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SO This guy told me he loved me last night but were rely good friends and i dont know if he was just saying that to be cute or if he rely ment it this is so hard btw i love him so much but i'm not sure if he feels the same

Communication...it's the solution to everything, from world peace and global warming.

Anyways...

Was he serious when he told you he loved you or was he just joking around and laughing? If he was serious then I'm guessing he actually meant it, and if he wasn't being serious he probably just meant it in a "You're my friend and I love you sort of way."

Talk to him; if you're really good friends then he won't laugh at you about it. Find somewhere quiet to talk and ask him what he meant when he told you he loved you? Be serious about it too, don't make asking him into a joke because you're nervous. If he really does love you then he'll deny it.


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I have been talking to this kid Alex, and to me he is a sweetheart and really fun to be around. He is friends with my sister, and ever since him and I started talking she's been getting mad. She never lets me talk to any of her friends at all, even though it would be them who started it.

Anyways, Alex hangs out with my sister's friends, whom I guess you can say are "bad." They do drink and smoke and what not, but really they are the nicest kids to talk to and hang out with.

Since my mom knows about all of the things my sister's friends do, she assumes that Alex does the same (which he does, but he's not as bad.)

Last night I hang out with him, and I had such a good time. There was no awkward silences or anything. Except my mom is very paranoid about him, and does not want me to hang out with him, although she said she is not going to stop me.

I don't know what to do. I really like Alex and I want to continue seeing him, but I don't want my mom to get mad at me whenever I want to hang out with him.

I need any type of advice you can offer, I would really apperitiate it.

You're mom doesn't know Alex, she may have judged him based on the people he hangs out with, but she doesn't know him. Maybe he can come over to your house; it'll give your mom a chance to meet him, and maybe be more comfortable with you seeing him.

If your sister doesn't have a good reason for being mad when you're with him then just ignore her, sisters will be sisters. We get mad for the sake of getting mad. If you're really concerned about why she's mad then talk to her about it.

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Hey its me celina...
omg valentines day pasted and my stupid crush wasnt even in town for it =(. Everyone was saying how they thought he was going to ask me out, but he wasnt even here! Well, now what do i do? It started out him being really flirty and mushy gushy at my best friends party. And then him not even looking at me the next few days at school. And then everyone saying he liked me and was betting how he was going to ask me out on vday. But he wasnt here so nothing happened. So what do i do now? I cant just go up and talk to him..itd be wierd! -He should come up to me! And now he probably wont ask me out anymore because its never guna be the right time...im to scared to call him. What should i do?
-Celina

I see it this way...
You can either go up and talk to him, or forever wonder what would've happened if you had. You need to show him that you're actually interested in him, if you wait for him to make a move he may think that you don't like him and move on. Girls can go up and talk to guys...girls can call guys. It's not agianst the law, just take the initiative.

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okay me and my bf have more in common than different
but one of the big differences is he actually likes to talk about problems and i don't i hate talking things out. when ever we have a fight i get scared not that hes going to dump me but the fact thats hes going to want to talk about it so should change myself for that because i dont want to lose him

Don't change yourself, but maybe it's possible to compromise?

In a relationship you've got to give and take? You may not like talking about things but sometimes it may be necessary and you're going to need to.

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i'm going on sort of a double date thing on friday. Its going to be me and my boyfriend and my friend and her boyfriend going to the movies.My boyfriend and i haven't kissed yet and he said he was gunna kiss me in the movie. This will be my first kiss. Wat should i do?????
Thanx in advance

Usually I like to avoid cliches but...just go with the flow.

Don't worry about it to much or you'll be nervous and tense, so just stay calm and everything will be alright.

Let him initiate the kiss and don't try to hard, just follow his lead.


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Hi there. =)

Okay, my ex had told his friends that I was a bad kisser, and one of is friends relayed that back to me. He was my first boyfriend, so I'm convinced I could have been bad at it...so any help, advice, or experiences would be very much appreciated!

Thanks a bunch!

My advice is to not worry so much about it, your ex-boyfriend is probably just a bit hostile and just wants to feak you out. It's not like he said anything when you were together right?

If they're spreading rumors it'll blow over eventually. And when you find the right guy it'll be fine, just don't worry about your kissing skills next time you kiss a guy because it'll probably just make you nervous and tense and well...a bad kisser.


