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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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I am 14/f and my bf is 16/m. We were both in a relationship, we both broke up around the same time, and we started dating axpromiately three months after the break ups. So there was a gap. But the exes are whats causing some problems. His ex... Lets call her S and well call my boyfriend B. Alright so before I even knew B or liked him or anything, I've hated S. I reeeally don't want to go in to the details of why all that hatred is there but yeah... And my ex, isn't exactly important except that he really screwed me up. He was sixteen while we were dating and I was fourteen. After about a month he tried to have sex with me. I told him no, I wasn't ready, I'm too young. And he broke up with me. He told me that he was only dating me because he liked making out with me andd he thought it would be easy to get in my pants. I was heart broken. To know that someone only wants to use you for something like that and then drop you just makes you feel like shit, and I told myself I would never get involved with a boy like that again. So when I met B I was so happy. He's a good boy, really. We've been dating for like four months. And we haven't gone past making out. Well... the other night I got taken a little off guard when he told me that he had gone preeetty far with S. Not sex, but third base things that I am NOT ready for. I was so shocked... and really upset even though I had no right to be. They were dating and I didn't even like him like that then. I don't know why I got so upset. Some of it has to do with my hatred of S and it honestly makes me sick to know that B would do something like that with her. I love B and it actually makes me stomach hurt to think about it. But I also think most of it has to do with the fact that I don't want things expected from me. And I was scared. Here B had gone with this experineced pretty and willing girl and I... I felt like a little kid. I didn't KNOW that B had this experience. I talked to B about this and he told me I was beautiful and smart and that I actually cared about HIM and his personality which S never had. That I was more than he could want and he if he could take back what he did with her he would have never done it in the first place. That it was stupid of him. And he told me that I don't have to do those things with him. That he values being with me more than anything. That should make me feel better right? Well it did... Until I realized that Iiiii am the problem here. HE might not expect me to do those things but in my mind I raise this bar that I think I have to meet. HE might not compare me to her, but I do. I'm scared it will turn out like my ex. That he could leave me because I'm not ready for the things he is... B said he would never do that. I believe him. I trust him. But why do I still feel like crap? And why am I doing all this damage to myself? Why can't I think the same way B does? And what if I ammmm ready for those things??? Help?
You're mixing all the wrong things, instead of embracing what you have. You've comparing relationships that you both USED to have to what you have now. It comes down to this..
1. Not all guys are dating you to have sex with you.
Is it something they might hope for.. YES. But when a guy says that he'll honestly wait, don't doubt him.
2. He wouldn't waste his time. If all he wanted was to hit base or run home, he would have dropped the ball and bailed the game the second you told him you weren't ready.
3. Don't beat yourself up for what you're not ready for.. ever. A girl only gets a body once. I'm 22, and just recently had sex with a guy I've been with for 2 years. I went through all the pressure, and read the signs of jerks. DO NOT SETTLE. If you're not ready, YOU'RE NOT.
4. This guy, B.. he seems great from what you're saying. He cares about you, but furthermore, RESPECTS you. If you continue beating yourself up over what he did with her, or what isn't being done with you, it could be bad for your relationship.
5. When you're ready, you'll know. But don't do it because you feel like shit. Do it because you love or care for him deeply.
Please keep me updated.
Thanks in advance for those helped in my former quetions & this one!
Also sorry about it being so long it's the full story!
Kyle crushing him for a year now.
Back in Dec '08 he said “I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I don't like you that way, I'm sorry I only wanna be friends. Are we okay?” those were his exsact words! They still bother me a little. Me & everyone I know are home-schooled we all get together for bowling on Wensdays & other advents. Last Wensday me & my bff Sara agreed we'd "make" each other talk to your crushs next Wensday(22nd) I've kinda night-mares since we agreed to this about him not wanting near me ever again. Since late Feb '09 he starting acting more polite(opening doors, pulling out chairs,HUGS & ect.) I would really hate to lose his friendship, but at the time I wanna know if this year I've know him (invisable to center of attention) means he finally wants something more! I'll see him practally all day(11am-7pm) 'school advents' are the cause for the time. Do I really wanna take a gamble at this AGAIN? But if I don't Sara won't talk to her crush! For both me & Sara are friends say that are guys like us. Well how do I make this work? >< Bonus the Formal/Prom is next month!
-lily
Hey there!!
