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Before you get mad, I SENT THIS QUESTION IN ALREADY, but there is more to it so I decided to put in the old question and add new information.
There is this kid in two of my classes. I haven't thought of him as a boyfriend until everyone started saying we'd look cute together. We talk everyday. I sit next to my best friend in a class and he sits across the room, yet he still manages to find a way into our conversations and she says he looks over at us a lot. I said that he could possibly like her but i've realized, in the class we're in together without my friend, he sits behind this beautiful girl that has a boyfriend, but this boy that I think likes me always asks me for my papers and what we missed when he's been out for a day. When I walk into school in the morning, I feel like he looks at me as I walk to my locker to put my jacket in there. He never seems nervous when we talk, so I guess that is a good thing. He's so cute, he's nice to talk to, I can get along really well with him. The one day after class was over and we had a few minutes before the bell was over, he walked over to my desk to talk, the conversation died down so he went to go talk to a guy and then he walked back, the conversation died down again, he walked away and then he came back again. Do you think he likes me? I'd like him to make the first move, I would never be able to tell him I like him unless I know he likes me.
New info: I told my friend to tell this boy to give him my number and tell him to text me. The cute boy did not text me and now he doesn't talk to me, he seems so shy and nervous. He still looks at me an awful lot and talks to me if I start the conversation. I think he does like me but why didn't he text me? If he likes me, I would have thought he would have been all over that.
What do you think?
Thanks! (link)
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Well lets assume he does like you and he is shy and nervous. He might not have texted you yet cause he is afraid your going to reply with how did you get my number. Us guys especially the more introverted ones tend to over think things, Your friend went up to him and said hey this is my friends number she wants you to text her. Well how is he suppose to know that's even true. I suggest next time you start a conversation with this guy you should before the conversation ends say hey you should text me some time, see what he says if he ignores you and never texts you you should just forget this guy.
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Ok..so I like this guy and he likes me je asked me out and I said yes so it basically means we are going out I hugg him and talk to him like if we were flirting but I wanna take it to the next level should I try to hold his hand and kiss him on the cheek?? HELP ASAP!!! (link)
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I am a firm believer that its the guys role to take it to the next level but I guess if his not then it can't hurt. go ahead and try holding his hand see what he does, most likely he will be happy that you did this especially if his shy this should make him feel more comfortable with physical contact with you. I know a few guys who are absolutely terrified of making moves as simple as holding hands to going in for the kiss their afraid that the girl is going to think their moving to fast or their mind is just filled with all kinds of negative outcomes that may occur if they move in.
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So, I am a 16 year old girl, 11th grade. There is this really cute boy that I see in the hallway quite frequently. We don't know who eachother is so I can't say like "oh, I think he is slightly interested" he is just cute and I would like to get to know him but since he is a senior we don't even have classes together. I think it will be weird to just see him in the hall and strike up a conversation. So guys, if a girl you didn't know did that, what would you think? And girls, if you were in my situation, what you would do? Thanks everyone! (link)
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I'm a guy and personally I would think this was really cool if a girl did this to me, I would diffidently interact in the conversation and would take the opportunity to get know this girl but I can't speak for every guy out there we are all different especially when it comes to girls. but hey go for it you got nothing to lose, and if this guy blows you off no big deal go find the next cute guy to approach. Think of it like this you could have a lot of fun just seeing how they react.
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im about to turn 14 years old and enter into high school. i want to enter high school as a "popular" person. but it seems that only really good looking people are popular. I have big eye lashes blonde medium size hair and a flawless face and I'm a cheerleader . but im short and people dont take me serious. and I guessed by being prettier than them I would be more liked. I need tips on how to do my make up like a pretty cheerleader! (link)
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The way you look does not have anything to do with being popular, and being popular isn't really going to do much for you anyway it might just get you in a lot of trouble. However I will tell you this in order to get the best out of you high school years, Be active join alot of clubs do alot of volunteer work join a sport or something and above all FOCUS ON YOUR GRADES!! I can't stress that enough. Any way doing all this being active focusing on your grades and stuff is going to get you friends your going to be meeting people all the time, just talk to people say hi to them show them respect try starting conversation, just please be selective of your friends you don't need to hang out with everyone you meet out of school, I don't care if the most popular group in the school wants you to be friends with them if their trouble stay away from them its not worth it and you well regret it in the long run.