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theres this boy that i like and he likes me too. the problem is we never see each other. i dont want to be pushy and i know i cant invite him. hes really flirtatious so he'll make pretend plans for us. how do i get him to be serious because i want to see him

Sometimes guys joke around or pretend to joke around when they're actually serious; so if they get rejected it's not as embarrasing. If you want him to be serious, then you have to be serious. It's as simple as that. If he sees that you're really serious about wanting to hang out with him and be with him, he'll probably follow suit...but you have to initiate the seriousness ;)


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16-f
ok well
me and my bf have been together for 4months
and idk if what i got him will be ok :-/
i bought him some $40 cologne that he wanted but not the whole set :( & a cute little bear & i was gonna make him a cute little card.

I think that's a great Christmas gift for your boyfriend! Especially for the period of time you've been together.


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There's a lady I love, and I've know her for more than a year. Recently she broke up with her boyfriend who not one person liked, but she told nobody but me. Since then she spent a lot of time with me. A ridiculous amount of time, and we've gotten together now, but we decided that it be best that nobody knows, because of the atmosphere of people where we work is pretty horrible.

Now somewhere in between spending time together one day she decided to tell my best friend that she broke up with her boyfriend. Now he knows that she's single, but not that I'm her boyfriend. This is where the problem is the greatest: he wants to have a relationship with her now. He told her this, and even though it's was made clear to him that she doesn't want to he thinks that she just hasn't got over the loss of her boyfriend mean while the truth be that she don't like him for he puts on acts, and I'm her boyfriend.

So far our secret is still kept safe, but other people are seeming to get suspectful: the people who see us together.

Well I'd just like some people's opinions about this situation in general: does it sound OK? Also I'd like to hear some advice about how to handle the problem with my best friend who is trying to flirt with her all the time, because he thinks that she's single: she I just not tell him or tell him in a proper manner. Thank U

You shouldn't hide your relationship. You hide things you're ashamed of. Let your friend know you are together; that's the best way to solve the problem. Besides he's your best friend, you shouldn't keep things like this from him.


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what should I do my girlfriend is so mad at me that doesn't want to talk to me or see me I haven't seen her over a month?

A month? Wow, my guess is she probably thinks she has ended the relationship with you, even though she may not have said it.

You need to see her as soon as possible and talk to her! Really sit down and talk about your relationship. I don't know what you did to upset her so much that she wouldn't talk to you for a month, but you should apologise. The ball is definitely in your court, so you need to take initiative and find out where you stand with her.

I can't really tell you how you should handle the situation since you didn't give us much to go by, but if you need more advice feel free to drop something in my inbox.


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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years and I love him alot. Things are pretty good in our relationship, we don't really fight or anything.

Anyways, he recently got a job and he got a cellphone. I was putting my parents phone number into his phone and noticed there were two girls numbers in there that I've never seen or heard about. As I was doing that, he got a text message from one of the girls. And it simply said "Hey". Then the next day I went to use his phone to text message my sister and noticed that his inbox had been cleaned out. So of course, I get the feeling that he's hiding something..

Basically, it this harmless text messaging that's going on between them or should I be concerned? It's really none of my business who she is, but I'm curious as to where he got the number. I don't know if it's my place to ask him, let alone even know how to approach him about it.

Any advice/help would be great!

I think you're maybe just over-analyzing and reading into something that isn't there. I clean out my inbox sometimes too ;) It doesn't mean anything. You should trust your boyfriend until he gives you a real reason not to.

If you really want to know about the girls in his phonebook, then ask him. It's as simple as that. If he's not hiding anything he'll tell you, if he gets defensive then maybe he is hiding something.
But they're probably just some of his friends.

Remember, communication is really important in a relationship, so don't be afraid to bring this up in a conversation.


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The guy that I like doesn't like me back. No surprise, that happens a lot, right? But there's a big story behind this, if you feel like reading a lot:
I got my friend C to ask the guy I like R's friend M if M could ask R about me and stuff. I really wanted to know if he liked me back or not, but I'm guessing now that I wish I didn't. So basically, M, C, and I are having this huge rendezvous and R knows nothing about it. All R knows is I like him.
What M told C, when he asked R what he thought of me, is: She's really cool, but we don't talk that much (e.g. we don't know each other that well). And after C told me that, R's been saying "hi" to me in the hallways and stuff and he usually doesn't. But he doesn't like me. I really don't understand...

