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How do I get my gf to think im "sweet" and really hang out with me alot? movies? talk on phone alot? what should i do?? I RATE REALLY HIGH!


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girls always end up being the one coming up with date ideas... welll for me and my family its always beenthe girl asks the guy and invites him places... take a stand an let her relax intive her to a romantic dinner and done just tlak on the phone or goover to eachothers houses girls like to get out hope i helped

-becca

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me and my bf are always joking around, and we aren't serious that much. i feel like i don't know him quite as well as i would like and that we never talk about anything serious. any suggestions?

alto fo couples feel this way and i have had that problem before... one fun way to learn something about yor bf while being sily but serious at the same time is to make a box full of questions on little slips of paper and sit down to dinner or something and taketurns pulling and asking questions... if he doesnt answer punish him ... like he gets no kiss but if he gives you a good answer give him a kiss... who kwos it miight be stupid id suggest trying it out...

-becca

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On the last day of term before the christmas holidays, my boyfriend broke up with me. I was heartbroken and I wanted him back so badly. Then on christmas eve I met up with him and some other people and we got back together. At first I was so happy to have him back and everything was good, now it's the not the same. We don't hug and kiss as much as we used to, we hardly ever talk even though we see each other everyday. It's not the same as it used to be. I do love him but it isn't working. I know that if I broke up with him I would regret it and it would make things so hard for all my friends because we're part of the same friendship group. I don't want to break up with him but I feel like I have to, what should I do?

i owuld say you need to talk to him about this. Tell him that you miss hwo htings were before you broke up the first time. That soemthing isnt there like before. Tlel him youi still love him and doo nt want to break up with him. just talk to him. who knows maybe he feels the same way.

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Can a person be in love in 8th grade? Or is it just bogus? I do believe I'm in love and I wondering if it really is love. All of my friends alkways say I'm in love with this boy and I have been for a while. Thanks!

well it depends on yrou definition of love. I believe you can fall in lover a any age. seriously ost people in 8th grade say they love someone in their profiles and what not. But like most o the poeple i know will have i lov you _____ after like a day of dating. youlll know when its love. it is so much deeper then a crush.

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I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks

this was the greatest natural desastor in a century. of course any money will help.its more the thought also... i would send some in but all i have is dimes and pennies... good luck.

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I'm 35, and married for three years. I got married cause I was lonely and married the first guy who came around after my boyfriend and I split. In the meantime, boyfriend married someone else and has two kids. Recently boyfriend and family needed a place to live. They now live with us. I'm still in love with him. We've had sex, with our spouses approval... It was awesome as always. I want him more than my husband... husband is lousy in bed. Boyfriend loves his wife, and really only wants her, and a traditional marriage... without his ex being in love with him. I just need some advice... or a friend... someone to understand me.

hold up your husband and you ex's wife gave you guy permission 2 have sex. thats messed up. but i know its nice 2 offer him a roof but if it is causing you emotional strain i would find him another place 2 stay.

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My friend told my other friends that this kid likes me, but i don't like him. I like someone else. I don't want to hurt his feelings because i know how it feels. What should i do?

this one dude who i think is discusting asked me out 9 times. just let them down easyily. tell them that it is swet of them but you odnt feel quite the same way.

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i havent had a girlfriend in a while im a 15 year old guy. im in my first year of high school. im not ugly in fact almost everyday the upper class men girls always telling me how cute i am i hate it though the only thing is im short im like 5'3 and at my school thats short i dont know why i cant get a girlfriend i dont know what im doing wrong thanks i need advice!!

well people are taller now because there aer growth hormones in certin foods like bacon and milk and eggs... etc. to get taller you could eat some of that more often. Thats just to get talelr i guess. Well i dont think your doing anything wrong i am sure that there are plenty of girls at your school that like you you just need to be roe aggresive and ask soemoen out.

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alright...well I am going out with this guy and me and him have only been going out since friday (12-17). well he always says how much he is in love with me and I don't understand that at all, I mean I haven't even been with him that long!well we went shopping and got eachother x-mas presents but he only told me one thing he got me which was DIAMOND EARRINGS from this fricken expensive jewelry store. Well he got me something else and he told my friend but she won't tell me but she was really excited about it. I think he went way OVERBOARD and i didn't want him to buy me anything but of course he did. I do not know how to react when we exchange gifts tomorrow because I'm going be like holy crap!! So I have no idea what to do and how to react to that lol!

you need to tell him that it is really sweet of him to get you these nice gifts but it really isnt needed and that maybe he is moving a bit to fast for you in the love area. Tell him a card or something would have been fine. But dont forget to be very appreaciative of the gift.

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I have a pretty big emergancy...
My boyfriend gave me a hicky like 30 minutes ago and I was wondering if theres ANYWAY to help speed the process of it disapearing?
please help if my parents see this then i'll get killed!

hide it with your hair or toothpaste or soem form of coverup.

