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well im not a very outgoing person..what are some cute/sexy ways that i can flirt that might turn a guy on or something? lOl sounds weird i know..but like when im about to leave somewhere i always wanna give a guy a hug but i dont know how to go about doing it..i cant just do it..they will be thinking WTF? haha any suggestions?
i will RATE HIGH!
♥

Just smile alot at people and when you see someone you know, smile and say "hey" and if there with someone you don't recognize introduce yourself, smile and be like "hey I'm _____" That way you'll get to know more people. Just smile so people know you're friendly and stuff.

When you're flirting with a guy of course smile, don't frown, you never know who's falling in love with your smile. Make sure you giggle and laugh so they know you have a sense of humor.

Of course hug them, so they know you're not afraid to, guys like that. I hug people when they're too afraid to hug me. It won't be dumb, trust me.

Touch there arm and stuff when you giggle, but don't do it too much. Just stuff like that.

I hope this helps you and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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how can i get a guys attention?
ive seen this guy before but i know he doesnt know me..i know he doesnt know i exist! i wanna change that :) lets say i see him somewhere..what do i do? i want him to notice me ..i want him to think WOW that girls hott..i dont really wanna go up to him because i will be like 'hi i dont know you but my name is kristen' ha that will sound like stupid..

any suggestions?

haha, everyone's asking me how to get a guy's attention tonight haha.

Dress really cute, not slutty though, you don't want to turn him off, just put a cute little outfit together. When you see him, SMILE, that's like the most important thing, I mean come on you never know who's falling in love with your smile, so why would you frown??

Try walking past him and smiling at him. If that doesn't work, try giving him alittle nod like "What's up?" Or you could always just be like "Heyy"

But, try dressing cute and walking by him and smiling at him making eye contact and see where that gets you!

I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes, if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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as you know this week is BREAK :)
and i wanna go out and have some fun! what can i do tho? i cant have a party..i dont ever get invited to parties..uhm yeah and i dont have a car..and i live in somewhere where its like below 0 and snowing..hah! so i dont know what there is to do? also..if i DO find something to do..i wanna meet a boy :) i mean im KINDA good at flirting..but then like if i first meet a guy my face will get all red if he asks me questions and i hate it! then he will know im shy..and i dont wanna be!! and i wanna look cute haha but i recently got my haircut and i hate it!! there are so many layers that frame my face and it looks so stupid and its really short now..so im self-conscious about that and so what can i do to make myself look 'hot'

well thanks gorgeous!
♥

I'm sure your hair looks so cute.
Try straightening it, straightening it seriously makes it look better haha, I remember one time a lady cut my long hair off soooo short with all these layers, I wanted to cry, actually I think I did, haha. Anyways, short story, I just straightened it haha. Then, when you do that, try putting cute little things in it, like barrets, or flower pins, etc.

For a cute outfit, since it's cooooold. I lived in Chicago, sooo I know how it feels. I'm not sure if you wear like American Eagle or Express or anything like that. Try wearing jeans with UGG boots (doesn't have to be UGG, but along that way, you can get like $20 dollar ones at Charlotte Russe), roll your pants up so that way your UGG boots are showing. I hope you get what I'm saying with that haha. Then, wear like a cute little sweater and a long jacket with a scarf!! Soo cute.

&& then, get your friends together and go to the mall and do some boy scouting, trust me boys will go up to you ladies. When you see a cutie, smile at him!! =D

Maybe one of your friends can have some people over once you meet some new boyssss?

I hope this hels and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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SO..
im 15/f