Time limits never, ever apply to the heart. That goes for all sorts of love. The aftermath of love gone wrong, and the before love, where things start to come together.
There is no rush for these things, because they will happen if they are meant to happen. You don't want to approach him again now, after he told you it wouldn't work. Think about the refreshing though of rejection. You don't want to go through all that again, do you???
If this has turned around and now believes that you and him would be good together, then he knows what to do. Just like you told him how you felt, he should be able to tell you how he feels.
When he told you he wasn't interested in being anything but your friend that day, you dropped a ball and left it in his court. Let him be the one to pick it up and try and throw it to you now.. if the case is that he wants to pursue things. =)
As for your friend.. although you two made an agreement, your situation already sounds different. You would be repeating yourself to a guy who didn't want to take that step just yet. She should tell this other guy how she feels anyway, and you should just be supportive if he says no, and excited if he says yes. =) But you.. don't need to do anything else as far as her. Just worry about making this guy see you in a different light. Let him see who you are. Thank him for opening doors and being well-mannered. Those are great characteristics for a guy to have!
Maybe this upcoming extra closeness with him will help even more. I can't see how it could hurt your situation!
Have fun at your formal, and good luck!
*Edit: I put a lot into answering that question. I spent a really long time coming up with a plausible answer. Your feedback was not deserved after the way I helped you. And I'm not talking about the grade. I really was trying to help the best way I knew how. Sorry if my advice offended you.
I have this guy. I fell in love with him the first day i meet him. I was dating his cousin then but coudlnt get him off my mind. we have only been dating a week now. but see he has a rough past couple kids. he dont know about you. you know? well he had a daughter. never meet her or anything because the mother wouldnt let him see her. his daughter was two got killed in a car accident yesterday and was killed by a drunk driver. we are "taking a break" i was raped a few weeks ago and a car accident a few days ago.. our break started after his cousin was lieing to him about me because he found out we were dating and didnt like it then he found out about his daughter. it hit all at once. well this morning we meet up and it was akward i gave him a hug and i started crying. i cryed the whole way home. his uncle told me he cried to. i had also wrote him a note telling him about why i liked him and how i feel him love with him the day i meet him. and how i would always be here for him no matter what. he cried to. i went with him tonight just driving dirt roads. and had a good time. i keep asking him whhat he was thinking about he told me he was thinking about something he and i had done a few nights ago and i got upset because i didnt expect him to say that. we didnt really talk after that he got mad because i chewed a piece of gum (im allergic to gum) but i need to chew it to relax me. i spit it out before my throat closes. any ways i really love him and i just dont know how to help him through this. and i dont want to lose him.
Hey there!
First, and by far more importantly.. I know that it's your decision to report a rape, but I highly suggest that you do. I've heard it from many friends, and even my mother.. and they all regret keeping it to themselves. But it's a shame that happened to you.. and I am so sorry.
Next..
Four years ago, my uncle died. Not only was it tragic for my mom, his children and wife.. but the majority of the pain I saw, was in the eyes of his mother. Nobody should ever have to bury their own child. Ever. Unfortunately, it happens everyday, and there's not much we can do to prevent it. It was hard watching my grandmother.. crying every single day and night. And to this day, I could swear that she doesn't hurt a bit less then the day she got the phone call.
Point being, there is never a right about of time to give him about his situation. He is bearing the hardest kind of pain there is right now. And although it may be hard for you to understand completely, listening to him right now it's the best thing you can do. Even if you don't have much to say back. And even if you did, words can't cure his loss.
Allow yourself to be the shoulder he needs. Pick up when he calls, offer your hand when he needs it. These are things we do for the people we love. But he's going to need time. He's going to be scared. Not only has he just lost his daughter, but he's probably worried about losing the friendship with his cousin as well.
Give him his break.. but remind him of your comfort. Tell him that you'll give him the space he needs, but that you love him, and want to be there for him. It may take a while, but if he realizes how much you care for him by doing this, you may find that your reward is exactly what you want.
Good luck.
I asked someone to homecoming yesterday morning and got a "maybe" because he was already going to ask another girl... so I said alright, just let me know.
But homecoming is next week! (I know, I procrastinated...) So how long should I wait for him to get back to me?? I want a date so if he says no then I want to have time to ask someone else. So should I just ask someone else if he doesn't tell me in time?
