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Ok so I have started to like this guy and we have been friends for a long time. We just realized that we have feelings for eachother and surprisingly its really not that awkward. The only thing that i am hesitant about is that hes not like a manly man and he doesnt ahve alot of guy friends. It kind of bothers me because I want him to be a man's man..thats what im attracted to. What shouldi do about this? should i tell him and whats your opinion?
Well, see telling him that you want him to be a "manly-man" would be wrong, because then your trying to make him change who he is for you. You should like people for who they are. If you don't like him not being a manly man, then don't go out with him, but i must say if that's the decision you make, you are going to be acting very very shallow. If you like him, then there has got to be something there that you like. You either decide to deal with the fact that he's not a manly man, or not.
Also, if you've ever noticed, the "manly" guys usually end up being jerks... They aren't really nice guys most of the time. The guys like him are the ones that are the best boyfriends. I'm telling you, he's gonna treat you right 10 times more often than a jock or "manly-man"
Hope that helps you, but in the end the decision is yours.
So me and this Amazing guy made out,but i dont know how to actually make him go crazy during our next make out...........
Here are some of the most important things to remember when trying to have a GREAT kiss.
1. Don't go too far too fast.
Start off slow, don't start sucking face in two seconds. It makes it much more fun, for both of you. Start off slowly and just take it from there.
2. Use your hands.
Grab the back of his head with your hand. It works, trust me.
3. Keep your eyes closed.
Nothing is creepier than someone staring at you from half an inch away.
4. Don't go too crazy with your tounge.
If you are going to use tounge, wait for a bit, then use it slowly, don't ram your tounge down someone's throat. Just use it as an addon, the lips are the most important part. Some people think that the tounge is the most important part of kissing. It's not.
Hope that helps.
heyy, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.
the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...
whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help
thanks SO much!
Well, the first thing I would have to say is that if you started dating him when you were 11, that would be the start of your problem. You are too young at that age, and dating so young can make it easy to feel things that aren't really real. You probably feel so attached to him because he was your first boy friend and you weren't mature enough at that age to handle it. Actually, in my opinion, at 14, you still aren't old enough to have a boyfriend. It's just tough because you need more life experience before you are mature enough to handle it.
Chance's are you're NOT destined to be together. I was 14 when I fell in love (Now I realize I was too young to be dating then) ... I thought that she was the one I was going to marry. I just had this really strong feeling like we were supposed to be together, but we broke up... and I still thought we would get back together, because, we were meant to be. We never got back together, and it took me about a year and a half to realize, she wasn't the one for me.
Now, you're saying that you're relationships get too serious. At 14 that is bad, almost unacceptable. At that age you need to not be getting into serious things. Relationships are something that can be great, but you have to be mature enough to handle them. At that age you aren't. Most 14 year olds date because:
A. Thier friends are dating.
B. They feel immature if they DON'T
The thing is. Your not ready to date yet, and realizing that and deciding to not get yourself into situations our not ready to handle is MORE MATURE.
You yourself said that it's getting too serious for you, so just tell him.
Say this. "I'm not ready for something this serious, I'm only 14. I like you but, right now, I just can't deal with this. I'm afraid to start anything too big right now and I just need to stop this for now."
Just tell him how you're feeling...
And about getting over him.
It takes time. For me it took a year and a half, but if you don't get back with him within that time, then you'll move on. Getting over someone doesn't take a day, it takes a long time.
I saw this answer you gave one girl, and i really liked it so i figured you are a smart guy and i was hoping you can help me with this one annoying problem, thanks a whole load in advance.