me and my cousin always hang out together! she's awesome lOl. but anyways she used to like this one guy and i thought he was cute. well she didnt exactly like him anymore she moved on..but she still thought the kid was hott! and my littler cousin (her brother) is like 13? and he talks to this kid. the kid is in 9th grade and my cuzin is also but im in 10th grade. well i was like OH MY GOSH that kid is really hott! i said that to my cousins. and then my 13 yr old cousin was talking to him on the computer and was like yeah my cousin likes you. and i was like NOO how can i like him? i dont even know him! and then he is like just kidding she just thinks your hott. and he is like who is she? and my cousin told him..but of course he doesnt know me since we go to different schools.. and the kid is like dont know her..never seen her..never heard of her. well this made me feel GREAT. even tho i knew he didnt know who i was. but then anyways this kid is like well next time that she sees me tell her to come up to me and tell her who she is. SO next time i see him what am i suppose to say? hi im the girl that thinks your hott. it will be soo embarassing! and im pretty shy.so that doesnt help. and then later that night my 13 year old cousin was still talking to him and was like yeah my sister (his sister my cousin)thinks your really hott and he is like man whats up with your family..first your cousin and now your sister? whats next your grandpa??! so then i felT SOOOO unblievebly stupid!! now i for sure dont wanna go up to him next time i see him..i will feel so stupid! but then again maybe he will think im cute or something? I DONT KNOW!! i mean i wanna hang out with him or something..or at least try and talk to him..let him know i exist!! but then i only see him at their schools hockey games..and there isnt any going on over break! and my cousin that goes to school with him is really shy too and wont ask to hang out with him..because she doesnt really talk to him either..and i dont wanna talk to him on AIM because im not good with talking on the computer..so please dont suggest that..but yeah so i cant throw a party or anything! ugh this is soo horrible and confusing :( you dont even know..this kid is the funniest..the cutest! and he doesnt even know i exist..all the girls are over him and i guess he is goin to this party that a girl is throwin from his schoool. what do you think i should do!?

SORRY SO LONG!! i really am!
but thanks for answering sweetie
i really appreciate it!

Hey hun.

Well, try to get that 13 year old cousin who is friends with him to come over and hang out while you're there and then have him introduce you guys and then just hang out and stuff, get to know him and what not.

I hope this helps and if you need any more suggestions or whatever, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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im 15..going on 16 and i havent had a boyfriend yet. everytime someone brings up the subject about having a boyfriend i get so like nervous and self-conscious because im afraid they'll ask like oh who was your last boyfriend? how many boyfriends have you had before? and my old friend was talkin bout boys and my other friend goes yahhh but she hasnt had a boyfriend yet. and the girls like OMG WHAT? you havent had one yet? seriously?! like she was shocked. because apparently alotta people think im prettY? i dont see it but whatever. im not that good with guys i mean yah i talk to them and all ..but as friends. im way too shy to like hang out with them or something. maybe they just dont see me as girlfriend material? my best friend says maybe i may look like a bitch or something..or guys are just afraid to come out and tell me because they are scared of rejection. but actually im not kinda scared to get my first boyfriend (if that ever comes :( because i really wont know how to act since ive never had one before. ahhh please give me suggestions anything will help..seriously!

It's okay if you haven't had a boyfriend yet, a lot of people your age haven't. When you're friends question you about it, just be like "Yeah, I haven't had a boyfriend yet.. I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along.. taht's all."

Don't just go and find one just to say you've had one before, really look for a guy you really want to be with.

A lot of people are shy when it comes to talking to flirting with a guy or even talking to him. When you find someone you think is cute or want to get to know, just pretend like you're going to be talking to a friend. Just smile and giggle and stuff.

When you flirt with a guy and a guy see's it, he'll flirt back with you. If you want a guy to have your number just be like "Call me sometime" then they'll have to ask for your number!!

I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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f/14

I am really pretty, really nice and really outgoing.This past summer i lost about 10 pounds and i look so much better. After i lost the weight i expected that i would get alot more attention from boys and maybe even a boyfriend.Last year, i knew someguys liked me but they never came out and said it...This year i am in alot more classes with my friends and i am really loud. I love to laugh and just be myself.I look great now.. but so far i havent gotton a guy falling for me or even really alot of flirting... i am totally not a shallow person, just wanting a boyfriend, but i just want to know whats going on?!?

Congrats on losing weight =)

You should try talking to the boys too, don't just let them always come up to you to talk.

So, just get out there and flirt with them. You just have to give it time, like you said you're really outgoing and loud now, so people will notice you.

Just flirt and talk to boys.. that's all you can do. Have fun ;)

Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message on myspace.

♥ Kourtney

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HI! :) im someone that asked you about my best friend likin two guys and how i thought one of them was hott but i didnt know what to do.but i found somethin out and wanted to kno what i should do noW!

Well last night my best friend called me and we talked for a bit...and i was like soo who do you liKe noW? and shes like i actually dont think i like anyone..and i was thinkin *YESSS* then i can like flirt with that one kid if i ever meet him..but the problem is how do i get her to ask him to hang out with us?! she is super shy! or just to be like yeah i want you to meet my friend..or my friend wants to meet you. because ive tried bringin up the subject like oh yeah you needa hang out with him (hoping id be there too) and then she just changed the subject tho or she just goes yeaa..so i dont know how i could get to meetin hiM! because we go to different schools so i couldnt try and meet him myself..and then like my friend has his s/n but then i dont wanna talk to him on there..so i was thinkin maybe one time i was over at my friends house she could talk to him on there for me or something? but what would she say! how do i bring up the subject with her about askin him to hang out. ahhhh! ANY SuGGESTIONS GORGEOUS?!