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Okay so today my mom and dad were going to buy me an i pod touch i have been waiting for about a year to find out i was going to even get it and yesterday they said i could get one but when we got to the store my dad said it was cheaper online and we could save $20 but i told him that i could pay $20 for it now but he said no and now i have to wait another week for it. so when i got home i made a scene about it i ran in my room slammed the door threw my shoes against the wall and cried for about half an hour but i wasn't just crying about the i pod other things have happened in the past 3 year my dad lost his job 3 years ago and still doesn't have one we are running out of money(that's why i couldn't get the i pod sooner but my conformation is coming up and they have money saved for me so they said i could get it) on valentines day the boy i like found out i liked him but he didn't like me that way(we are friends) and later found out that he has a secret girlfriend he told no one about and i just couldn't handle all my school pressure and i am the smartest kid in my family(i have 2 bothers and a sister)i used to get all a's but now i have b's and c's and my mom and dad are upset i can't keep up this image they want. so i had a complete melt down about this whole thing and i think i has something to do with anger issues because my older brother has anger issues so maybe i do too. i don't know but i need so help (link)
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It sounds like what happened is you were really upset about not getting this ipod we all tend to get upset when we don't get what we want its a normal reaction I'm assuming that you most likely realized that it was kinda of stupid to act the way you did over this, and feeling dumb about a reaction like that is normal as well. We all have these natural emotional reactions to things, and its really hard to control these reactions and then when its all said and done we look back and say wow I can't believe I acted like that. So I wouldn't say you have angry issues you just over reacted a little it happens. As far as the other things go these things could very well be emotionally stressing you out, thinking about them while in your state of angry most likely made you more upset and I think you should find someone you can vent to or keep a journal that helps to. Also pay attention to the things that are in your control to change. Your father's situation is out of hands,the boy thing isn't really a big deal there's plenty of boys out there and plenty that will like you back. Now your grades b's and c's are still passing but I suggest you focus on those do what you can to motivate yourself to try harder in school once you get yourself back to A's it will be very awarding for you and would be a huge confident boost, This is something you diffidently can accomplish.
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I'm 14 and a chick.
My friends expect me to be some hard core rock metal fan because I have blue hair and combat boots. Truth is, I'm a die hard Simon & Garfunkel fan, lol. I like old people music. Is this normal? (link)
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absolutely! there's nothing abnormal about this you have blue hair cause you like it, you were combat boots cause you enjoy wearing them and listen to old people music cause you love it, you don't need to change anything about yourself just so you can fit into some stereotype.
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I have two really good friends. I'll call one Jen and one Lydia.
Jen is nice sometimes but other times (I hate to call her this) she's a real b****. Lydia is nice all the time, for the most part.
Well because of Jen (usually) they fight a lot. Recently they have been arguing because on V-Day Jen said to us 'I love you, no homo.' I understand that she doesn't want to seem lesbian. Lydia doesn't. She says that we know we're straight and it's ok without the no homo.
I don't want to take sides. I agree with Lydia that we're close enough to just say it, but I also think it's ok to clarify the no homo. Also, Lydia has a gay brother. (we all accept this.)
I hate when they fight and I want to help them resolve their conflict. Currently they are ignoring each other. What should I do? Thank you
Also we're all girls, Jen and I are in 9th grade and Lydia is in 10th. (link)
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Honestly there's no real reason for Lydia to be upset that Jen added no homo at the end of I love you guys. Its just a comment it holds no weight, Lydia should have just laughed about it or ignored it instead she took something that really wasn't anything and turned it in to a big deal. You stated Jen can sometimes be a real you know what and Lydia is always nice for the most part, if this is the case it might very well be that Lydia is just tired of Jen, she could be to the point were she will find everything that Jen says or does offensive and will being to point out all of Jen's flaws . I think Lydia should think of all the things that Jen has done in the past that have offended her and decide what all these things have in common as in why is Lydia offended by these things, Once Lydia knows what causes her to become upset with Jen or feel hurt by Jen. She should see the situation in a new light that will allow for a positive out come.
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My computer runs on wireless, something called Frontier and it's definitely faster than the dial up we used to have. Recently, though, it takes almost ten minutes to buffer a 24 minute video, sometimes even a two minute youtube vid, but my friend says her youtube tends to get slow too.
I watch most of my shows on hulu too. Is it the site or is it my Internet that's being slow? (link)
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I have had this problem recently and a solution came to me I didn't have security on my wireless network so one day I hard wired my computer to my modem and what do you know it was super fast I most of had tons of leechers. I never knew how big of an effect this could actually have on a connection so if you don't have security on your wireless I suggest you get it.
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my 16 yr old bf and i had sex last night for the first time and my cherry was popped so i started bleeding on him. it is now almost 24 hours later and im still bleeding down there with pains in the ovary area. how long does the bleeding last after a cherry has been popped? (link)
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My first gf bleed for like 4 days after our first time we were kinda of really worried about it at the time but she didn't get check up or anything and she's fine that was like 3 years ago. though we asked people at the time and from what everyone was telling us this isn't normal.
