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Harmless text messaging?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years and I love him alot. Things are pretty good in our relationship, we don't really fight or anything.
Anyways, he recently got a job and he got a cellphone. I was putting my parents phone number into his phone and noticed there were two girls numbers in there that I've never seen or heard about. As I was doing that, he got a text message from one of the girls. And it simply said "Hey". Then the next day I went to use his phone to text message my sister and noticed that his inbox had been cleaned out. So of course, I get the feeling that he's hiding something..
Basically, it this harmless text messaging that's going on between them or should I be concerned? It's really none of my business who she is, but I'm curious as to where he got the number. I don't know if it's my place to ask him, let alone even know how to approach him about it.
Any advice/help would be great!
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I think you're maybe just over-analyzing and reading into something that isn't there. I clean out my inbox sometimes too ;) It doesn't mean anything. You should trust your boyfriend until he gives you a real reason not to.
If you really want to know about the girls in his phonebook, then ask him. It's as simple as that. If he's not hiding anything he'll tell you, if he gets defensive then maybe he is hiding something.
But they're probably just some of his friends.
Remember, communication is really important in a relationship, so don't be afraid to bring this up in a conversation.
::Jasmine::
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well i went to text my brother from my boyfriends phone and there was a couple texts from his ex girlfriend. and i asked him about him. i mean you could try asking him just tell him you were just wondering were you meet her or how come he never mentioned her. if he gets really angry theres probly something hes hiding.
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This is probably nothing. Sure, there is a chance that he is cheating on you. There is always a chance that he's cheating, but you can't be aware of every time he talks to someone female in a day the same way it's probably okay that he has female phone-acquaintances that you have not heard about.
Most probably these numbers are from girls that he is friends with, but not enough to necessarily talk about. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is hiding something; it could be that they haven't had any sort of interaction interesting enough to mention. He could be cleaning out his inbox because all the message said was "hey," so likely it wasn't important enough to save.
You should probably just forget about it and trust him. If it's really bugging you, you could always ask him about it in a neutral, not upset way. This might be hard to do without sounding like you are suspicious, so you could also try beating around the bush, asking questions like "Are you meeting a lot of new people at work?" The specific to the point way may be "Are you meeting a lot of new people at work? I noticed you added lots of people I don't know onto your phone list." And keep it as neutral as possible.
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Well you can't know for sure. The best thing to do is just talk to him about it and say "hey who's (insert a girls name here)?" and he will just explain. If he asks why, just say "I don't know who she is, thats all" and if he still doesn't know what you mean, just be like "I was just wondering"
When you talk to him about it, look at his body language. If he seems nervous, then obviously he is cheating on you. but if he is his normal self, it could just be friends.
I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150
PS: or you could have a close friend be like a spy and just hang out with him and see what kind of texts he sends the girls and like if he smiles a lot....
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You will worry about it until you find out who it is. Ask him about it. It may be a relative for all you know! So ask and hopefully it will make you feel better about it.
Not talking and hiding your feelings from each other
is never good in a relationship. Talk. :)
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