Hey♥

Well, that's good that she doesn't like anyone right now!!

You should try to go over to her house and talk to him on her AIM and be like "Hey this is ____" and talk to him that way! Or you could always go to her school after school one day and try to see him and get them two to talk and try to get you all to hang out.

If that doesn't work, deffinatly try talking to her about it and telling her that you think he is a cutie and want to hang out with him to get to know him.

If you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox. Good luck hun. Tell me how it goes.

♥ Kourtney

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ok. i dont know how to make out. and i need help. dont try to pull off that, use your hand/or go with the flow crap. becuase i need to know what the flow is first. give me the full out instruction of this. i rate HIGH.

--lover939

Making out seems so hard. But, it's really not. I'm sure you heard "It comes naturally." Great advice huh? But, it really does come naturally. PSH, I was so scared when I first made out, because the guy was so experienced and I wasn't! But, once the person leans in for a kiss, lean in as well and once you touch the face open your mouth alittle bit and start out with little kisses. Then, you guys will start making out. If they put your tongue in your mouth, do the same, don't be sloppy about it though, just massage your tongue, with theres. Basically, just follow their lead!

&& remember, practice makes perfect ;)

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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this kid i like has gotten a blowjob from a girl. i know that all boys only think about is SEX and alla that. obviously haha! but yeah i dont know what to do? because i feel like i have to do something sexual just for him to like me. and i know "yeah then blow him off" just because he would want something from me..but its not that easy! i mean i wouldnt mind makin out with him ;) i wouldnt feel very comfortable doing anything else tho..
what if he asked me? what do you think i should say if i wasnt ready..

If you're not ready, then he can't push you into doing that. I mean, the first step to anything, is kissing and then making out! And if he does ask you while you're making out, just say "Well, I'm not comfortable doing that since we're not dating or anything..." Just say something like that, don't let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. And if he doesn't like that answer, then you seriously need to blow that kid off. I know you like him, I know how that goes, but you don't deserve that!!

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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i like this guy...well i wouldnt say like him just REALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM! lol but you see the problem is ...so is everyone else =(
and like when i go to school events i think "im not that bad lookin..i think im kinda pretty" (not tryin to sound full of myself) but then when i get there, there are sooo many WAY prettier girls than me..and im like im never gonna get this guys attention. and i couldnt sit by him because he is always packed in with everyone else..with nowhere to sit..and the problem is i dont even know him. havent talked to him once. got any suggestions!?
ThANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

Aww, I know that feeling. I went out with a guy who EVERYONE thought was hot, I didn't like it much haha.

Just dress cute (not slutty, you'll get a bad repuation) and just get over by him (before or after the party or at school) and try talking to him. If you're not comfortable going by yourself, go with a couple of friends or whatnot. So, that way you'll be more talkative. And when you see him, give him a smile. A smile that's like "Wow, you're hot."

And when you talk to him, just be flirty and giggly.

The first step to liking someone, is getting to know them.

The guy I went out with (the one that everyone thought was hot), there were people around me too, he knew I was single, so he just came right up to me and started talking to me. Maybe thats what you need to do. But, don't just shove your way in there and interupt haha.

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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im 15 :) and me and my best friend go to diff schools.
thought maybe it'd help?
haha anyways..i think one of my best friends guys friends is really cute! and my friend is in sports and like i go watch but the guys she knows or is in one of her classes goes to them too

Hey sweetie.

No, I didn't think you sounded conceited don't worry!!

The one you think is hot, goes to the games you watch.. right?

Well, if he does, try sitting next to him or something. Then just casually try talking to him. Just be like "I ALWAYS see you here! Who do you come to see?" and smile when you say it.

If he plays in the sports, then when you see him just smile and him and then walk pass him and be like "Good game" and smile. Just make sure you smile alot =)

&& as for your friend, just talk to her about the boy thing, just be like "You're pretty! You need to have confidence, just smile at him a lot" Just try giving her the same advice I gave you!!

I hope this works and good luck. Tell me how it goes.

