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"i need to think about it"?
hi. 15/m
i've known this girl for about a month. i met her at a football game. she's really pretty and just all around great. great personality, etc...all the good stuff.
so last night, at another football game, i asked her out. we'd been talking over aim/facebook since we'd met and i really like her.
well after i asked her she thinks for a minute, then turns to me and says "i need to think about it". then i give her a hug because i had to leave.
well i got a message from her this morning after i got home from saturday varsity swim practice that said "i really really really like you but i don't really want a boyfriend right now...not saying i wont in a couple weeks or months but i dont want it to be awkward around us..." etc.
well we've been talking litterally like....all day. and so i think what i'm trying to ask is do i try again in a couple weeks or what? i don't really have much experience with girls...i've only ever had one girlfriend and so idk if i should try again later or if i should look for someone else...
thanks a bunch
G.M.
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I think you should drop the subject for now; just be her friend and don't pressure her into a relationship. Usually when a girl says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now it's a no, but from her message I think it may be more of a 'I'm really not sure if I want a boyfriend.'
So continue to be her friend,and pay attention to how she acts around you. If she flirts with you or makes an effort to be around you a lot then maybe you should ask her out again in another month. If she says no then, or says the same thing, then it's a definite no.
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When girls say "I don't want a boyfriend right now." its their way of saying "no" while trying to not hurt your feelings. I'd suggest that you stay friends with her. In a few weeks or months if she DOES want you as a boyfriend, wait for her to make the move, because she already knows you like her. So if she changes her mind and wants to be your girlfriend, she will probably be comfortable letting you know.
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having a girl tell you anything except a flat out NO! is great. You put the thought in her head and she said maybe.
if you are friends now, why ask her out on a date? hanging out with her is perfect, she gets to know you and visa versa.
tell her to join you for whatever you like doing, if she has something to say, tell her, "as friends of course".
don't act defensive, nothing wrong with a guy trying his luck.
But right now, hang around her and have fun with her.
Best of luck.
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*Respect her decision for the moment.
*Don't hassle her about it.
*If you still feel the same way in a 3/4 weeks, you could ask again.
It's quite hard to tell exactly what's going through her mind at the moment. I think if she definitely wasn't interested in you, she would have simply said "I don't want a boyfriend right now".. NOT "ask again in a few weeks"
If the same thing happens, I wouldn't wait for her.
Good luck though.
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i think you should just give her some space right now, because you never know what could be happening with her like maybe shes going through a tough time and doesnt need anymore stress, not saying your going to stress her out but with trying to hangout and make plans might. so i suggest, if you see her at a football game or basketball or whatever hangout with her, become better friend with her then later, in maybe like a month or so ask her again.
hope i helped. :]
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