A girl should NEVER settle for a guy's "Plan B".. his "maybe", was his way of being too scared of hurting your feelings. He's caught between being considerate for not shutting you down, and rude, for leaving you to wait on him.
Ditch this guy, and go with someone who doesn't need to think about it.
Times up.. NEXTTT boy =).
Good luck. =)
So, I'm going out with this guy and I don't really see him a lot because of our schedules at the moment but hes always saying stuff, like he misses me and he thinks about me a lot.. but he never calls or texts or anything. Another thing he does is sometimes when we're talking on aim, he'll just all of a sudden leave without saying bye or anything. Is all of this normal? Its my first relationship and idk, my friend and her boyfriend are always talking and texting all the time, but this guy dosen't seem to want to. Anyway, if anyone has any advice, let me know. Thanks :)
Guys are very different from girls. They don't take as much offense to certain things, and they don't look into things as hard as us girls do. Sucks, I know. But it doesn't always mean that they care any less.
But it is bothering you.. and it should be addressed to him in a nice, and calm way. Tell him that you wish he would just put in a little bit more of an effort to show you how much he misses you. Explain that you like him, but you want to hear from him more often-- you want to know how he's doing and what he's up do.
Also, you could try texting him and asking about hit day. Mention that you miss him and he'll get the picture. If you start doing it, I'm sure he'll start too. The relationship will also improve in time. When my boyfriend and I first started to date, he wouldn't call me sometimes until the early morning. He'd tell me before he left where he was going and I could call-- but I didn't want to interupt. Once school started, the late night phone calls had to end, so I told him. Now he not only calls and texts a few times in the day-- but our relationship feels so much more powerful. And until he explained it, I was just like you. A bit confused and scared. But, it turned out that he didn't want to talk me because he HAD to-- but because he WANTED TO. A lot of people in relationships start to get into a mode where it feels more like a job then a fun relationship.
My advice is that you speak to him. And in the mean time.. shoot him a text saying "Heyyy..I miss my boyfriend =)"
17/f
let me start out by saying im not the most prettiest girl in the world, but apparently my personality hooks. i have a boyfriend of 8 months, whom we've had our ups and downs, and we plan our future out together.. but lately, things have been going down. we dont talk as much, i dont feel much attention from him, etc. due to the fact that he's been moving, very busy with family and taking care of his baby brother and other siblings.. here comes the harsh part.. there are 4 other guys who like me. and im not talking about only after 2 weeks of knowing eachothr.. apparently its after years... or at least a year. how did i come to find out? they told me.. these four guys are my friends.. cool friends.. idk what to do. it' like they give me more atention than my own boyfriend :( and i would never cheat on my boyfriend.. or in general. any advicce?
p.s- ive already talked to my bf about the whole not feeling loved nor being given attention. and he's trying but, this busyness builds his frustration.. nd cause arguments. but the love somehow still seems there...
If it's love, then there should be no question right now. If it's love, then you have nothing that you can do right now, except be patient. If the busy life for him is only temporary, then hopefully things will pick up for you and him.
In the mean time, tell those boys what you feel for your boyfriend. They're hitting the stove while it's hot, so they know what they're doing. But, if they are nice boys, then not only will they understand that you care for your boyfriend, but they'll expect you to be nothing but honest with them in return. They haven't done anything wrong-- it's been about interest. Therefore, explain that they're nice boys, but you have a boyfriend. You should have no problem saying this.
Buttttttttt.. back to the boyfriend. Things do need to change. If this is just a faze then okay, but really? No girlfriend should have to go this long without feeling loved or attention. There was ways to show those things, even if one of them is very busy.
Good luck.
Ok,
There are too guys that i have feelings for
my ex
and my current bf
I have never cheated and i never will
but,
i dont know who to be with
my ex is a HUGE pot head but i really care for him still, and he recently told me he still loves me
but my current boyfriend is so amazing but i dont know i think that hes too good to be true and that im not good enough, and im stuck in the middle becuase me and my ex have been through sooo much together and i dont know he thinks were destined to be together but i dont know what i should do. HELP!!!
Consider this.. why did you and your ex break up in the first place? There's a reason why it happened, and why you moved on to this new guy, who as you say is treating you very well.
Ask yourself if the reason you'd go back to you ex, would be for love. Or could it be comfort? Sometimes people cling to things that feel familiar to us-- because it's easier to deal with what we already know, and have already had.
