For someone to ditch a once good friend is obviously wrong in this situation. Seeing that shes kept this up for about two years, when at first her relationship wasnt serious yet??? Yeah that lets me know that you werent too important to her....Shes a year and a half too long for her apology. Tell her how you fell, like you want to let her know you accept her apology but you dont see a future friendship with her. Maybe not a relationship as close as before or if at all, whatever you feel is right. So tell her how you feel hun, I'm sure you'll pick the right words and make the right desicion. =)
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I think your assessment of your situation is spot on. You don't harbor any ill will toward this girl, but you understand that she isn't someone you want to be involved with. Message her back, and tell her that you forgive her and there are no hard feelings. You don't need to tell her you think she is toxic and you no longer want to be close friends anymore. Unless she specifically asks, she doesn't need to hear it. It would only hurt her and that's not what you're trying to do. Then simply leave it at that. If she emails you and Facebooks you a lot, just don't respond very often. She'll eventually get the hint and go find some other friends.
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hey girl, hmm my advice would be to let her no that you accept her apology but that what she did was wrong. she picked her bf over you and that should make you pissed. i wouldnt take her back as a friend jus yet. make her work for it and let her know that you dont need her in your life if shes gonna treat you like that.
goodluck. (:
<3 heatherr 18/f
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