My ex boyfriend, we were best friends for a year and then we told eachother we liked eachother. he was in love though, and i fell in love with him later on while we dated. we dated for 1 year and a half. We broke up on a bitter fight we had online and for 7 months we didnt speak to eachother. were both extremly stubborn for our own good and hes always the one to apologize which i admit but he is also alwyas the one who screws up. After the 9th month he got with the slut of the country. shes known to have dated the whole country ( sarcastic but no lie she has a crazy amount of ex's) he said he was with her to have sex and what not. i was so angry by that because when he was with me everyone loved him. and now that he isnt with me he changed became an alchoholic and everyone hates his cocky attitude. he looks horrible now and hes always constantly crying to my brother saying he wants to change and become a better guy. He cheated on his girlfriend said he was really drunk even though he remmebers how and what happened that day when he had sex with someone else. He says he only uses her for sex (he used the terms "sex buddies") but than im guessing he knows me and my brother are close he also told him "but i care for her" even though he had just said he didnt care what she did and he knew that she was probably cheating on him. And when he used to talk to me about her when we started talking he bragged about her to me, saying he missed her and wanted to call her when to other people hed say things like " she calls so much shes so annoying"
Now she says shes in love with him. And he hasnt broken up with her even though they doint look so happy together. I dont know honestly if he cares for her or not but its been 12 months now and i cant seem to forget him because we had the most amazing relationship ever not exagerating people envied us and wanted to break us up so many times but we always stuck it through. Seems like we were the ones who ended up making ourselves fall.
You being a guy i figured youd have some answers on any of this, because im confused, angry, and i think i should move on completely. and even though i have tried, i really have. all i remember is holding his hand and i'm in love again. =/
Sorry this was long.
Thankyou so much in advance.
I hope you the best in life :]
Alright here's the thing. People change. It happens SOOO often. I've had so many friends that I don't talk to anymore because they are completely different people now. He may have been a great guy back then, but that's not who he is now. Everything you're telling me about him disgusts me. And just from the way you wrote that message I can tell you know you can't be with him again.
So, now here's the problem. You're still in love with him, and you can't figure out why, considering he's such a disgusting person now.
Here's your answer. You're in love with who he used to be. He used to be a great man to you from what I'm getting... but that's not who he is anymore. It's hard to accept and it hurts a lot, but it's the truth.
Just remember this: Love DOES pass. I've been in love, like, real love, and when it ended I was hurt, for a long time... But you DO eventually get over it. It will hurt and you may think it will never go away, I know I did... but it does go away and you feel better.
I know how just the smallest memory of them can bring back ALL the good times and flood you with love again, but it's like that person has died, as terrible as that sounds.
There are plenty of guys out there, and though you may or may not believe me. You will fall in love with one of them and it will be ten times greater than this love. Because obviously, you weren't meant to be with him, or you would be, and he would still be the guy he was.When you find the guy you ARE meant to be with, everything will change. It will be a completely new kind of love.
So take comfort in the fact that someone better will someday come along. Until then, date other people, have fun, try not to think about him. You'll get over it.
Oh! This helped me A LOT! The number one advice I can give you...
When you think about him and all the great things that happened, catch yourself, and remind your self of how terrible he is now. I know this sounds kind of twisted, but the fastest way to get over love is through anger...
Good luck.
Hope things get better for you, I'm sure they will.
So two years ago I met this guy who I really liked, and he liked me too. We became really good friends but something happened and we drifted apart. At the beginning of this year we started talking again. He told me he liked me, and I told him I liked him. But he has a girlfriend. (at the time I had a boyfriend but he dumped me after a few weeks) So the guys not any random to me, hes also like, my best friend now. But I didnt know what to do. I didnt want to wait for him because that wasnt fair on me. But I didnt want to make him choose "her or me" because that wasnt fair on him. I also didnt want to get with somebody else because Id always be thinking of THAT GUY and that wouldnt be fair on the person Id be with. So I was extremely confused. We had a few arguments over the subject and the boy would get annoyed when I mentioned other guys, but nothing ever really changed.
I went on holiday for a week and the guy rung me and text me. He told me how it was gonna be nice when Id get back. Then on the last night of holiday I was talking to this older man about him. He told me how no guys worth it, how if this boy really did like me as much as he should he wouldnt be with his girlfriend. It doesnt matter how many problems he has I should make him choose her or me. He also said 'What do you think of yourself?" like, implying that I must have a low opinion of myself to wait around for him, when Im worth so much more than that.