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Hi.
I have this friend who I recently made up with. Now when we talk there are always awkward silences.
Why is this and how do I stop it.
Thanks :D (link)
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mostly likely you are still bothered by what happen you aren't completely over it. To stop this try finding the source of it. Why are you feeling awkward catch yourself in you thoughts when the awkward silence happens what are you thinking about are you replaying the events in your mind are you questioning things about your friend pay attention to the images that are popping into your mind during this awkward silence. once you do this you should be able to address the problem according. If you don't know how to address the problem once you know what is causing it I'll be glad to guide you further. Also awkwardness is a feeling you can fix the awkwardness that your feeling during this silence but there's no way of knowing if your friend is feeling awkward as well unless they tell you they are.
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hi there...
22/f
i am stuck in a really crappy situation...
i had a bad bad experience last year. first there was a guy who totally used me (i should have seen that one coming but as it "could never happen to me" given that it was my first relationship" i didn't know how to say no cause i wasn't sure of anything... anywayyy...) school pressure, prof truing to make a move on me, parents pressuring me, money...etc. i ended up seeking an escape by getting involved with a bunch of people who are not exactly innocent...
i mean every one has fun, but these guys are on things every weekend if not drunk or partying or hooking up or getting people to hook up after fucking them up... they're an average of 3 years older than me, and much much much more experienced than i am...
i thought after that first fling with a guy that else could be out there that's wilder than that? and that is what i want to do since i am no longer naive so that sorta got me initiated into their group...because i had "potential to get corrupted" i don't judge people which is why i have so many friends with different views and lifestyles... i am okay with what they do but i can't handle these new friends without my life crumbling down...
but i can't seem to say no (as usual) and i keep getting sucked into it!!! how do i get my life back!!! how do i sever them out of it if need be without repercussions... i am not comfortable doing what they do at all... and i've got to get my act together cause i am beginning to flunk school!!!! HELP
oh and one of the girls in particular is super manipulative and she is almost psychopathic and is dressing like me talking like me always trying to find commonalities between us... sometimes i feel i am turning into her puppet. or doll she is very very dominant and i can never say no without indirectly getting the sense that i am threatened and that i will regret it...
i got sucked into it deep to the point where plans are already made for me, and if one thing isn't in common i am expendable and that i will be ruined....
what do i do??? i can't let my family or friends find out since i am pretending to have my act together!! (link)
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If you can't just drop these people out of your life then you need to be stronger when your around them. Lay down the law and develop strong beliefs that can't be touched by others, people will respect you if you come off as confident and sure of yourself. Having control of your voice and body language is very important if you say no to someone and your voice is shaky, or you say it to fast, and your head is down your no isn't going to be taken serious at all and people will pick up on this. Try speaking loud and slowly make direct eye contact and keep good pasture. Also learn to be unaffected emotional by people. People can read other people very easily they can see how the things they say and do effect you emotional and can work on this but if you are unaffected emotional, if you can maintain a solid unchanging state people will lose power over you.
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First off I'm 14 and a chick and sorry if this is in the wrong category.
I love writing stories with my favourite character Alexei, sometimes creepy or scary, always involving deaths.
My dad is an English/Creative writing teacher and he proofreads them and also I take a creative writing class.
I want to be a better writer, and use better word choices and make the stories creepier or sadder, any suggestions? Thank you! (link)
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I've been reading Story: Substance, Structure, Style and The Principles of Screenwriting by Robert mckee http://www.amazon.com/Story-Substance-Structure-Principles-Screenwriting/dp/0060391685 Highly recommend it though its targeted for screen writing its just great for story telling in general. Alot of great and well thought out information on how to really bring your story to life and keep your readers interest
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hi im katherine and im emo and i would love a great emo nickname!!! please help me!! (link)
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Kat lol
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So I've known this guy lets call him Matt ever since 6th grade. We weren't friends but we grew up together in the beginning. So we ended up being friends. And we actually started becoming friends when we were seniors in high school. It's kind of sad I know. Now that we graduated we have become closer friends and we go to the same college as well. But ever since that, when I got a boyfriend and he's just been acting like a smart ass. I didn't want to tell him because he has a big mouth and I only tell my girlfriends. He's not my best friend. And I don't talk about my personal life to him or at all about guys I like because me and Matt are just really good friends but we never talk about love. He's had a crush on me in high school. He even wanted to ask me out because he told me. But I get a lot of guys so he eventually gave up. I only like him as a friend though and nothing else. He has feelings for me but I don't have feelings for him. He's never really dated anyone he's been single for many years. I've actually been in a lot of relationships. But one time when it was me and my boyfriend's anniversary. My car battery died. And my boyfriend didn't know how to fix it. So I called Matt over to help since he's really good with cars. And nothing went wrong after that. I didn't notice anything wrong. But he sent a really rude comment on facebook when I got home about my boyfriend. It really pissed me off and I said STOP IT. And he didn't so I deleted him on facebook and I was really really mad. Because that was just really immature and rude to say. Then he talked to one of my girlfriends about it. And he's like I don't know if I want to be friends with her anymore. I thought Matt was joking because he's needy and he talks to me all the time I didn't know how he could live without me and we've known each other for so long.
