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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Actually, I made them up. But they are questions that I've seen more than once around this site (and, indeed, in the real world), and so have created general responses to them, linked below. It's a little sparse at the moment, but I'll be adding to the list as I think of more questions (and, er, answers to them).



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Gender: Female
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Age: 21
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i asked a question asking if someone would rate my picture and tell me what they think and they deleted my question
id like to know what was wrong with that. there was nothin wrong about my picture?!


You have already been given a short ban as a warning for repeatedly asking this type of question. It's not allowed here, as you have already been told. I have personally deleted another of your questions this evening, and am giving you notice that this is your final warning before receiving a ban.

This site is for the giving of advice. Although we intepret advice quite broadly and accept many different kinds of questions, we do not allow 'do I look hott in this picture' type of questions. There are many sites which cater to this kind of question, so there is no need for us to cover them here. We feel this site offers a unique perspective where people can talk about problems. This purpose would be made more difficult if the site had an influx of questions like yours, which are essentially asking for an ego-massage. Questions of the 'hot-or-not' genre do not invite constructive comments, or in depth answers. They just beg samey responses that tell you you are pretty - and that's not why our columists are here.

If you have a problem, then it's fine to ask a question. If you struggle with self-confidence, as you seem to, then it's okay to ask a question about having your confidence dented by remarks made by somebody about one of your pictures - because that's asking for advice, for help, for commiseration, stories - whatever people have to share. But posting a picture and asking if it's hot? That isn't, and that's why it's not acceptable here.

I hope that is clear. Please do not ask this type of question again.

hailebop, for advicenators

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well umm thank you but thats not the reason i was puttin up the question...but anyway thank you for ur answer im new to advicenators so i didnt know its just i used 2 see people with questions like which haircut is better nd they would post pictures of themselves so i just thought i would anyway thank u bye



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