If it is more than comfort, then it's only right to break up with your current boyfriend. I commend you for not letting cheating become an option. Many people in your situation wouldn't know how to handle it.
Make a list. Boyfriend #1. Boyfriend #2. Included in this list? Risks and benefits of being with either one of them. Don't make your decision based on how many risks they have compared to benefits.. just let yourself absorb all the information, so that you can make a logical, and happy decision for yourself.
okay- so every anniversary me and my amazing boyfriend switch who makes the plans..and well this month, it's all on me. any ideas excluding movies/zoo/picnic/dinner?
I named a star after my boyfriend once. It seemed kind o cheesy to all my friends, but he loved it.
I also made a HUGE scrapbook once for him. I filled it was types out quotes, inside jokes, song lyrics, pictures, magazine cut outs. He LOVED it to the point where he actually cried.
And also, even though you said besides dinner, you could always make him dinner. Guys like that a lot. Or a dessert even-- chocolate covered strawberries are amazing! =)
Other then that? Amusement parts, miniature golfing, local parks, beaches, or even a nice blanker set out under the stars-- would all be good ideas for a fun, romantic day/night.
Good luck, and Happy Anniversary!
I have this friend of mine...and well, he just admitted to me that he's bi. and he really likes this other friend of mine, but he doesn't know how to tell him. I really don't want him to get hurt, because I'm pretty sure that my friend that he likes isn't bi, since he told me that he likes this one other girl that's also another friend of mine. It's a whole complicated web of love thing. is there anything he can do?
Just be honest. Coming out as a bi-sexual is a big deal.. but I think anybody who has the strength to come out, also has the strength to take things as they are. It doesn't matter whether or not it's you or his friend who tell him they're not interested.. he'll feel rejection no matter what.
The best thing to do? Lay low. Maybe casually mention that you don't think your friend is interested. Either that, or you can just let him find out from your friend if in fact he ever tells him.
You shouldn't have to worry about this, or do the dirty work. It's kind of you to be concerned about your friendships-- but know that some things can't be controlled, and you have to just let whatever happens around you happen. Even if that means someone you care for will get a bit of and ouchie.
Good luck.
so there is this guy, and i told him how i felt about him even though he had a girlfriend and he said i wanna tell you how i feel about you and he did he said he wished we could have gotten to know each other more...
well we would just talk on emails over myspace and thats it until just recently two days ago from today he asked do you wanna hang out with me.....well we never did cuz of the timeing bbut the next day we talked more, ust over emails and he told me that him and his girlfriend just broke up!!!!! but the thing is we never talk about him and her and whats more he told i didnt even bring her up!!!!!
well anyways i asked why they broke up and he said it was because
.....she thought he was cheating on her with ....ME!!!!!!!!
and thats not true!!!!! so i wrote back saying im sorry i should have just left you alone i feel really bad now.....heres the part youve been waiting for......his girlfriend requests me as a friend on myspace and she says.........listen yurr not the reason we broke up things were just going down hill for us so its not yurr fault!!!!!
WTF!!!!!!!!!!! why in the world would he tell me that i was the reason!!!!!!???????
does anyone know why!!!
cuz im pretty sure he likes me or at least has feelings for me so why would he tell me they broke up cause of me??????
help me please!!
When two people coming out of a relationship have mixed feelings-- different sides of the story and reasons why the end has to come, are always going to be two-sided. Chances are, you're never going to get the truth out of this situation. You may never know whether or not he told you the truth.
You know that you did nothing wrong but simply respond to emails. There was no cheating-- and if she really thought he was cheating on her with you, then why would she be so nice as to tell you that it wasn't your fault at all?
Be rational.. because teenage boys do whatever they can to trigger a girl's confusion.
So, i just started a new church and i REALLY like it and seem to fit in. Well, there's this boy whos name is Blaine, and i like him alot, and we have been like side by side since we met pretty much but theres a problem. One girl, named Heather, who is REALLY honest said that he flirts with all the new girls and then once he sees something else that he likes he moves on, then a girl named Sierra said thats not true that hes just a flirty person, then this girl names Camille said that hes fun to flirt with but hes not boy friend material. I find all of them hard to believe because hes SOOOO nice and like hes so sweet and just seems like no intntion on being mean or anything, oh and hes like 4 years older then me, but my parents are okay if we go out, becuase he is friends with them and with my brother, i NEEEEEED HELP.Oh and im a girl
Sounds like there's definitely some girl-on-girl crime going on here. What most people don't understand about female gossip, is that it's the dirtiest and most terrorizing kind there is. Girls will say whatever they need to to keep things for themselves. They fight hard, and compete until they feel satisfied.
