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Would it be wierd for a fourteen year old girl to date a sixteen year old boy. Its only a grade apart, (so like freshman/sophomore)but its still like a two year diference, what do you guys think? (link)
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That would be fine, a two year age difference is not that big of a gap. So no, not weird.
-Jasmine
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hey, so im 17/f
i take the bus on weekdays, im not going to go into detail and say which days etc. lol. but anyways, so i take the bus and sometimes this bus-driver, lets say his name is thomas, drives that bus.. and he winks when he says hi, or has some cheeky smile on when he greets me! he's kinda older than me, like maybe in his 30s.. but would u consider that he's hitting on me?
but anyways, i dont know if im starting to grow feelings for him! which is kind of gross to me. because he is kinda old, and a lil plumper than the usual.. so i just kinda need some idea or some sort of path for someone to help me see and follow. or maybe im just being silly over something small, like maybe he is just being nice and not liking me in THAT way, you know?!
thanks in advance! (link)
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Some girls develope small crushes when men take the slightest interest in them, whether it's winking or just waving... I don't believe he's hitting on you, it's probably just his personality. I think he's just being nice, and that you're overreacting just a tad bit. Just say hi back, and if you develope feelings it doesn't mean you have to act on them, they'll pass.
-Jasmine
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Alright, so I'm in this "summer fling" i guess you could say. I started talking to this guy weeks ago, and Wednesday he asked me out and I said yes. So we've been dating for like three days. Now, before this happened his bestfriend (who also liked me) said he's such a player. Anyways, so I've hungout with my boyfriend now a few times since Wednesday, and we've made out and got real into it if you know what i mean haha. Last night, on my way home from his house, he told me he wanted to have sex with me. I can't help but really think all he wants is sex, and he's compleeeetely using me. But he says no, that he likes and cares about me a lot.
Should I just let this go before i get hurt? Move on into school without this guy, or should I stay with it a while and see if it works out? I like him a lot, but I'm just tired of being used,cause it's already happened this summer a few times.
advice would be appreciated :D thanks guys. (link)
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Here's what you should do:
Give him the benifit of the doubt and stay with him, but don't have sex with him until you know him better. Three days is way way to soon to sleep with a guy, especially if you don't want to be used. Tell him you want to wait until you are ready to have sex, and if he breaks up with you, then that's all he ever wanted and good riddance.
-Jasmine
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so, im 17/m, my girlfriend (17 too) and I have been going out for almost a year and 3 months now. She's my first girlfriend, but really love her.
A few weeks ago we were on our way back from some back-to-school shopping in the city and she asked me how I felt about having a girlfriend when i was in college, (we're planning on going to different colleges next year and she wasn't sure how to feel either). I freaked out, had a meltdown and told her all kinds of things i had thought about, but never acted on. Like how she's my first girlfriend and how I wasnt 100% sure of how strongly I loved her, since I havent been with anyone else. After getting back to her house, we talked some more and cried alot and decided to just be friends for a while.
I got home, felt terrible and didnt sleep at all that night. I still loved her, she never did anything that annoyed me or made me love her any less. I texted her how horrible I felt that morning and we decided to meet and talk that night.
We were back together again within 24 hours. I had never felt better. Instead of leaving her house crying, i practicaly skipped to my car and happily waved goodbye to her as i drove away. I thought we were all better.
That was a few weeks ago, and now she's telling me that she's afraid to love me because i hurt her feelings when we broke up. She did the same thing when we started going out because her last boyfriend broke up with her and made her feel terrible. Ive been working as hard as i can, spending as much time as i can with her. I guess i cant really blame her because i freaked out so badly, but i want to make us work again!
I'm running out of energy trying to love her and getting no love back. Last night she gave me a handjob and wouldnt even look me in the eyes. i felt so detached...
Is there any way to fix what we have? or was our relationship doomed all along since she's my first? What can i say or do so that she knows i love her even though ive never had anything else? (link)
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There's no rule saying that you can't be with your first love forever, it may not happen often, but it does happen. So don't give up on this relationship, because you'll only regret it. If it doesn't work out in the long run then at least you know you tried. So give it your all.
There are tons of ways to keep in touch while going to seperate colleges: Letters, texts, e-mails, phone calls, gifts... The possibilities are endless.
And you did hurt her, so just be patient. It sounds like after you broke up she raised her guard around you. Break through it; she's afraid to be hurt again so sit her down; reassure her. Make sure she knows why you said the things you did, and leave nothing un-said and make sure she does the same so you can soothe any fears she might have. Look her in the eyes and tell her you love her, and that you're sorry. Tell her how you were without her.
It might take a while to get things back to normal, but they will be. Just don't give up; you'll be fine. Inbox me if you need more advice on anything.
-Jasmine
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i just want peoples opinions if this sounds like friends with benefits to me.. it doesn't. I just got out of a long relationship awhile ago and this guy ive known since 8th grade, started talking more and we use the term were "friends with benefits"
1. Every time he signs on, or comes back from away on AIM, he IM's me instantly
2. He calls me at least twice a week usually aroun 11pm and we talk till about 2am
3. We talk about personal things, family, past stories.. ( i had to get an abortion because of medical reasons, i could have died ) we talk about that..
4. He sends me nude, and not nude pictures and vise versa
5. He have NOT actually hooked up YET he works a lot and i work a lot and were always busy.. we talk about hooking up though
6. He always knows when somethings wrong, and he always asks whats wrong
I could probably go on, but ill stop there, does this sound like a friends with benefits relationship.. i like him more than a friends but he doesn't know that.. he has asked me and i was like you tell me first and he said he wouldn't know until we hung out more what does this sound like to other people? (link)
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If you pass the threshold and hook-up it would sound like -to me- a little more than friends with benifits, but I don't think you would want to do that. Those types of relationships almost never work out in the end, and it sounds like you could have a great, real relationship with this guy if you just talked and sorted a few things out... starting with your feelings.
