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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
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:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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i have been dating this guy and i really am starting to like him. i have feelings for him that i have never felt before. i care so much for him. and i would give him the world if i had the chance. he deserves so much better then what he has had in life. his mom dropped him off when he was two years old at his grandparents house because she didnt have enough money for kids and drugs and she chose drugs. about a year or two ago, a tree fell on him and paralized his knees and now he is in a wheel chair for the rest of his life. as things were finally getting better for him (moved back in with his real dad and step mom) his real dad shot himself last night. that was all he had. i know i got to be there for him but i don`t know how. and i feel like a failure to this relationship. i promised him i would be there no matter what. but i can`t be there if i don`t know how. i tell him everything is ohkay and will be fine. but thats not good enough. i let him sleep in my bed because he didnt wanna go back to the house his dad shot himself in. but i`m not doing something right. i wanna comfort him and be the best girlfriend becuase that is what he deserves.
can someone please help me. and tell me what i can do or say to try to make things right. i really like this guy and i don`t wanna lose him.
16/f
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Losing someone definitely hurts, especially if the person was the last person he had. And you're being a great girlfriend right now seeing that you're still with him and you haven't deserted him.
The one thing that really bothered me when I lost my granpas, uncle, and friend was people saying that they were sorry for me and saying that they understood what I was going through. The first was because I didn't want to be reminded of their deaths and I just wanted to move on. The second was mainly because I got pissed off when they said it because although I knew they were just trying to comfort me, all that ran through my head was that they couldn't possibly know what I was going through/feeling.
Try and get him to do things he enjoys & get his mind off of his dad's death. That's the best thing you can do [it was for me]. And make sure he knows that you're going to be there for him whenever he needs you even if it means taking phone calls at 4 in the morning. Tell him that you'll be his shoulder to cry on and that you won't be going around talking about this. Erm, yeah. Just stay with him and if he says he needs a break because there are too many things going on at this time, just say that you understand and that you'll be there for him when he's ready again. Even if you don't want to, understand that he's going through a tough time.
Hmm, yeah. Just be there for him no matter what =)
(Rating: 5) thanks alot that helps. :)