I thought about everything the guy said and the next day when I got back, ye, I suppose I was acting a little differently. And then all the guy was speaking about was his girlfriend. NON STOP. It hurt me, so I decided that we should stop talking all together, that I would erase him from my life. So I deleted every bit of contact I had with him last night. He was a bit upset about it the night before, but last night he didnt seem to give a toss.
It really hurts me because Ive wasted so much time on him, Ive given him the best of me. Ive never told him this, but I love him. I seriously do. Im not one of them girls who say I LOVE YOU to every guy Im in a relationship with, the word actually has meaning to me. Now Ive lost him and Im lost. Its okay for him, hes got his stupid girlfriend to go back to. He told me how he needed me and he didnt know what he'd do without me. Well hes lost me now and last night he acted happy about it, is that how he really feels? All I want to do is cry. Ive lost this guy who meant so much to me. I don't know if I've done the right thing here, I dont want to feel this way anymore, its so heartbreaking, disturbing, confusing, depressing... etc. I want to be happy and I done this to be happy but at the moment Im the total opposite. It just seems like its impossible to be happy without him.
Im only 15 years old so Ive got the rest of my life to find someone else, but Ive never met anyone like him... I dont know what to do. I dont know if Ive made the right choice... was it really for the best?
(Sorry for going on a bit)
First off i would like to say that you seem like a very mature and nice girl for being 15, its a breath of fresh air. Anyway, The guy that gave you that advice gave terrible advice in my opinion. Just because he has a girlfriend doesn't mean he doesn't think the WORLD of you. He probably doesn't know exactly how you feel. If you told him straight up what your feel and how much you want him, things might be different. He probably knows you like him, but doesn't see it as a big deal. He's not going to break up with a girl he likes and is already with to go chase someone else that he's not sure will work out. Once he knows that you like him a lot he might change his mind... if it doesn't work out, you will get over it. I've been in love, real love, and when it doesn't work, it hurts... for a long time. I did get over it eventually. I still love her, but it doesn't hurt at all anymore, I date other people and I'm totally fine, and you will be too if it doesn't work out.
Good luck.
i wanted to know what i should do about this girl i have been seeing for about 6 months, we've known each other for 5 years we both know each other ins and outs. i have never felt this way for anyone in my life, shes perfect. every time i see her its like the first time every time, my stomach gets in knots and i get light headed when she smiles at me. i think about her 24/7.we like the same things. we dont do drugs nor do we drink, our ideal nite is staying home and watching a movie instead of partying. i love her with all my heart. but my real question is should i stay with her or not? i forgot to mention that she has 2 kids by my brother and they broke up about 7 months ago and he still loves her. he doesnt know we are together. she left him because of his drug and drinking problem, which was bad. what should i do?
Wow. This is a heavy situation to be in. First of all, if you want to make this a serious relationship you have to let your brother know eventually, no relationship can grow if it is kept a secret. Secondly, it will ruin your brother's trust and he probably will be crushed. You would have to decide whether your brother or your girlfriend means more to you. A third problem is the kids. First off, morally, is it right to be with the mother of your nieces and nephews? Secondly, what will you tell the kids when they are older. It's a very odd situation and probably not a good one to be in. Also, if you have been together for 6 months and they broke up 7 months ago don't you think that is a little quick, considering they have children together... I would be careful with that...
In the end it comes down to this. If you stay with her, A LOT of terrible consequences will come from it. You might get some good out of the relationship too but it will not be easy.
You have to decide if it's worth it. I can't tell you straight up yes or no if you should break up with her, because you could never exactly explain the intensity of your feelings.
Remember, there are PLENTY of other people in the world for you to fall in love with, It's a sticky situation and probably not the best one to be in, so I would be careful with your decision.
Girls come and go most of the time, but family will ALWAYS be there, so don't betray your brother.
15/f
Well, the title pretty much explains it.
Last night i got really mad at my boyfriend "dan" we'll call him.
We were having a normal phone convo and having a good time and laughing.
When, he asks the question "How many boyfriends have you had baby?"
and we've talked about this so many times, and he KNOWS how many i've had.
I'm the ONLY girlfriend he's ever had, and i know it. His best friend told me, and he certainly has a number of times.
So i tell him "Four."