If you need help with anything else or I left anything out, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Hey babes.
Okay.. soo my friend kinda likes this kid. but she also likes another kid too haha its kinda confusing. and like ive seen one of the guys she likes and he is super HOTT and seems really funny. and i wanna meet him but my friend is wayyy to shy and i dont wanna be like yeah lets hang out with him and she'll be like why? and i'll be like i dunno..i mean she knows i think he is cute! but she wont have the nerve to hang out with him. i dont wanna wait to meet this kid he is sucha cutie! and then i will feel bad if i do meet him that we will start to flirt or something or he will look at me (sorry i dont wanna sound like selfish or anything) but then IF he does do that what do i do? i would sooo wanna flirt back but then i dont want her to get mad..but ugh i dont want to wait for her forever to make a move you know? i dont even know if she would get mad! and i dont wanna ask her..like what if he flirts with me or something because i dont wanna sound conceited. well i hope you know where im coming from
xoxo

Hey sweetie.

AHH!! I hate those situations. Well, your friend thinks this guy is hot (the one you like think is hot too) and another guy is hot. Sooo, she shouldn't be too hurt.... right?

Buuuut, I think you should try talking to her about it. That's just the right thing to do, so she doesn't get too hurt, mad, upset, etc.

Just be like "I know you like _______ and ________, but I think _____ is hot. I really wanna meet him and hang out with him, so I can get to know him. But, I don't want to just hang out with him if you don't want me to. We could always hang out together like me and ____ and you and _____"

Just say something like that and see how it goes!! It's not like you two can't be friends either ;)

I hope this helps and if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox. Tell me how it goes.

♥ Kourtney

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Yes i have kind of a problem...

so theres this cutie in one of my classes and like usually he "flirts" with me.or i think its flirting? but the kind of flirting he does is aggressive..like pushin you around and stuff..ist that considered flirting or considered "i dont like you get away from me" and then today like jokingly every time i walked by him he would like push me around and be like ya lil BiaTch! and then i would say somethin back..like "take it back" "take it back" and hes be like NoooOO! and then do you think he does this to flirt or does it because he doesnt like me?! hope ya can help!
thanks love

Hmm, boys are so confusing, seriously haha.
Frustrates me.

The whole like pushing you, jokingly, is kinda flirting. Kind of a weird way of flirting though.

But the whole lil Biatch part, wow dumb on his part.

So, tomorrow when he goes to push you, just laugh it off. When he calls you a "lil biatch" just ignore him or say a smart ass comment. Make him feel dumb when he says that haha.

But, if you like him, just flirt with him. But, he needs to stop calling you a lil biatch, not funny lol. He's probably trying to be funny, but it's not lol.

Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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okay well one of my good friends likes this lil hottie! and yeah ive never met him b4 but ive seen him around and shes told me alot about him. now i want to help her try and get him..what can i do? because she is wayyy to shy to go up and talk to him you know..even tho she talks to him in school i guess? im afraid that if i meet him or my friend wants me to talk to him or something that maybe he will start flirting with me..then what do i do?! im soo bad at like just blowing off hot guys..well not blowing off just not flirting back. because i would LOVE to flirt back but i DO NOT want to hurt my friend at all..what do i do!?

AHH. Tough situation.

Yeah, I've been in that situation before. It's hard.

Well, maybe have your friend go up with you while you guys all talk.

Get a conversation started with them, like something you think they'll have in commen (try asking her what his interests are and stuff) and once they realize they have stuff in commen, be like "Hey I'll be right back!" and let them be and let them talk and flirt and stuff.

But, let your friend know you'll be doing that so she doesn't freak out and tell her to flirt with him, so that way it looks like she's interested.. you know?

Well, I hope this helps and good luck for you friend!! If you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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okay..well i kind of like this kid i dont even kno if i like him its just that im really attracted to him!!..he doesnt know yet tho..i dont know if he even knows me? maybe what i look like! haha anywaysss he likes to do stuff with girls i guess. or he has "gotten stuff" if ya kno what i mean. this makes me jealous because i know that he thinks other girls are hott! and that makes me really jealous..even tho i havent really even talked to this kid before but he is just hilarious and just a lil cutie! what do i do?! i really wanna makeout with him =0 thats a problem tho since i havent actually met him yet and i wont see him for AT LEAST about another 2 weeks..bummmer! but yeah and then when i see him its only for like 2 hrs and hes always talkin to other people..blahh! what do i doo? im really shy so that doesnt help..well when i first meet someone i am lol but i LOVE to flirt..just not right when i meet someone..well i do but yeah i dont knwo if you get it? and lately this guy is all i can think about seriously.. and i havent even met him i dont even think he knows i exist! but yeah .. when i go to bed i think about him every night before i go to sleep..like us bein together DREAMIN heheh.. maybe sounds obsessed? i dont know.. ahhh..got any ideas for me to get this guy!!
haha thank you dear

