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I saw this answer you gave one girl, and i really liked it so i figured you are a smart guy and i was hoping you can help me with this one annoying problem, thanks a whole load in advance.
My ex boyfriend, we were best friends for a year and then we told eachother we liked eachother. he was in love though, and i fell in love with him later on while we dated. we dated for 1 year and a half. We broke up on a bitter fight we had online and for 7 months we didnt speak to eachother. were both extremly stubborn for our own good and hes always the one to apologize which i admit but he is also alwyas the one who screws up. After the 9th month he got with the slut of the country. shes known to have dated the whole country ( sarcastic but no lie she has a crazy amount of ex's) he said he was with her to have sex and what not. i was so angry by that because when he was with me everyone loved him. and now that he isnt with me he changed became an alchoholic and everyone hates his cocky attitude. he looks horrible now and hes always constantly crying to my brother saying he wants to change and become a better guy. He cheated on his girlfriend said he was really drunk even though he remmebers how and what happened that day when he had sex with someone else. He says he only uses her for sex (he used the terms "sex buddies") but than im guessing he knows me and my brother are close he also told him "but i care for her" even though he had just said he didnt care what she did and he knew that she was probably cheating on him. And when he used to talk to me about her when we started talking he bragged about her to me, saying he missed her and wanted to call her when to other people hed say things like " she calls so much shes so annoying"
Now she says shes in love with him. And he hasnt broken up with her even though they doint look so happy together. I dont know honestly if he cares for her or not but its been 12 months now and i cant seem to forget him because we had the most amazing relationship ever not exagerating people envied us and wanted to break us up so many times but we always stuck it through. Seems like we were the ones who ended up making ourselves fall.
You being a guy i figured youd have some answers on any of this, because im confused, angry, and i think i should move on completely. and even though i have tried, i really have. all i remember is holding his hand and i'm in love again. =/
Sorry this was long.
Thankyou so much in advance.
I hope you the best in life :]
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Alright here's the thing. People change. It happens SOOO often. I've had so many friends that I don't talk to anymore because they are completely different people now. He may have been a great guy back then, but that's not who he is now. Everything you're telling me about him disgusts me. And just from the way you wrote that message I can tell you know you can't be with him again.
So, now here's the problem. You're still in love with him, and you can't figure out why, considering he's such a disgusting person now.
Here's your answer. You're in love with who he used to be. He used to be a great man to you from what I'm getting... but that's not who he is anymore. It's hard to accept and it hurts a lot, but it's the truth.
Just remember this: Love DOES pass. I've been in love, like, real love, and when it ended I was hurt, for a long time... But you DO eventually get over it. It will hurt and you may think it will never go away, I know I did... but it does go away and you feel better.
I know how just the smallest memory of them can bring back ALL the good times and flood you with love again, but it's like that person has died, as terrible as that sounds.
There are plenty of guys out there, and though you may or may not believe me. You will fall in love with one of them and it will be ten times greater than this love. Because obviously, you weren't meant to be with him, or you would be, and he would still be the guy he was.When you find the guy you ARE meant to be with, everything will change. It will be a completely new kind of love.
So take comfort in the fact that someone better will someday come along. Until then, date other people, have fun, try not to think about him. You'll get over it.
Oh! This helped me A LOT! The number one advice I can give you...
When you think about him and all the great things that happened, catch yourself, and remind your self of how terrible he is now. I know this sounds kind of twisted, but the fastest way to get over love is through anger...
Good luck.
Hope things get better for you, I'm sure they will.
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