And he goes 'I mean, real boyfriends that you kiss and stuff, not go out for a day and dump"
and i said "well in that case its you."
and he snickers and goes "I've had nine"
Me: NINE?! you always told me i was the only one.
him: well, i didn't want to make you feel bad.
Me: but then why did you freak out when we kissed for the first time? You always told me that was the best night of you life because you got your first kiss.
Him: I meant on a date.
Me: .... so what are the girls' names?
He never even told me their names, i forget wat excuse he used but all i know is i felt like crying on the phone.
I know what you guys are thinking that he might be teling the truth.
If you know him like i know him, you would most definatley tell me hes lying. He lies to me ALL THE TIME.
And he think i wont notice, i'm not stupid, i notice and then i ask him about it and then he lies some more.
he tells me he loves me all the time but when he lies to me it just makes me think hes doing it to make me feel horrible.
for example, we'll be in the pool and my top will fall just a tiny bit down, but i'll fix it right away.
Then i'll joke around and say "You didnt see anything did you?"
and he'll say "yeah, actually i did."
and just things like tha he does to make me feel horrible?
I really don;t know, he says he loves me, and i love him.
And this may sound like B.S
but to tell you the truth i've never lied to him before.
and its just other lies here and there.
Like, ill say "Ohmygod imagine if someone did _____"
and he'll say
"Ive done that before"
and i KNOW hes lying.
It makes me feel like he doesnt care about me, and that hes going out of his way to hurt my feelings.
has anyone ever had this happen to them?
Please help.
I would say, as hard as it might be, dump him. You need a guy you can trust. Right now he is just lying about small things, but if he's okay with lying about this, he'll be fine with lying about important stuff. The main component of any relationship is trust. Without trust it's not a real relationship. Since you obviously can't trust him it's not a good place to be in.
There are a few reasons why he may be doing this:
1. He has a mental problem that makes you feel like you need to lie about everything, no matter how big or small. This actually does exist and is pretty common. If this is the case, it is not someone you should get serious with.
2. He thinks these lies make him look cool, either to you or to others around you. Even though they just make him look like the jerk he is being, to him it looks like he is cool because of these things he is saying happened.
3. He really just like to mess with you. Which is a terrible thing.
So no matter the reason, you should probably break it off with him.
Sorry.
Best of luck.
Hope I've been of help to you.
Okay, since like ever I've always been the guys best friend. Theres been prettier girls then me, and thats who my friends go for. Most of my friends are guys. I've always been flat chested, like a board and it would sometimes bother me when someone pointed it out, but then i just realised-- Whatever.
Well over the summer I went from like nothing to a C. I don't honestly know how.. but I did. And my Mom also said that I got curves.. [embarrasing..] No one failed to notice the changes over the summer and its weird. because most girls went through this like in the 6th grade, and im going through it in the 8th but now all the 'friends' I have which are guys are diffrent around me. I'm really into sports, and we usto always play football, and Im not good at it but I can run. They catch up with me and Im dead.. and I dont care that they tackle me but some either tackle me to hard and claim I got hurt cuz "She has those huge tits to worry about now." or are way to soft. Yeh Ben actually said that to me and I was like =XX Im not into makeup, or skirts or any of that and they didnt care before... but now I guess there flirting with me. My only girl-friend Becky says that they all are- we can choose our seats this year and Im always at the guys table and they're always poking me, and love to make me scream from some reason. Its all diffrent, and it used to be okay to walk into a room full of guys where I knew they were my friends. But now they look down my shirt, compliment me constantly, which isnt so bad but i cant walk into the room without known There The Oppiset Sex. its weird.
I dont know how to make things go back the the way they were... =[
Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. There is a time when guys and girls change and it's not easy to just be friends anymore. You will get used to it more, but it will probably be like this for a long time. Start making some girlfriends that you can hang out with, people you won't feel awkward around. Don't completely ignore the guys, but just accept the fact that this is what's going to happen to everyone. Look on the bright side. Guys are noticing you now, though it's not as easy to be friends anymore, dating is a great thing. Dating is one of the most fun parts of most teenagers lives, so enjoy it and make the best you can out of the situation.