Well, when you do see him just go up to him and act all flirty. Like you said, yeah, you're shy when you first meet someone. BUT, if you really like him, then you'll go up to him. I mean, if you're not like that (doing stuff with guys) I wouldn't hook up with him, because he'll want to do stuff with you. You can always just make out with him I guess haha. But, when you see him, just make sure you flirt with him so he doesnt notice you since you don't think he knows you exist. && once he see's you I'm sure he'll be like "WOW" haha. But, trust me, don't hook up with a guy who's always thinking girls are hot or always doing stuff with girls (getting some), etc. they're no good. I've hooked up with a guy like that, got hurt. You don't want or need that. But, if you really want to just make out with him!! But, the only way you can talk to him is if you over come your shyness. If you really want to talk to him, you'll over come this, trust me. I hope this helps and if you need anything else or need more help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..

For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!!

Well, you've only been dating for 5 1/2 months with this guy and he's already asking you to marry you (which is totally fine!!) and you said, you two got in an arguement, which is normal.. so does that mean you two fight alot?

But, anyways, when you two got in a fight, was he really mad? Because sometimes when you're angry, you say things you don't mean. I know I do. Even if he was angry and didn't mean it, you should never say "I never fell in love with you anyways" That's just messed up on his part. && you seem like the sweetest girl ever, and do NOT deserve to be treated like that, no girl does.

On the other hand, what is this other guy like? Can you see yourself with him, in the future? Getting married? Do you argue with him alot? Does he make you happy?

Now, go back to the guy you're with.. ask yourselves the same questions.

&& Go from there. I think you can make your decision by that. Because, as much as I want to say "Oh, go for the other guy, you two will get married" I don't know that. I don't know if you two will get married or not. I wish I could tell you what to do, but no one knows. You really need to answer those questions and follow your heart.

Because the guy you're with right now, is playing games with you (like you've said) and broke your heart into a million pieces. It will take him SO MUCH to put every little piece back together. While the other guy, might put it back together in just days.

If it's ment to be with the guy you're with now.. you two will find each other's love again.

You need to think of pros and cons for each guy and like I've said answer the following questions I've asked you for each guy. If you need help doing any of that, you leave a message in my inbox. && I'll totally help you out.

I hope this helps you out and please tell me how it goes!! I hope everything goes great!!

♥ Kourtney

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i'm 13yrs.old and a girl. is it bad to feel.... well happy if a guy makes comments about your boobs and butt or touches it?

No, not at all.
It's always nice to get compliments!!
Girls love♥ compliments.

Just don't let it get out of hand if a guy touches your butt!! (not saying you would)

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox!!

♥ Kourtney

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well my x boyfriend loves to talk a lot of crap about me and laughs when i get hurt but some of his friends tell me he still likes me but i do not know whato think please help me sincerly confuse!

Boys can be dumb sometimes.
I'm sorry..

But, if it's really bothering you.
Confront him about it && tell him you don't like him talking crap about you.

Some boys, think if they are mean to the girl, that, that's flirting, when really, it's not! haha.

But, if you still like him then I would really confront him about it.

Just tell him how you feel and be like "Alright, I know you're my ex, and I see you like to talk crap about me, I don't know if you're trying to be funny or what, but it's not funny to me when you do that.."

Just say something like that. I mean, if it hurts you that he's doing that to you, really say something to him about it so he can stop!

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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I've been dating my boyfriend eight months. What do you think would be a good Christmas present to give him? =)

Aww congrats!!♥ =)

Hmm... do something cute.
Boys won't admit it, but they love it when girls do that.

If you have a lot of pictures of you guys, you should make a scrapbook of it.

Or you could get a camera and take pictures of everywhere you guys have been (like good memories) and then make a scrapbook of that. Then make a page for like your song, some inside jokes, etc.

Those are always good!!

I hope this helps and if you need help on making it just leave a message in my inbox. Or if you still need ideas and don't like these, just leave a message in my inbox. Good luck!! Tell me how it goes.

♥ Kourtney

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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months and i want to get him something for christmas. I don't have a lot to spend and i want it to be something special. Any ideas?

Aww♥

You could always get him a shirt from his favorite store (like a band shirt, or American Eagle shirt, whatever he wears)

Or a CD he's been wanting.

Or you could always get a frame and put a picture of you two in it and decorate the frame and then write him a poem!!

Just do something really cute since it's only been 2 months♥

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox!

♥ Kourtney

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