If that's all he said then you can't be sure that he doesn't like you, because that's not close to what he said. It sounds like he may like you a little, because he's making more of an effort to talk to you/get to know you now that he knows you like him.


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okay im a natural flirt and sometimes i dont even know when im flirting just my friends tells me that im flirting and such and when i like someone and they like me back i always back off or my feelings for them starting to fade away and stuff why is it like that? i never had a boyfriend do you think i have a commitment issue? even though they are hot and cute and all i lose interest if they likeme back what does it mean?

It probably means you're only in it for the chase, you like flirting and chasing after guys to see if you can get them. As soon as they start liking you, you've got them and you lose interest because that's what you wanted. There's nothing wrong with you, and as soon as you find a guy you genuinely like...once he likes you you'll still like him.

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I hope a lot of people read this, because I need a lot of advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months, and it's been the happiest four months I've had in a long time. Well, what happened, was before we started dating, him and his girlfriend at the time had just broken up. So, I'd log onto Myspace & she'd send me a bunch of crap saying how I was fat and ugly, and how I stole him from her. I ignored it. Honestly, I think she's insaneeee!

Anyways, I told Alex, my boyfriend when we first started dating, that I didn't mind if he talked to her, because I didn't want to seem possessive. But, like a week into them talking, he told me the stuff they were saying and I just told him he had to choose either her or me. I just didn't think it was fair, plus it made me really sad because she would constantly say how horrible of a person I am, to my boyfriend. So, he listened and stopped talking to her, then everything seemed okay, until..

randomly out of the blue like two weeks ago she sent him a message that says, "I miss you! I'm so sorry that I was mean to YOU! you have no idea how bad I feel. Please just talk to me." Alex said he wasn't going to respond to it, and that made me feel really good.

Yesterday, he had me log on to his e-mail account to send an e-mail to his teacher, I was bored so I clicked the "Sent" folder, and saw he had sent her an e-mail, and it said, "Hey. You've been trying to talk to me, so I'm assuming it's important. I can't talk to you on Myspace because Amy [ME] will see, so get on AIM sometime and we'll talk."

I told him I saw it, and he apologized like crazy, but I don't know, if I'm just getting mad for a stupid reason or what. I just really need to know, if I'm blowing this way out of proportion.

Even if you don't give me advice,
thanks for taking your time to read this.

He was wrong to not have told you, and you do have a right to be mad. Maybe he just wanted to talk to her so that she would leave you two alone, maybe he felt guilty about it and decided to hide it from you, and maybe he still has feelings for the girl. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend and ask why he hid it from you. I think that ther's a possibility he just needed closure, and didn't want you freaking out over nothing.

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How do you flirt? Like what do you say or do?

I would answer this myself... but I think this site could do so much better.

http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm

It'll honestly help.

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I relly like this boy or at lest I think I do. Well I’ve only known him for like three weeks well we met at the beginning of this skool year but we talk all the time and he’s so nice and funny but he likes to start fights with people he doesn’t like and he’s kind of a pothead to;/ but he doesn’t do it all the time and he only fights with people that start shit with him or his friends, and he’s my age but hangs out with kids like 3 years older then him he’s kind of cute but not like drop dead gorgeous and he so sweet and kind and funny and he is just so awesome to me but he’s kind of a player because I always go to his myspace to look at his pics. And there are all these girls that say “plz comment back I love you” or “hay we haven’t talked in a wile send me a comment when you get this love you” and then on there profiles he’s like “love you to” but on a couple he’s like “I cant talk to you I’m still mad at you” and stuff like that but still I need to know if it seems like he may like me, and how to get his attention and make him kind of catch on that I like him but I don’t want to flirt to much just kind of act like his friend but I don’t know I just rely like him and I wish I could know what he thought of me, any ways pleas help me out and sorry for making this so long and complicated
thanks in advanced

I think he may like you...but he sounds like he likes a lot of girls. I don't think you should bother with him. He sounds like a player and I think you'll just end up getting hurt or into trouble. I'm not saying you shouldn't be his friend, but he doesn't sound like a good person to get involved with.