Alright, first, i am sorry if this is really long but i have a lot to say. Okay, well i like this guy and he "supposedly" liked me. (we "talked" for a week over the summer.) Anyways, tonight i went to a party and he was tickling me and hugging me and picking me up...etc. Well, all my friends (which is a lot) told me they think he likes me because of the way he acts around me and he even told my friend he liked me. Well, later at the party (at the end) he comes up and gave me a huge hug. He was like "I'll see ya later, bye!" Then, after the party my friend told him that i really liked him and he told her not to tell me but he likes someone else and he is "talking" to someone else.I mean, i even admit, he was flirting with me at the party and then he just tells my friend right after that he likes someone else and not to tell me. I don't get it.
I really don't think he is a player. He really is a nice sweet sensitive guy and he dosen't have a "bad" reputation. I am so confused! He is always really nice to me and everything. I mean, all my friends were telling me that they hear he likes me. My questions are,
1. Why is he doing this?
2. Does he like me and the other girl or just her?
4. What do you think?
5. What do i do and how do i act around him now?
6. Should i still flirt or should i lay off?
Thanks!
1. he is just confused, he probably DOES like you, bt right now he is more focused on someone else, so he doesn't want to lead you on too much, but still likes to flirt with you.
2. he likes you both.
4. You forgot number 3. and I already said what i think
5. If you want to win him over just keep flirting with him.
6. Keep flirting.
I've been on and off with this kid for over a year and right now i guess were "together" but anyways, me being really curious and in a way physoctic ,went onto his facebook, like hacked in. I read his inbox and like wall to wall with girls and he acts like hes single and talks dirty to them and it got me soo upset. Like one wall to wall with a girl was like bring a friend, (basically for him)? We go to different schools and barely see eachother so as far as i know he could be living a whole different life, trying to hit on girls and stuff. The problem is i cant confront him and tell him because he'd know and i know what him to find out i hacked in. Anyways i dont know what to do? ahh!
Well, if he is cheating on you, which he obviously is, then you should break up with him immediately, and if you're going to break up with him anyway, who cares if he knows you hacked into his myspace?
14/f i was just wondering if kissing comes naturally because i havent kissed a guy b4 and im pretty nervous about it...also if you have any kissing tips that would be great thanks =) muddymidfielder
Kissing does come naturally, it takes practice, but it's easier to just learn from experience than to have it explained to you.
Ok so I'm new at the whole boyfriend / girlfriend thing, and I feel like the process of me becoming more comfortable with the more physical (though not sexual) aspect of a relationship is going extremely slowly. I'm okay when my boyfriend initiates hand-holding, hugging, whatever, but for some reason I'm having a really hard time reciprocating - as in initiating anything myself. It would probably be useful to mention that I'm generally not a touchy-feely sort of person, and I tend to have a large personal space bubble. Plus, I'm kind of shy, so I think I've developed a sort of avoidance mentality where I often purposely try to avoid contact/interaction with people (yes, I probably act a bit anti-social at times, but I'm not a recluse or snob, just more of a natural introvert). Obviously, I want to get over this habit / mentality at least with my boyfriend. I don't hug him as much as he would like, nor frankly as often as I would like - half the time I feel like hugging him, I just don't for whatever reason. Irrational inhibition. He's also trying to get me to flirt more with him, which I haven't been able to bring myself to do yet (I've never flirted intentionally before :P). I really do want to do these things, so why don't I? Any ideas for how I can overcome my problem?
First of all I would like to congratulate you for adding the not sexual part. It's a smart decision for you not to get sexual right now.
Most people have a inhibitions about physical contact because of doubt in themselves or lack of comfort with the other person.
What I would suggest is this. Remember, your boyfriend like YOU. Obviously he does or he wouldn't be with you. He WANTS you to hug him, hold his hand, ETC. I think that you feel like you might be doing something wrong or making others uncomfortable by initiating contact, but he won't feel uncomfortable. Just remember, by holding his hand you're making your self happy, at least I'm assuming you want to hold your bf's hand, and your MAKING HIM HAPPY at the same time.
