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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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Okay, I have two questions. One is this one girl is soooo annoying me, spreading rumors and starting crap. I have tried my hardest to be nice to her, giving her Christmas cards, telling her that I like her accessories (I have to wear a uniform), and many other things. But she still doesn't like me, calling me a bitch behind my back and saying things that were not true. One day I just lost it, 'cause she was saying that I couldn't talk to my friend Crystal because she was her friend. So now, if I even see here, I wanna punch her. What should I do?
Second question is about the girl's boyfriend. I am the new girl at my school, and I was hearing that her boyfriend was saying that I am cute and that he liked me. This is probably where things went wrong with me and that girl. Because, I didn't know that she was dating him, and Crystal said that he does still like me. BUT, he has been saying that he doesn't like me and he doesn't treat me like he likes me, in fact, he treats me quite the opposite. He hits me, and says rude things to me. I don't who to believe. What should I do?
Okay, the guy -- he is not worth worrying about. If he likes you and is too stupid to realize that being rude to you and hitting you shows that he likes you or won't stand up for himself, he is just a little kid that needs to grow up.
The girl that spreads rumors about you is just really jealous of you because the boyfriend ordeal. Just flat out tell her that you don't like your boyfriend and that he doesn't like you (whether or not either is true). If he does like you, then go take it out of him, not you. If she doesn't accept the fact that she's being a complete moron, ignore her. Just take her out of your life and she'll get tired of herself listening to herself talk one day because everyone's going to get sick and tired of what she's saying once they realize that she's a chain liar. If things really get out of control, just go to the counselor.
And in the meanwhile, just make a lot of friends. Be really nice to them and friendly and act innocent. If they say something like "I heard (the girl) says you've been a complete female dog to her" or something like that relating to the girl's rumors about you, just saym "I don't know why she's saying that stuff. I really don't. I've been trying to be nice to her but she still keeps on making up all these lies about me. I mean if people want to believe it, then fine. But I just want people to know that what they're believing is a lie." (Say it in a sad, sweet way. Nonchalant as well).
Anyone who will believe the girl solidly is an idiot. They're just believing the words of some girl that has no support for her lies.
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Emily
(Rating: 5) LOL!!!!!!!! WOW! Thanks, I love your advice the way you are so up-front about it. But the innocent thing wouldn't work at my school because it is completely ghetto. Not only that but all the girl are mad at me because all their boyfriends think that I am sexy, or in the words of Crystal 'cause I have absolutely no idea why they would, and they think that I will take their bf. Which is so stupid because I am not that mean.