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Can you please provide a bit more information? People on this site might not know what SBA is and it might be why you're not getting a response.

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I will not attend on class for two days and i want to ask permission. How could i write permission note?

It depends on the teacher. If you see her then talk to her. Tell her the reason you will be missing class the two days and if there is anything you can do to make up the work and not lose points on anything. If it's a medical reason, tell her you will bring the doctors note. If it's a family emergency or the like, ask your parents or guardians to write a note explaining the reason.

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ok so here it goe, theres a guy that i really like he gives me butterflies and all i cannot get him out of my head, i always got the impression from him that he wanted me like he asked to come over to my house, he tried to kiss me he was always giving me hugs, he kissed me on the neck twice, he tried to get me on my own a few times, ok so the fact is that he is married with kids, i dont know why i have feelings for him, i stupidly told him the other week and all he said was i dont know what to say to you and i told him to go and he left since then we have barely spoke partly due to me been distanced with him, i still feel for him and dont know what to do i dont think i want an affair and he obviuosly doesnt or he wouldnt of walked away would he so any advice sorry if it doesnt make any sense

This might sound harsh and I apologize for that, but you have to move past him. I know that's what you want to do, but what I mean is you have to give up the chance that anything will happen. An affair is tricky business and it can ruin an entire family. I think that it is a good idea to distance yourself from him. Even the fact that he did all those things with you already was wrong of him. You have to give yourself time. You also need to stop wondering if he might've liked you or not, because it just won't happen. You will be wasting time and energy on thoughts like that. So take a deep breath and give yourself time. If you find yourself thinking about him, shrug and tell yourself it doesn't matter because it won't happen. I'm sorry you are feeling this way and I don't mean for you to be hurt. But I feel like you and other people will get hurt if you allow your thoughts to become action.

Best of luck.

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13/f

My life is just so completely boring that it's depressing. Every single morning I wake up at the crack of dawn, work endlessly at school, come home and spend 5 hours on homework, then I go to sleep. I push myself a lot in my schoolwork, so much that it's totally consumed my life. I have no friends. There are people that I sit and eat lunch with every day, but they're not my friends. In fact, I'm pretty sure they don't even like me. I have nothing in common with them. My school's super small, too, so I have nowhere else to go. I'm in clubs at school, but I feel like they do absolutely nothing for me most times. I don't like holidays, especially Valentine's Day, which is coming up. They're so pointless, and I never celebrate them anyway. I feel like my life has absolutely no purpose whatsoever. Teachers give way too much homework and expect us to get it all done. I don't play sports. I don't like music. My life has no purpose whatsoever. Sometimes I feel so depressed that I just eat and eat- there's nothing else I feel like doing. I have really bad acne and braces and scoliosis and greasy hair. I hate my freshman year in high school. I hate life. Help...


Try to create time for yourself. I know how difficult it is to find time to do things while managing homework. It's really tough. But give yourself say 30 minutes a day to do something you think you might like.

For example, if you've heard that a certain show is interesting, watch an episode each day as a break from homework. Or read a book a little at a time. You don't have to find what you like right away. Think of things that maybe could be interesting. For example, have you ever tried art? Maybe buy a sketchbook and try? If you like to eat why not learn to cook? You can also go for a walk. Maybe learn how to plant a seed and take care of it. Even get a small pet. Play a video game.

Sometimes it takes time but once you've found the one thing that inspires you, it makes things easier. Like I said, start with giving yourself just 30 minutes each day to relax and do something you think would be fun and different. Don't be afraid to try new things.

I'm a university student and I know how if you focus on school all the time it burns you out. Never say that your life has no purpose. If you feel this way then perhaps you can do something for other people as well. Never be afraid to try new things. You have to take the initiative and make your life exciting otherwise it never will be.

Best of luck!

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Sometime at the same time it ok not have alot todo. Play on the compture and research stuff and maybe watch tv and such read a book. or sometimes get up and do something. I am not lazy I just don't know know what I really want todo. I don't drive and I live with my parents and i have a boyfriend. I have a happy Life. getting Closer to God everyday. but wondering is there something I can do more then I want. I do get on advice thing on here give advice help people out. sometimes I Do enjoy cleaning and do house work and when all done and feel like i can do many like play the wii or something like that but i don't seem to do it becouse i feel like there something More IMportant I need todo don't know what that is. I pray really hard to God ask him what he want me todo and what I shall do? becouse i like find my place on this earth not waste my time just doing things not that important todo.

Well, I think you need to find something that interests you and then volunteer with something related to it. For example, I really love helping people and so I volunteer at the hospital. I've been doing it all summer and it really is fulfilling. It makes me feel like I'm doing something important and it's a great feeling.