Sometimes people feel uncomfortable in new relationships. Most of the time that goes away with time. You become more comfortable around each other. In the few cases where you don't start feeling comfortable around each other after a good amount of time that signifies that maybe you aren't right for each other.
Hope this helps.
so i had an interesting conversation with someone i know today. we were talking about relationships. it feels like im always screwing things up. even if i didnt do anything i still feel like i couldve done something different. she mentioned that i might be scared of committment. which im confuzed as to why this might be the conclusion she came up with. because to me it seems like im always running towards the relationship. just with the wrong guy. it just seems like every guy that's come along..ive ended up getting hurt in the end. the one guy i truley want has a girlfriend and i dont think that i'm ever going to be able to be with him. ive been basically in love with him since 9th grade and im a senior now. we were best friends during my 11th grade year and i dont understand how he moved on so fast. i just want to be with him but i dont know how to even talk to him about any of it since it seems like he so preoccupied with his girlfriend. we barely talk anymore because of it. so the way i deal with it is by running around tryn to find any guy that would be willing to date and go for them. i just want to know if i'm EVER going to find someone who will treat me right . im not cocky or anything but i kno i have the looks, but i also seem to have it in my head that pretty girls can get what they want..let alone many girls. but i just dont understand why i havent gotten what i want. i know that sounds really bad it's just the only way i can explain it. sorry for making this so long. i just dont know how to go about this.
I have a lot of the same type of problem. I never can keep a relationship going, and I used to have the one person I knew it would work with, but the had a girlfriend. So I know how you feel. I would date anyone just to help me get over her. Eventually, I did get over her. And you'll get over him. The key is to not date to get over the person, but to just realize that you have to get over him and date others because you LIKE them. And you don't sound cocky. I'm the same way. I'm not saying I'm a model or anything, but I'm a pretty okay looking guy. So don't worry. The right guy will come along, until then, just date for fun. If a relationship doesn't last long, that's okay, don't get hurt. It's not like you're having these amazing heartfelt relationships that are ending, they are just for fun. So enjoy the time you get to meet new people and date for fun. Because if you make it, it can be a LOT of fun. :)
i am a 15 year old gurl and there are 2 boys that i liked last year and now I'm having mixed feeling about them...i keep sayin I'm over them but when Î see them all my feeling come back and Î don't know wat 2 do
Just remember, at 15, it's nothing serious. You don't have to get over them. If you like them let them know. Just don't make a big deal over it. Though it seems so huge. It won't be important for long.
To make it simple: I cheated on my boyfriend. Twice. Once was with a boy I took a trip to Europe with. We made out after having a few too many drinks. This was back in April. Just a few nights ago, my friend and I went to our friend's apartment and we also drank, so I ended up sleeping on the couch with one of the guys, and we also made out and he tried to finger me but I didn't let him.
I feel like pure crap. I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. I don't even know why I did it, but I'm guessing it was just the thrill of being with someone other than my boyfriend for once (since we've been together so long and that 'infautation phase' has passed). I love my boyfriend more than words can express and he loves me too. There are very, very, very slim chances that my boyfriend will EVER find out about these mistakes. So, I chose not to tell him. These hook ups meant absolutely nothing to me, and were mostly the result of too much to drink (which I have only drank one other time besides these two).
Any advice on how to cope/what to do? I am not going to tell my boyfriend, but I just need some general advice and to know I'm not the only one in this situation. Thanks in advance.
The best advice I can give you is to stop drinking. It makes you make bad decisions and puts you in these situations. Also, you need to tell your boyfriend what happened. If you love him you shouldn't be okay with lying to him. He will either forgive you or not, but he deserves to know the truth no matter what.