If you can talk about and trust him with all the personal aspects of your life then, really, your only a few steps away from a relationship. So it can go either way, because it sounds like he really cares about you. Do you want a boyfriend, or a friend you can hook-up with?
But before you go any further, talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and decide what you both want.
-Jasmine
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His name is jason and he's like my drug. Sometimes he makes me happy but in the long run he is hurting me. When Im with him I want to be by him forever. And when we're apart I cant stop thinking about him. The absolute best night of my life! When he told everyone that he liked me so much he thought he was in love. But he's naturally a player and I know he cares about me but Its like he is trying so hard to be "unattatched" but he is slowly showin me and everyone else how important I really am to him. My problem though is that I feel like it could take litterally years before he will completely commit to me. I dont know if I can wait that long. He is hurting me so much with his games. but like I said he is like a drug that I am sompletely addicted to. (link)
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I think he's just confused, and maybe in denial a little bit. It sounds like he's never been in a serious relatioship and doesn't know how to act or what to do. If you really are that important to him, then stay. Give him a chance, but put all your cards on the table. Tell him how you feel about him, but also tell him that you can't wait forever and that he needs to figure out what he wants fast.
-Jasmine
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Alright, my boyfriend and I love each other a lot and then a few days ago his ex calls him. He doesn't know why she wants to talk to him because he hasn't seen her in ten years. She won't tell him over the phone, so yesterday he went to go meet her for coffee.
He has a daughter. She's almost ten and all she wants for her birthday is to meet her father.
I'm not calling my boyfriend a lier because he never knew about his ex girlfriend being pregnant, and I don't think he's lying to me about that because we've always had a very open and honest relationship. He already told me he wants to stay with me, and that his having a daughter changes nothing between us.
My worry is, what if his daughter wants him and her mom to get back together? I'm freaking out about that. I know he loves me, but I know (even if he never knew about her) that his prioreties put his daughter before me. I'm okay with that, but I don't want to lose him.
I'm afraid to bring it up with him because it's still a sore subject. He went to go meet her today, and honestly I'm just freaked out. Could someone give any advice on how to calm down and maybe stop worrying over this? (link)
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His daughter will be happy enough to just have a father, and even if she wants her parents back together he's not going to go running back to a woman he doesn't love because of a request a child he just met (although fathered) made. You're taking this situation extremely well, but he's yours. Don't worry.
And even if the timeline fits, maybe your boyfriend should consider a paternity test.
-Jasmine
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My boyfriend and i have been together for 11 months. He leaves for college next week and i'm going crazy. I can't even talk about it without being put into tears. I dont know what to do to make it easier for myself.. help ? (link)
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Him going away is inevitable, just try not to think about it and know it'll get easier in time. You can call him everyday, text, send e-mails, and writing letters can be so much fun. =] Like Jess said, try picking up a new hobby to keep you busy. I know it's hard, but it'll get better.
-Jasmine
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Why do guys always seem to cheat? I just don't understand it. You give them everything they could possibly want and then you find them flirting with other women and junk. What am I doing wrong? It's like nobody can be faithful anymore (link)
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You just have to find the right person. Yes, a lot of men cheat, but a lot of men don't. One day you'll find one of the good ones that has no problem being in a commited relationship. I promise you, they exist. Just hold in there.
Know that it's not you though. It's them. Some people just don't know how to communicate; if there's one little problem in a relationship they feel they have to turn to someone else. (Not saying that's why all guys cheat. The stupid reasons vary.)
But if you find out you've been cheated on, don't stay in the relationship and try to justify what they did. Get out, and find someone who would never even consider cheating on you.
-Jasmine
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okay, well theres a guy, matt, hes known for a player, ive known him since before kindergarden. and believe it or not, i liked him SINCE kindergarden. i dont know what it is but i just cant get over him. i talk to other boys to get my mind off of him, but everything comes back to him. now he has a girlfriend(name will stay unknown) and shes known for doing stuff with guys, i have a feeling hes using her for her reputation. and i have another feeling that he might use me. ive told myself before that i love him and i think im right. what do i do. =/ (link)
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Well you can't stop liking someone by sheer force of will, believe me I've tried...
If he's with someone now, then there's not much he can do. But if he ever asks you out or you have the chance to be with him, then take a chance on him. Maybe he's not what he seems, or maybe you'll bring out the best in him. "What ifs" are never fun.
-Jasmine
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there's this guy whom i really like or i think i like. i'm not going to justify that because i don't want to get hurt. well, last year my friend called him up and asked if he'd date me, and he told her no. also he and i weren't so close then. we argued a lot, but were friends. now i talk to him a lot more, and we laugh more than argue. we're the same in many ways. i don't really see him much outside of school. i will not admit my feelings to him because i don't want to ruin our friendship, and he may be doing the same. i'm not really sure what kind of girls he goes for. i know one girl he crushed on last year but they didn't work. he's black and i'm white, but he acts white. haha. what should i do? pursue my feelings? or ignore them to keep the friendship? really would help if i knew if he felt the same, but i couldn't stand the rejection shame. (link)
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I think you should go for it. Pursue away. Tell him how you feel, because honestly, if he's a good friend he won't make a spectacle if he doesn't return your feelings, and you'll have lost nothing.
Life is way way too short to wonder how people you care for feel about you. If he doesn't like you, then you're still friends. If he does like you, then yay.
If you're too shy to be straightforward then just try flirting a little bit, and gauge his reaction. Maybe that will tell you how he feels.
-Jasmine
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