They best thing to do? Don't be like them. Don't fight hard and look like just a competitor. Be the girl who comes off as a challenge. You don't want to be another trophy placed on his shelf if the rumors are valid. Trust me.. if he's a flirt, he'll notice you RIGHT away with this technique. Don't ignore him-- just don't be the one to walk up to him or start conversation. Also, don't disregard what other people are saying completely.. just because there's a few girls who are in total agreement with his flirtatious ways.
Basically, if you used this advice, you'd be finding out the truth in a different way, ands you'd be getting to know him on your terms. Decide for yourself, and good luck!
14/female; btw, i turn 15 in like three months!
(sorry this might be long :x)
okay, so theres this guy, lets call him g.
g is 17 and he turns 18 in like two months.
well i've know him for about 3 years.
and me and him are like reallly good friends.
i can tell him just about anything, and he can tell me anything as well. i think hes really cute, and he thinks im "gorgeous", haha.
were like best friends i guess you can call it, but we have hooked up many times, never actual sex thou he has tried. lol.
well heres the thing, i really want a boyfriend right, and i know he would be a really good one to me, BUT my parents hates him! ):
they say hes a bad kid, and that hes not gonna get anywhere in life that all he does is get introuble and do drugs... not cool yo.
and yeah w.e he does smoke bud, and he droped out but thats his choice. but other then that he is a good kid...
sooo, how can i make him see that i wanna a relationship, and how do i get my parents to understand that he isnt all that bad and that he does care about me?!!!
help; and thanks loveees!
Hey there!
Your best bet is to just be honest with him. Once you cover the status on whether or not you both was to pursue more then a friendship-- you can then go over the parental stuff.
Once they see that he's important to you, I'm hoping that they'll just want you happy. But really, no parent wants their child with someone who does things they don't normally approve of. It's going to be hard to take this step, seeing as there is so much working against you-- but if it's meant to be, then you'll figure it out.. together.
I hope it all works out.
well im 17, my boyfriend massaged his penis on my organ, but we both were wearing underwears , is it possible for me to be pregnant ?
and if its possible ,,how much time does it take to be pregnant ? help please im in a religious country that i cant ask anyone and i need help.thank you
There is no way possible that you are pregnant. Unless a penis is inside of the vagina, where both liquids can meet and develop, you're fine.
Relax.. by freaking out, you can actually cause your period to come later, and create pregnancy symptoms in your head.
You're not pregnant. =)
I AM A 15 YEAR OLD MALE
at my school i am known for having a big dick and my girl freind is really short and small. well ive fingered her and shes given me head and i think we both no that im not going to b able to fit but we both wont to have sex wat should i do
There's a few options that may help you out. First of all, I'm a virgin. But, my boyfriend and I have definitely done things together. He's big, and it freaks me out. It's scary for a girl. You have to be easy, and understand that it's going to hurt her. Fingering her is the best way to loosen her up a bit. There's also products you can buy over the counter to help make it easier, such as lubricated condoms.
Be safe, and remember to go easy on her and patient.
I met this guy a few days ago. Basically, I already know he's a player, and I KNOW I'm being played, but I can't stop myself from being attracted to him. I KNOW he's said the same things to other girls because he dated my best friend. He is so OBVIOUSLY a player, but I can't help it! I know he's just trying to get with me. He even knows I have a boyfriend and doesn't care. He keeps saying it isn't cheating if we're not married because he read that somewhere. Help! How do I stop this sudden attraction before it gets worse? Why do I like him so much?
Ask yourself if you'd prefer to be with someone who has been treating you with respect, or if you'd like to continue chasing someone who's probably only in it for your goods.
The fact that you can openly admit that he's a player, and that you know he's no good is an achievement. Some girls become naive, and consider the fact that they may be treated differently. They won't.
This guy is doing this for one reason-- because he can. You're letting him, and you can't allow it to go too far. The fact that you're a challenge because you're unavailable is a turn on... and players will compete. The un-attainable are their favorite.
Keep this is mind-- and I hope it works out.