i'll try to make this one short, im 17 and she's about my age i think
so. i go snowboarding every sunday night its allaways a good laugh. tonight the ramps and stuff wernt made up so there wasnt anything else to do but bomb it down the slope all night. so 9 oclock comes and everyone but me is off the dry slope and in the bar, then a girl who i'v seen before working there had come out on her board, i dont even know her name we've spoken before but only breifly and then i was fine. but that was before i found out she had the same interest as me. anyway it turned half 9 and she'd had enough so she went up for the final time and i followed sort of on the lift a couple of hand rails back she got off at the top which was were i was going and she gave me the nicest smile and wave i have seen in my life. now of course that moment is stuck in my head and i dont want to get too attached to memories because i dont know her. i dont even know her name, i dont even know if she has a boy friend.. but yeah... has any one else had this trouble? how have you forgotten about things like this or if you have any good advice its all welcome, thanks
by the way dont say keep yourself busy :P im normally busy but its times like this that things just get to me lol thanks again
I know how that is. I've been through it. It's just something you have to deal with. If you see her again, don't just sit back. Be confident and say something. If you don't think you're going to see her again just live through it. You'll get over it, but just always remember, NEVER let a girl get away. If you like her, ASK FOR HER NUMBER. Don't get nervous or afraid, I know it's tough... But you'll end up regretting it later if you don't.
OK so im 18/f and he is 22/m
His father owns the restaurant i work at.
Any how the other day at work when i was getting the buffet refiled he was getting something to eat and he said "i miss you". Then he flashed a lil smile. We were right next to each other. It was quite quiet.
Last summer we talked alot but lately we just talk every now and then. He barley ever even responds to my e-mails. Im leaving in two weeks for college. I also had a thing for him before but i never let him know.
I guess my question is what do you think he ment by telling me this and what do i do?
THANKS!
Well, first of all, in my opinion the age difference alone is too much. Him saying I miss you might mean that he likes you, but with you going away to college in probably wouldn't be smart to pursue a relationship.
Hi. I am a sixteen year old female from the midwest area of the U.S.A. For about a year now, I have liked this guy that is the same age as me. He knows that I like him, and he has told me that he likes me the same way quite a while ago. At his birthday after everyone had left except for me and another friend of ours, we were watching a movie, and by the end of it we were sitting next to each other and holding hands, though we are not dating.
Just today, he told me that he wanted to talk about where our relationship is going and that he is not ready for anything else yet and just wants to be friends. I was happy, though bummed, and I wasn't sure about dating either. I was very happy that he was mature about the situation. About two years ago, I had dated and made a " mistake" with my partner at the time, and ever since I have not dated, so I have felt the same way too. Now, I am afraid that he said those words because his feelings have changed. If they have, I will learn to deal with it and move on, but I really want to know because I have very strong feelings for him. Should I ask him, and if so, how?
Thank you for your help.
Sure, ask him. The best way is always to just say it. Up front. Just ask him how he's feeling, just let him know, you'll be fine with whatever he says, you just need to know so you can stop thinking about it. He'll tell you.
Good luck
I have been dating a guy for two years almost. I have a nine year old son and Im a working professional. My goals are high and I also attend online college to finish my paralegal degree. My boyfriend lived with his parents until two years ago and has worked several jobs since we met. Why am I with this guy?? He is great with my son and has a big heart. I've always been looking for the loving man that will sit at home with me on Friday nights and I have met him. We never have the money to go out or on vacation. I do not have a ring yet?? He works jobs to get by. We still live in a apartment and I drive a new car and his is lucky to still be running. I'm 28 and I have never been materialistic, but I would like to have more??? I'm confused, please help.
A lot of people have this same problem. You should tell your boyfriend you need more. Hopefully he will try harder to get a steady job and help pay the rent, but in the end you have to ask yourself if he is worth it.
15/f
Alright, well i like this guy and i am pretty sure he likes me still because we "talked" a week over the summer and stuff but then he had to work so we quit. Well, everybody says he likes me but he has SO MANY girls that are just his friends and i will see him hugging them everyday and massaging their shoulders and everything but he dosen't do that to me. I am really shy and we only have one class together. I mean he teases me sometime but i don't know if he is flirting or not. He mainly just talks to me friends but he says hi and stuff. What do i do and how do i find out?
Because he DOESN'T hug you and massage your shoulders and such it means he probably DOES like you. When a guy is just friends with someone they are more comfortable to do things like that. When they like someone, they are more careful...