So try something along those lines. Like if you like art, volunteer at an art place teaching kids art. Or perhaps you can volunteer at a shelter or something. I think you just need to find something liek that that will make you feel like you are using your time wisely. For me helping other people through volunteering makes me feel as if I've spent the day right. Maybe it'll work for you too.

Best of luck :)

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Hello,
I'm a pre-teen/teenager and I am super interested in Behavioral Psycology how can I learn more about it at my age. I have already googled it and used wikipedia. What other ways can I learn about it?

Why not go to your local library and look up books on it? Or you can purchase the books.

Here is a link with many suggestions of some books you can read: http://www.amazon.com/Behavioral-Psychology-Sciences-Books/b?ie=UTF8&node=226686

Hope that helps :)

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What does that mean? Is it bad?

Depending on the context it might suggest that you have not had many troubles in your life. Or that you have seen or gone through many terrible things. It's almost like you've been protected from the bad.

So depending on how it was said it can be both bad and good. The person telling you could be suggesting that you might not understand what they are going through because you haven't ever dealt with something like this. Or they could be saying that it's a godo thing that you've never gone through something bad.

If you are more specific in telling me more, i might be able to provide a better answer. :)

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Hello
So I have a new job and it's a waitress , and i'm really stressing out. I would like to know what are some key factors to keep in mind when you waitress someone in a big hall.
Thank you

I found some great sites that might have the advice and tips you're looking for.

These are general tips you should keep in mind:
http://www.thriftyfun.com/tf487219.tip.html

http://www.make-better-tips.com/waiter-waitress-tips.php

For waitressing in a formal setting (like a hall):
http://www.ehow.com/facts_6173854_job-description-banquet-waitress.html I would look at the requirements from this link and make sure you have them. It'll make your job easier.

Best of luck :)

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for the past 2 years, ive been liking this guy in my class. once he found out i liked him he stopped talking to me completely for the rest of the year (which was like 8 months) and that hurt me pretty bad. Before this we were cool with each other but then he heard that i liked him, he treated me like i had a sick disease. i also had my friend pretend to do a fake interview with him so we can learn his interests. he found out about that which also contributed to him treating me like some kind of stranger. I even apologized for that and he still acted like he hated me. He hardly talked to me that whole year. So anyway a couple of days ago, i saw him and he actually talked to me as I was walking in the opposite direction. He only said hi let me remind you that this is the first time he tried to start a conversation with me in a long time. He pretty much shouted it as if he really wanted my attention. Is this a sign that he's over what happened last year and actually wants to be friends or something? thanks for the answers
p.s please don't criticize me for blowing something as simple as "hi" out of proportion

I think that before maybe he got freaked out and didn't know how to react to your crush. But, perhaps he has gotten over it because it has been that long. Maybe you can try to give him more attension now that he's giving you attension.

Best of luck :)

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What do i do if this jr likes me and im a freshmen my moms fine with it but my like going crazy.....?

If your mom if fine with it, then you don't have much to worry about. If you do go out with him and such just let some people know where you are and what you'll be doing. That way if anything happens they know your whereabouts. Also, keep a striaght head. Think before you do anything and make sure you are okay with what is going on.

Stay safe, have fun :)

Best of luck

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I was with this guy for almost three months. Things seemed to be going perfectly as far as I knew. There are a few years between us, but we established from the start that that didn't bother either of us. We'd already said 'I love you's but I hadn't force him into it, by any means. Every time he wanted me to come over, I did. (He worked a lot and I wanted to make sure he still had guy time without me, so we saw each other like, an afternoon during the week, and I came over late on Friday and spent the night and left in the afternoon on Saturday. )

We never argued or fought. His friends all like me and think I'm good for him as far as I know because I calm him down. His friends girlfriends all like me, too. (He likes to rant. Haha) and its as important that everyone likes me because they're always together. We aren't exactly alike, but I feel like we compliment each other. We keep each other in check.

So here's the thing: last week he asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with him, just the two of us to be special cause we're always with his friends. We made plans, but some how we both ended up kind of sick, so we just grabbed some food and went back to his apartment and watched a movie. That night went really well, and even though nothing amazing happened, he said he was really happy that I was there to kind of baby him when he was sick. On Saturday, we kind of had a general conversation about the future. We were on the same page about not like, getting engaged or anything anytime soon because we're both young and don't want and couldn't afford anything big or major anytime soon, so that was fine. That was Saturday afternoon.

On Monday he seems all freaked out about something, but tells me he'd rather talk to me about it in person, so we do on Tuesday.