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i Asked a question earlier about me datin a 19yr old.....ok......19 i kno but everytime someone says someone who is older than 16 goin out wit a much younger person every one first thinks "RAPE!!!!!" but i kno if i said he would neva do anything to me everyone would tell me that i cant be to sure.....well thats bull because this guy really really really likes me and im sick of hearin that sex is the only thing on his mind.....sorry but you really got to stop thinkin that every olda guy is gonna rape someone..... thanx to those who gave me good advice........i appreciate it.....


>>now ill ask again..sould i listen to my friends?....or go wit wat my heart tells me to?

well it is illegal to date someone kiss or anything if that person is overage (16) and you under. so yes if they kiss you or if you date him it IS rape. People arent jstu thinking that the yare knowing it. Rape isnt only sexuals intercourse. Think abotu that. good luck

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Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is..

my sister has a boyfriend like that... iwouldnt call it gothic tho. He paints his nails black and does his eyeliner and mascara... so i guess its a bit weird but it all depends on your point of view.

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Ok, i like this guy, let's call him Jim. I flirt with him CONSTENTLY and i think he likes me too. But then i was talking to his friend and he said that Jim raped someone. I didn't believe him at first and i askeD Jim about it. First he said "i'd never do that!". So i got his friend to come over and he said "Yea you did, remember? On my couch last summer?" And Jim said "O YEA!"
I dont want to like a guy who raped a girl. Plz help me, i dont kno what to do!

dearest raper-
This is a tough situation. The best thing u can do is tell him that you just dont feel comfortable around him. Dont say anything about the raping or anythjing else. Maybe if you hanged around pther people,. it would take your mind of him, and give you a chance to fall for someone else.

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Hey,
I need some serious advice a.s.a.p.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7mths now and we've kissed,held hands, made-out, and hugged and stuff like that. Now hes been touching me everywhere (and i mean everywhere!) whenever we are really closly hugging or holding each other closely when we sit together, it scares me really bad for some reason and my heart starts pounding, also i am a catholic grl and i follow my religion, i am also only a freshman in HS. I talked to my best friend about it (a guy) and he said he would touch his girlfriend like that too, and my other friends let their boyfriends do that too, now im starting to wonder if im too prude, or im not doing the right thing.
So should i let him touch me?

Thanx to everyone thats gonna help me,
*BaByItSYoU*
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dont follow what your friends do. You need to set your own boundaries based on when YOU are comfortable with. Hope i helped

-beccers_boo

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Me and my boyfriend always end up in these steamy makeout sessions with either him on top of me or me on top of him... which ever way we end up we're usually rubbing our bodies together and i think you get the point... what would this be considered as? please tell me... and do you guys consider this bad? we're both virgins and we both believe in abstinence... we never "touched" eachother in inappropriate ways either.. except for maybe on the butt a few times.... but that's it!

THis is called dry sex... basicaly sex with the cloths on and there is nothing but... ummm grinding.

-beccers_boo

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I've been going out with this one kid for only like 3 days.. and his bestfriend is going out with my bestfriend (If that makes any sense) so we're always hanging out.. and one time we were layin on my bed and her and her bf were makin out, and so were me and my bf..and he has his hand on my stomach and said.. is it okay if i go down? i kno it means down ym pants.. but like what would he be doing.. dont you think it's a lil early? plez help! x333

basicaly he would be um........ well i ate saying this becuase it is dsigusting... but umm fingering you. eww sorry. lol. But yea ummm from my point of view it is early but you need to set your own boundaries.

-beccers_boo

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I'm 13 and i have gone out with this boy i really liked him and he was my first boyfriend but he dump me and now i don't want to go out with anyone because i have losed my confidence and scared i'm going to be rejected

Well your goingto get dumped and your probualy goign to dump people. But you cant be afraid to date. I mean other wise how are yio ugoign to find the person that you love??? If you are really upst wait a little bit before dating. But dont be afarid of rejection... just have somethign or soemone to fall back on likea friend. Hope i helped

-beccers_boo

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Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)

Well you need top set your own personal bounderies and dont let anyone pass them untell your ready. If you felt comfortable with him doign that and you believe it is okay then it isnt nesicarily wrong. Think abotu it tho... Personaly this will sound lie all geeky or w/e but im not going past makingout till marridge. You need to set a boundray like that.
hope i helped
-beccers_boo

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ok well i'm 15/f/ i'm dating this guy named Jesse and yesturday we were hanging out together and some chick named Stephanie text him saying I LOve you 2! and well i read it and i asked him what was that all about he tells me that this girl has a crush on him and thinks that he will go out wiht me and with her at the same time and well he told her that he would never cheeat on his girlfriend......what you all think? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE I"M CONFUSED

trust your boyfriend. I mean unles he has given you a reason not to trust him that i woul put trust in him. I mean if you question him then he will feel accused and no guy likes that. Just trust him

-beccers_boo

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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) he is 18 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me??
my b-day is on may 5th
and his on the 13

first of all wut your doing i illegal you need 2 ber 16 to date somone 18 or older. but besides that i would tell yoru parents after your 16... hhat way it will be legal by then. sorry this wasnt my best advice. hope i helped alittle

-beccers_boo

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