Then it finally happens he doesn't talk to me for 4 months!!!!!!!!!! I don't know why???? I was really shocked. And I really missed him as a friend. I was just really mad too. I missed having him in my life because he would always annoy me through texting and talk to me a lot I wasn't used to him not talking to me everyday. Then today he sends me a message on facebook after 4 months and says like "I dont know if I'll give you a third chance in being your friend but this is it...and whats up." He said it in a weird way.
Can someone help? I really only like him as a friend. But I don't know why he ignored me for 4 months!!!! And then embarassed me on facebook? And then talked to my girlfriend about me. And he still talked to my girlfriend and not me. What's going on? (link)
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Your friend insulted your boyfriend,ignored you for four months and talked bad about you behind your back to one of your friends who he probable knew would go back and tell you what he was saying. Mostly likely your friend felt emotions that lowered him and he felt you were the source of this so he attempted to put you down in order to bring himself back up. Note how he said I don't know if I'm going to give you a chance in being your friend, as if he is the prize.
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19, female.
my best guy friend always tells me that i never tell him anything. and that he feels like he doesn't even know me anymore. but i mean what am i suppose to do, randomly just say everything about me and everything that i'm thinking and everything i've been through?
i wish i could tell him....
that i've been hurt so many times in the past.
that my heart wants to trust him, but my mind tells me not to.
that i'm rarely happy, and that i just fake it.
that i have an anxiety disorder and am taking medication.
that i can't find a boy, nobodys ever good enough for me.
that i'm insecure.
that i'm jealous when he gets close to another girl.
that i put everyone before myself, which has ruined me.
that i've been used by my friends, and when they screw me over and run back to me i'm always there with open arms..
that i can't trust anyone, yet i'm so vulnerable to everything.
that everytime i'm with him, i can't stop smiling.
that i love him, that i'm in love with our friendship.
that i'm drifting away from my family.
theres just so many things i can tell him. how do i though? honestly...
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It sounds like your best guy friend cares about you very much. Its possible he wants you to open up to him so that you and him can create a stronger connection between each other. I think that you need to start a conversation with him about the both of you. First take the time to learn a little more about him. Ask him questions about himself that you might be curious about. After asking him a few questions he will probable ask you a few things, this should make it easier for you to tell him some of the things that are on your mind.
I hope this helps and I wish you luck
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Alright, so I'm in this "summer fling" i guess you could say. I started talking to this guy weeks ago, and Wednesday he asked me out and I said yes. So we've been dating for like three days. Now, before this happened his bestfriend (who also liked me) said he's such a player. Anyways, so I've hungout with my boyfriend now a few times since Wednesday, and we've made out and got real into it if you know what i mean haha. Last night, on my way home from his house, he told me he wanted to have sex with me. I can't help but really think all he wants is sex, and he's compleeeetely using me. But he says no, that he likes and cares about me a lot.
Should I just let this go before i get hurt? Move on into school without this guy, or should I stay with it a while and see if it works out? I like him a lot, but I'm just tired of being used,cause it's already happened this summer a few times.
advice would be appreciated :D thanks guys. (link)
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Honestly I think if you really like this kid and you think that you might fall in love with him, then you should see what happens if you tell him that you want to wait a little for sex, give it at least a month, if he just wants sex from you, then chances are he won't stick around, especially if he is a player and can get it from other girls with no problem. If he sticks around stays faithful to you and appears to show real feelings then chances are you might have something there.
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so i'm very interested in the whole, giving a BJ thing, at least just once!
i know many girl don't like it but i just want to experience it once. and i know people are always like "OMG I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW, WHAT SHOULD I DO!!?" and honestly reading about how to do it is definately not going to help..
i've told guys before, i dont know how! and they're just always like, it's easy just do what youuu want.
and i'm like no awkward, like i wouldn't even know what to do, how to do it but i was just wondering, does it come natural?
by the way i'm 19. female.
just curious :) (link)
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I'm my girlfriends first boyfriend. Of course that means I was the first guy she gave a blow job to. She didn't know what to do either. She just give it try and it wasn't really that good but it was better then nothing. eventual she got better with experience like anything else.