I met her (I will call her Xy) via an old girlfriend, they were best friends and very close. After my ex and I broke up, I maintained a relationship with my friend Xy and we became very close over the past 8 years. I trusted her with everything and she with me. About 3 years back, something happened between her and I, and we were intimate. Even though she no longer spoke with my ex, she still felt a sort of loyalty to her and asked to leave things were they were. We moved on, she eventually got married and we still maintained our friendship. Her marriage did not last, and we some how ended up together again, and things are wonderful in every way. That was until my ex came back from Europe heartbroken and crying and began to call Xy again. Xy decided that she again could not be with me and felt a loyalty to her friend, and asked to stop and return to just being friends between her and I. I was hurt, not just romantically speaking, but as a friend. I feel she chose her loyalty to be with my ex, her old friend who has been MIA for the past 3 years, and pushed me to the side. I walked away from her for good and decided that everything between her and I is over. Am I wrong to be hurt? I really do love her, but I think I was the only one in the relationship and that I may have been just a stepping stone for her to move forward with certain things she was dealing with.
Hey there!
The fact that there's even a possibility that she may have been using you for anything at all, is a red flag. Imagine how things would have been if you two had gotten together, and she used you to accomplish things that made herself happy, but never you.
You are not wrong for being hurt, especially when it comes to a broken heart that's been through 8 years of confusion.
Honestly, any girl that makes you feel inferior, or like your just some kind of option-- is not good enough. Never settle for that. I hope you find what it is you're looking for.
15/f. this will probably be long.
there's this kid eddy at my school, he's 1 year older than me. i always thought he was like the hottest thing ever. last friday i went to this lake with my friends to chill and he was there because he's close friends with my sister's boyfriend(they were there too). we were talking a lot and we had to go through the woods for like 10 minutes to get back to the car so he held my hand the whole time, it was really cute. then he was flirting with me in the car. later when we got home, my sisters boyfriend called her and was like "i think eddy's interested in your sister. we should hook that up" then later apparently he was saying how he wanted to hang out. i was suprised because i always saw him as unattainable
then on tuesday i went to the beach with him and a few other people. we talked and sat next to eachother and the car and whatever, but we didn't really talk that much, probably because it was more awkward knowing that we liked eachother. while we were there he told his friend he liked me but he just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship so he just wanted to see what happens, which is how i feel. its summmer, i just want to have fun. but that was the last time i saw him and i'm leaving tonight to go away for a week, and i'm afraid that he'll lose interest. there's a slight chance we're hanging out tonight, but probably not. how can i make it more known that i like him without it being too obvious, and make sure he likes me for sure?
thannnks
It sounds to me like you already know the answer. YES, he likes you. And if he likes you enough where it's worth trying to build something, then it will take much longer then a week for him to forget about you.
Now, I'm a forward chick. I like to control sitiatuons and be aggresive when the guy doesn't know how to. If I were in your shoes, I would joke about him maybe losing interest. Look deep into his reaction though.. it will tell you everything. You have to consider the fact that he's probably freaking out about you losing interest, too.
I'd take the situation by the horns, tell him you like him if his reaction shows you that he has interest. Make it known that you like him.. because if you don't, it will turn out awkward. If you see him tonight, crack the joke, watch his eye, and see where the night leads you.
If you don't see him, text him from vay-cay.. tell him it's beautiful and he would love it.
You'll be fine. Good luck, and have fun on your vacation.
ok got this gril i like and were really close friends and its a real turn off to me that she smokes cause it is decusting and waste of money and harmful.... even if nothing happens with us what can i say to get her to quit...i have asked her before and she has for a while then started back up what should i do and what can isay to let her no its not worth it!!
Suggesting to a smoker that you want them to quit can sometimes irritate them. So if you really want her to quit, ask he if she even wants to. If she does, then you can suggest ways to help her get through it.
It's already a plus that it turns you off, because if the two of you end up together, I doubt she'll want to do things that gross you out.
If nothing happens between the two of you, and she doesn't want to quit, there's nothing you can do. Be careful, because if you push her, it could make her resent you because smoker's tend to feel controlled by by people who only want to help them.
I hope she, and you make the right decision.
Good luck.
I am absolutely in love with this kid john. He is literally the love of my life and I thought he felt the same about me but I was wrong. I offically asked him out about two months ago and he turned me down but told me there was still a chance. For the past few months he hasnt said 2 words to me. Does he hate me now?
