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hmm, should i stay with this kid?
Alright, so I'm in this "summer fling" i guess you could say. I started talking to this guy weeks ago, and Wednesday he asked me out and I said yes. So we've been dating for like three days. Now, before this happened his bestfriend (who also liked me) said he's such a player. Anyways, so I've hungout with my boyfriend now a few times since Wednesday, and we've made out and got real into it if you know what i mean haha. Last night, on my way home from his house, he told me he wanted to have sex with me. I can't help but really think all he wants is sex, and he's compleeeetely using me. But he says no, that he likes and cares about me a lot.
Should I just let this go before i get hurt? Move on into school without this guy, or should I stay with it a while and see if it works out? I like him a lot, but I'm just tired of being used,cause it's already happened this summer a few times.
advice would be appreciated :D thanks guys.
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I am going to have to agree with the very last person, I think he is more interested in the sexual part than actually having a relationship. (I'm just guessing) From what you've posted I would say that is what his goal is. You two just started dating..If you are not ready than don't do it if you push yourself into having sex while not ready it will turn into something you will regret. If you don't think it is going to work out than there must be a reason for it. The question is will it hold strong while you to are in school or is he just playing you? Only you know the real answer
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i was in your situation - he told me he wanted to do all these physical things and i told him i wasn't ready - it turned out that all he wanted was that i asked around some of his other friends and got the same idea in my head - so all you can do is ask some of his other friends - don't show him your freaked out about it - tell him your not ready and if he cant handle that well then it wont work out.....
hope this helped and that things worked out for you
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You need to let him know that your not comfortable with a physical relationship. If he is okay with that than i say stick with it...If he isn't than there is only one thing on his mind and thats when you need to move on.
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Here's what you should do:
Give him the benifit of the doubt and stay with him, but don't have sex with him until you know him better. Three days is way way to soon to sleep with a guy, especially if you don't want to be used. Tell him you want to wait until you are ready to have sex, and if he breaks up with you, then that's all he ever wanted and good riddance.
-Jasmine
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so was watching oprah one day and she had a man there who had writen a book,about Men.anyway he said if you can wait 90 days to have sex and the guy stays for 90 days he wants more than sex.cause if a man want you for who you are he will stay and wait..so give him a 90 days trail and se what happens.and ofc he tells you no if he said yes i only want sex you would leave him would you not?:)
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Honestly I think if you really like this kid and you think that you might fall in love with him, then you should see what happens if you tell him that you want to wait a little for sex, give it at least a month, if he just wants sex from you, then chances are he won't stick around, especially if he is a player and can get it from other girls with no problem. If he sticks around stays faithful to you and appears to show real feelings then chances are you might have something there.
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from what you said he sounds like a player. no guy that really cares and respects a girl would want sex 3 days into the relationship. most of the time when a girl feels like shes being used, she is. any guy will say he cares about you but does he show you that he cares about you? actions speak louder than words. if he doesn't show it, let him go.
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