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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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My friend I’ve known my whole life I guess we were like best friends. We always told each other it but never did anything out of school except email aim and talk. Then we liked each other a little a lot. Everyone tried to get us together as in dating or alone together. Then there were a lot of mishaps at parties. Many good time so many bad times. Old games like truth or dare and zap. Our relationship fell apart. Im friends with a lot of guys and most are older than him. I am always with them. I don’t like any of them but him and another guy. I’ve never dated because I always fell for my friends and I never wanted to loose them. Four guys like me that I know of right now but I cant do it I’d miss him to much. They know I won’t date because of all that’s happened. My friend says he’s afraid on what id think, my friend told me. Doesn’t seem to like the guys I talk to anymore. We always talked, now almost never except at school a little. We always had silly little arguments on kinds of donuts and stuff always talking. He always gave me high fives or would do anything to hold my hand even for a second and then every time we saw each other he’d give me a high five or we arm wrestle or play games like red hands but he never wanted to hurt me. We used to really care for each other now we do a little but it’s falling apart. He talks to my friends more than me now. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. Im even to nervous to talk to him I’ve never been nervous for any guy. I don’t know what to do??? 13 about 14 femalee

I'm sorry to say but this was written out pretty badly and I only got little bits of this whole question. So you have a guy best friend, let's call him A and you guys liked each other but didn't go out because you guys were afraid to lose the friendship? And you have 4 other guys that like you but you don't go out with them because they're your friends as well? And now you're losing your friendships with all these guys and they're getting friendlier amongst themselves without you?

If that's the case: guys are hard to keep as best friends when you're a girl. It just so happens that guys make friends with guys and girls with girls. Not many guys are willing to hold onto a girl that is a friend as they grow up. Especially if the guy likes you and you don't want to go out with him. If he really did value the friendship and/or you, he'd stick with you no matter what but if the friendship didn't go as deep, then he might just lose interest in you and have moved on. Just go out with whatever guy, even if he is your friend. If he's a true friend, even if you guys end up breaking up, he'll still be your friend. If he isn't, then he'll leave if you don't go out with him eventually or he'll not likely be that good of a friend after breaking up. Life is all about taking chances and you should indulge in chance taking. Who knows, something might work out. As for keeping the friendship, just be acquaintances and maybe something will work out. In the meanwhile, making new friends can't hurt so go out there and try to find some other friends. You're only 13 (or 14?) and you'll have more guys to and girls to choose from to be your friends.

And if I interpreted your question incorrectly, don't give me a bad rating because I tried as best as I could and it is not my fault for wording out the question as you did so. Just send me another inbox message with a question typed out more clearly =)

Good luck!
15/f
Emily

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(Rating: 5) thats good thanks but hes making better friends with my friends that are girls and he always used to be afraid of them
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