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Okay, so I was having the worst day pretty much and I was on facebook and I saw this kid lets call him Patrick[not his real name]'s facebook. I knew him a little bit because of my cousin and I knew a lot of his friends so I added him, and right after I did he messaged me. Okay to make a long story short; He said he saw me at this football game before, he told me all about his family[his gpa just died, and his parents/brother got mad at him] he also told me if he ever needed me he'd be sure to give me a call, and he said I could call him whenever, and then we talked more about the weekend and my family. Then he never answered something I said so two day's later I asked him if he was going to this football game and he said he was and asked if I was and I said yeah we should hang out unless you don't want to or if your in the cheering section the whole time, but if you wanna hang out just call me or find me[he ended up being in cheering section the whole time, and I saw him walking around at half time]. Then at like midnight he messaged me and asked where i was because he didnt see me, and were still talking over messaging. But the only thing is, is that he is a sophmore but could be a junior, and I'm a freshmen but I could be a sophmore, and idk if I even have a chance or if its worth it? I'm sorry if this is confusing, I can re-explain it if you want/or give you more detail, just tell me what you think.. like do I have a chance, is it worth it, or does he maybe like me? Thanks!

I think he likes you, it certainly sounds like he does. He's not going to tell you to call him if you ever need him if he's not into you. (That's really sweet by the way.) I don't see any problems...so go for it! I think you have a pretty big chance. Feel free to post something in my inbox, you weren't really sppecific on what you think the problem is.

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hi. 15/m
i've known this girl for about a month. i met her at a football game. she's really pretty and just all around great. great personality, etc...all the good stuff.
so last night, at another football game, i asked her out. we'd been talking over aim/facebook since we'd met and i really like her.
well after i asked her she thinks for a minute, then turns to me and says "i need to think about it". then i give her a hug because i had to leave.
well i got a message from her this morning after i got home from saturday varsity swim practice that said "i really really really like you but i don't really want a boyfriend right now...not saying i wont in a couple weeks or months but i dont want it to be awkward around us..." etc.
well we've been talking litterally like....all day. and so i think what i'm trying to ask is do i try again in a couple weeks or what? i don't really have much experience with girls...i've only ever had one girlfriend and so idk if i should try again later or if i should look for someone else...

thanks a bunch
G.M.

I think you should drop the subject for now; just be her friend and don't pressure her into a relationship. Usually when a girl says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now it's a no, but from her message I think it may be more of a 'I'm really not sure if I want a boyfriend.'

So continue to be her friend,and pay attention to how she acts around you. If she flirts with you or makes an effort to be around you a lot then maybe you should ask her out again in another month. If she says no then, or says the same thing, then it's a definite no.


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what does it mean whne a boy eats a girl out?

It's oral sex.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=eating+out

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Yesterday when I was talking to my BF, I asked him if he got mad at me the night before and he said yea. Me and a bunch of our friends were sitting around a table in my friends backyard. There werent enough chairs so I sat on my BF's lap and one of my guy friends sat on my friend thats a girl's lap. There is an inside joke we have that she's a banana and I wanted to "squiish" her so I sat on the guys lap who was sitting on her. It wasnt even in a way at all that even seemed more thn friendly and my BF knows that and he knows I wouldn nver cheat on him in any way. I would never touch a guy I felt was in more than a friendly way. He got mad at me and I knew it right away cause he got really quiet. He also told me to never do it again when I feel I didnt even do anything wrong. I wasnt like rubbing up against the kid or making it seem at all more than just sitting on him. But the thing is, he's actually slept over a girl friend of his's house before I met her and all I knew was she was his ex. I did not get mad or jealous. He also went wasnt home for two days and idnt call me either one to tell me where he was or anything. I had to ask his sister. I didnt get mad at him for that either. I don't think I could trust him anymore than I do right now but it just makes me so angry he got madd over that.

Maybe he was just hurt that you were sitting on another guys lap, or maybe even jealous. Talk to him about it, how would you feel if another girl was sitting on his lap? I know I would hate it if a different girl was sitting on my boyfriends lap. It doesn't matter if you weren't doing anything overtly sexual. Like I said, he's probably more upset than actually angry, so try not to be to hard on him.

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