On Tuesday he tells me he's really unsure about his future (he graduated from college and he's working at a dead end job applying everywhere possible for a job that is actually in his field) and doesn't know if he wants me in it or not. He said that right now he just can't seem to manage his time very well. He said that he doesnt know if we'd be compatible enough to last. (Although I'm not sure why. )

He and his friends play a lot of video games and card games (magic) and he said that even though I say I don't mind, he doesn't just want me to sit and watch and tolerate (which I don't. I told him I like it.). He also said he felt like he HAD to choose between me and his friends, (which I don't know why. I have no problems with his friends.) And that sometimes he just wants to get wasted with them, then just watch a movie or someething with me. (Which I don't mind boys nights.) He and his friends drink a lot, and although I don't see anything wrong with that, I don't drink much so I don't feel comfortable getting drunk around some of his friends that I don't know very well yet.

So what I'm asking is... do you think he'll come back? I really, really want him to and he fits in with my friends as well as I do with his, so I don't know what happened. It just doesn't make sense that on Saturday I woke up to forehead kisses and an 'I love yoooou!' And on Tuesday we broke up.

Plz help? :/

I think that he's just overwhelmed with all that's going on. Perhaps he just panicked about his life and doesn't know what to do.

I also think that he just needs time to think. Meanwhile, maybe you can let him know you're there for him.

I'm sure he'll come back if he feels comfortable again. He probably broke up with you because he thinks that way you don't have to worry about him or he doesn't want to ignore you while he's busy. Don't take it too hard and give him time. He's just stressed.

I hope that helped :)

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Well, I where makeup most of the time, I wonder if my bf likes it or not? Do you guys like your girl friends with or without makeup? Or wat? He never told me not to wear it, so i dont think he minds it. thankss

I think that make up looks great of anyone if they DONT overdo it. If you are wearing make up and it doenst look like a mask, I would say it's fine. Plus if it makes you look and feel prettier, then a guy will notice.

You can always ask him. Just ask him if you look nice. It's pretty easy.

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Why do i feel so unmotivated?
im a senior in high school and i havent doing any homework or studying lately, i did all my work for the last 2 months ago but now i feel so lazy and dont feel like doing anything, i know i shouldnt do that but when i get home from school i feel so tired and just want to sleep i have a 2.4 i would like to go to community college first and go to the state college what should i do to make myself motivated and dont feel lazy at all? im so disappoited to myself but i dont know how to fix it.

Oh gosh, I can't tell you how many times I felt unmotivated.

Last year (senior year in high school) I almost did what you did. I totally wanted to not do anything after i got excepted to my first choice university. But you know what i did. I thought about my future goals. I thougth about what i wanted to achieve in my life and what would happen if I slacked off and did nothing. That helped me because it put my goals back in perspective for me.

This year (college freshman)I went thhrough tthat again. I didn't want to do my hw because it was so much. i talked to my friend and sister about it and they helped me. My friend would complement me when I would get something done. Like "Goood job Annie!!! You finished the chem lab..." That might seem stupid but it made me feel happy when i got apprieciated for stuff like that. My sister started doing the same thing. She would send me random texts saying things like "Just a little bit more to go. You can do it!" and that made me feel energized. I guess they helped me get motivated.

I would suggest you try things like that. Also rewarding yourself afterwards is nice too. :)

Best of luck!

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I've searched countlessly online and in books for being confident, and building self-esteem including best sellers and whatnot. But honestly, none of them have ever had a lasting effect. I'm hardly ever happy with who I am -- with my personality, my appearance, my character, or my relationship with others. It honestly feels like being dislike me wherever I go. I never seem to fit in, and I'm never good enough for anyone.

If you need help with self confidence, i would suggest you try new things. This might seem weird because you might have to put yourself out there or be expossed to new people or even have a hard time. But the accomplistment you feel afterwards when you succeed is pretty awesome. So there are many things that quilify. You can try bowling, some craft like activities, trying a new restaurant is always fun too, you can even dress nicely and go to Nordstrum to get samples. It doens't matter.

You might discover yourself when you put yourself in new situations. You might learn a new hobby or something you absolutly hate. I think that might help.

I hope what i said makes sense and best of luck!

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hello 14/f 8th grader :) arizona.. 13m 7th grader:)

Well, everything seems like its going alright.We are in diffrent grades(so we cant talk much:/) Plus my phone and his phone is taken away haha. When we do see each other, during the day we make faces at each other and he hugs me and stuff. Today, Friday (every friday the 6th plays intmerals in the gym, arizona has gym that period so i can watch him play haha) He shows off for me and smiles at me, every time he got hit by a ball he would look at me and laugh. He's so sweet he can always make me smile. The one thing that made me excited was he we put are arms around each other today, it made me feel great. Our dance is next week and my friend told him that i want to slow dance..and kiss him than. haha i wish she didnt say that, now i think we will. It's not a bad thing haha i just hope we will stay together. I was wondering does a cancer (me) and a gemini (arizona) work out alright? i heard we can? what do you guys think?