However for the longest time she couldn't make me cum with a BJ. She got tried of that fact, and did a little internet researcher. Now she can make me cum with blow job with no problem.
So to answer you'll question no it doesn't come natural from what I understand, however it won't hurt to do a little research.
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so i'm a nineteen year old female.
i really really like this guy, buuuut he thinks i'm a huge tease! i mean i do tease guys, but i have the intentions of actually going through with it.
he's like you won't do this, you won't do that you're just a tease! and honestly i would do anything sexual with him it's just really.. he tries to do everything at the WRONG time.
and i was with him tonight and he was like i'm soooo tired i'm going home. and he was like you can come over and we can have a sleepover ;) and i was like alright i'll be over and he was like i know you won't. and i was like yahhh i will! and i was being totally serious and then he left and never texted me or anything so i was like ok whatever!
how can i prove to him that i'm not a tease? i've told him i wanted to have sex with him before, he knows i do! it's just actually getting to the point of doing it, like i'm not scared i just don't know how it'll happen.
how can i just get with him, and show him that i'm not a tease and i really do WANT him? (link)
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It almost sounds like this guy feels like he has to challenge you in order to get anything sexual from you. This could just be a personality trait of his.
As for him asking you to go over for asleep over he might of been testing you. I personally think you should have just called him to let him know you were on your way over or maybe you should of just showed up at his place. This right here is how you can prove to him your not a tease you need to just go for it. When he says oh you won't he wants you to prove him wrong so prove him wrong. I think you should sexual attack him like a wild cat lol. I wish u luck.
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okay so me and my boyfriend started going out when i was 15 and he 16 we are now 18 so two years and some months well we broke up before we made a year and made a big mess! we started seeing other people in a way to hurt each other well we were broken up for like 4 or 5 months then we started bac talking but during the break up we still gave hint that we were still in love and talked occasionaly but anyways we have been together happily for a while now; he was my first love and i was his so we kinda knew that we would end back up together. so ive been going through alot of stress and he is my best friend seriously he's the only one that knows everything about me. well i lived wit him for about a month and during that time his ma started to not like me so the rest started to not like me, not really cause ima bad person just because she thinks im taking him away i guess well they're moving to florida soon idk when but ima still be here and i may move to georgia before the new years but idk whats going to happen with him moving that far away from me and his family kinda disliking me? i mean its far and him & my mom is the only ones i got. he said he really didnt care about moving like he wouldnt mind staying here but its too much drama here for him plus she promised him a bunch of great things when he moves. he's also going to be starting college out there and im so scared of losing him but i cant make him stay and if i move to georgia we will be closer but thats not anytime soon. we have talked about having a family and marriage and everything i just want to know do you think i will lose him when he leaves? will we be okay or whats going to happen cause he's my everything ! (link)
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Predicting the future is no easy task and a situation like this can have many outcomes. The best advice I can give you is just make sure you stay in touch with him and try not to worry so much of whats going to happen cause you have no way of really knowing.
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I'm 15/f and my friend is 15/f. My friend constantly talks about herself. She will relate stuff to herself, or her clothes, or her grades or the sports she plays. It seems like whenever I am with her it's always about her. I will tell her something that was funny or what happened to me and she will give absolutely no feedback. She'll relate that thing back to herself or she'll go on with her story or interrupt me. My mom and sister tell me to ditch her because she's so self conceited. My friends also get annoyed about how much she talks about what clothes she bought. Our neighbor, who has met her, even said she was very self conceited. She also knows I don't get the best of grades (or atleast I thought she did) and one day she flipped out about getting an A- on her final with me standing right there. I want to tell her how I feel or just put her in line. I want to tell her "Hey sometimes I matter too!", but i'm not sure how to put it in nice terms. Any advice? (link)
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this all could be part of who your friend is part of her thought pattern, her personality something that she isn't even concisely aware of.
I don't believe your friend is self center or conceited. I also don't believe putting your friend in line is the right thing to do. I do agree that you matter too and it is hard being friends with someone who seems to be all about themselves. All of us need people we can talk too and people that will listen to us and even say things that make us feel good about our selves.
I think you should let your friend know that u notice that she talks alot about her self and relates alot of things to herself, ask why she does that, go into this conversation with the pure intention of wanting to understand your friend. let her know that always talking about her self all the time tends to draw people away, and can make others view her as selfish and conceited.
Just do your best to understand her and her views. I hope this helps.
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