No. He's scared of you. He probably feels pretty bad about turning you down and doesn't want to lead you on any further.
This happened to me once. I liked a guy so much, but what I had to offer wasn't enough. I did the same thing, got rejected, and he didn't speak to me for months. Actually, almost a full year. Then one day I bumped into him, and it turned out that he realized what a mistake he made, but was too afraid to confront me because he felt so bad about turning me down in the first place. We ended up together, and stayed together.
Your best bet is to try and talk to him. Not about what happened or about being your boyfriend, either. Just talk. You must have been friends before, so just ask why you can't try and rekindle a friendship again. See where that goes.
I know how hard it is to just walk up to a guy and ask him what's been going on. So it might be in your favor to ask him outside of school. Via text, email, phone call. Any way to get him on his most personal level, is the way you want to get him.
Good luck, and I'm here if you need anything further.
[[ i\'m a 13 year old girl in middle school ]]
okay. so, i like this guy named jack. and a while ago i wrote something in his truth box on myspace that said \'you need to grow your hair out again. it looked much hotter not buzz cut. youre really hott but a jerk. and pretty funny but still mean.\'
because hes really hott, but a jerk to everyone. well the next day at school in first block, he said something to me about a truth box but i couldnt hear him so i was just like \'whatt?\' and he just said ask me in second block. but i forgot about that so i couldnt. then when i was looking at this other guy\'s profile, i saw that jack had commented him and said \'hey i think hailey wrote in my truth box that im hot but mean. whats up?\' and so then i commented jack and was like \'i did nott write anything in your truth box. i dont know what youre talking about!\' but then i looked at the comment that he wrote in respond to my message in the truth box which was \'ya i no i neeed to be nicer and sorry 4 wat ever i did to you yer right i am a jerk and im tryin to work on that if you dont mind tell me who this is\'. and i thought that was really sweet, so i commented it back \'i know that i said this wasnt me, but this is hailey.\' and he commented it back \'who is this\' and i said \'what do you mean? this is hailey\'. but then he commented it back \'okay i know this is one of your friends\'. then i commented it back \'jack i swear this is hailey. you can ask me anything that happens in first block or at lunch and i promise i\'ll know it.\' but he didnt comment back. then at this party on the last day of school i got one of my friends to ask him if he likes me and she said that he said no. so i was kinda upset and all, but then just thought whatever and acted like i didnt care even though i totally did. so i was grinding with all of these other hott guys and my other friend came and told me that jack looked sad so she asked him whats wrong and he said i dont know if hailey wants to grind with me. and i was really happy and all. so then jack came up to me and we started grinding for like two songs. then we didnt really talk anymore but i didnt exactly care because i was just happy that i grinded with him. then i went on vacation the next day for a week and when i got back i read something that he put in my truth box. it said \'sorry but i jus don\'t like you i meen you r pretty hot but i jus dont like your personality maybe next year though\'. i got really upset about this because i thought that he liked me. i commented it back \'its okay, i understand.
but just out of curiosity what about my personality do yu not like ?
thanks i guess. see yu next year.
\'. but he never responded and this was like a week ago. i dont even know if i like this guy, or if he likes me. i need to know whether or not whoever responds to this thinks that he really does like me or if i even like him.
thanks in advance !
It sounds like he was interested in liking you, when you were interested in other guys. He was probably excited over the idea of you thinking he was hott, and assumed you wouldn't go for other guys. Especially since he knows that he treats people wrong, and you were willing to see passed that. Maybe you liked the idea of cracking the mystery-- finding answers to why he is the way he is. Any girl can get fascinated by a good looking guy, so maybe that's all it was for you-- fascination. For him? Like I said, he probably liked the idea that you still saw something in him, even if he acts like a jerk.
Let him be. I'm not sure if he likes you or not-- but I am pretty sure that he likes the idea of you wanting him. Don't give him that luxury. Don't let him judge your personality, because he's not your boyfriend, or even your friend-- so it's not his business to. Also, who is he to judge your character, when he's been classified as a mean guy, and ADMITS to it? It's not worth it to be upset, you're better off. And for the record, I doubt he'll be worth it next year, too.
Maybe at that point, you should tell him that he's a judgmental person, and that YOU don't like that.
Keep your head high, if you can grind with any guy you want, then you should concentrate on other guys.