Check it out on this website
http://www.astrology.com.au/compatibility/index.asp

Although i must say, as fun as it is checking your compatibility you shouldn't always take it seriously. Like the answer but don't get upset if it says something you don't like. Make your own fate!

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i am in my junior year of high school. i wont be taking my SAT's this june due to the fact that i cant find any test centers, which is unbelievable... would it be too late if i take my first one during the fall and the 2nd during spring? =/ im very worried...

btw Bronx, NY

Actually, it's totally fine (In fact, I myself am taking it for the first time this fall). Besides, people re-take them over at that time anyways. Just take the extra time to study up.

good luck.

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fifteen/female, well here is my problem -
i show no emotion, what so ever it's like i can't cry when i'm upset mad ect, and i just want to cry sometimes- but i can't -i hold it in, because when i do cry i think to myself [WOW ARE YOU REALLY CRYING OVER THIS? WOW SUCK IT UP AND STOP BEING SUCH A BABY ABOUT IT BLAHBLAHBLAHHHHH!] its like that ALL the time i cry or start to anyway, and i don't like it, i don't like holding it in; it's making me become someone i don't want to be and it's driving me insane!!! i just don't wanna be that person anymore i dont wanna hold everything in side; and like i can't talk to my friends about it because i feel as though thay don't want to hear it and i'm talking to much, so really i don't know what i should do; it' has been this way for a long time a very long time and it makes me SUPER mean because i hold everything in i have no emotion really!

in all honesty what would you do? any advice would do me good work so please

You know, there is really only one thing you can do to cure yourself of this. So here is what you should do. Go into your room/bathroom/any hwere you can be alone, when you are sad. Lock the door and cry. Crying is something everyone does, just no one talks about it. Next time you feel mad/sad don't be afraid to cry. The only way you will let out all that anger is by crying. Go ahead punch a pillow. It's okay! Now, when you are done crying, you will feel better and most of your anger will be let out.

Don't that you are a baby if you cry! Go ahead and do it! THis way you won't have to hold in your anger as much and it will make you less angry all the time. :)

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I'm 15 years old and a freshman in high school. I haven't done anything with a guy, and I'm totally cool with that. Lately a lot of people have randomly been asking me about my experience with that stuff and guys, and are really shocked to find out that I haven't done anything. A lot of girls around me are doing this and that with guys, and it looks distasteful, almost like they are trying to prove something by sticking their tongue down someone's throat. It's not that I think it's disgusting or gross when people do that sort of thing, but personally, I'm not really looking for anyone right now. If I'm not looking for someone to really be involved with, I'm not looking to be kissed. End of story. People almost make me feel bad about myself, though, when I say I'm just not into that right now. I have a lot of friends, and am comfortable with myself, but I can't help but feel stung when someone looks at me like I have three heads. I've said "I don't really want to talk about it" if someone asks me about what i've done and they go "ohhhh wow nothing?!..WHAT?!"

grrr. How can ignore these people and not feel like a weirdo about this.

You are being very smart right now. Good for you! Other people should be more like you because you know how you feel about something and don't feel the need to prove it to anyone else. The other girls don't understand how dumb they are being.

Don't feel like a weirdo, feel smart. What you don't realise is that there are infact alot of people like you. You just don't hear about them because they don't boast what they do. While the people that do boast are those that are insecure about themselves.

How to ignore
http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-People
http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-Annoying-Classmates
http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-Insults

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Ok, I'm female and almost 14.

So one of the guys in my class tries to annoy me. During 6th period he uses his foot to shake my desk and looks at me sometimes, and in 4th period he was REALLY close to me and looking over my shoulder while I was reading the chapter's notes aloud. He keeps saying stuff to me like he's my boyfriend, but in a joking way. Recently, one of his relatives passed away, and since then, he's either nice to me or tells me to shut up when I'm not even talking to him! I'll admit, I kind of "like" him, but I really don't KNOW him... I really don't know what to do. Does he like me? And if he does, what do I do next?

http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

http://www.wikihow.com/Find-out-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

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sometimes im boring wtih my friends because i cant think of anything to talk about?
like if you think about it, what is there really to talk about.

please help me be less boring and more talkative!

http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Things-to-Talk-About

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Very-Talkative

http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

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