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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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ok im apoligizing now for the legnth bc its gonna be like but like I REALLY need advice so if you gave me some ill love you for EVERRRR..
Little background:
alright so my school is clique like no joke ok so i have this one friend emily and the rest of my friends dont like her. like she just doesnt fit like shes a slut, she drinks. and the rest of us just like to hang out and have a good time and thats just not her she'd rather be drinking and doing shit with guys. and we always gett in fights with her. like all the guys and girls in my 'clique' dont like her, and we think as soon as we get in high school (which is where were going this year) shes just gonna ditch us. which wasnt really gonna bother us bc the all the upperclass man HATEEEE our freshman class. bc we have a bunch of sluts. and number one on girls to beat the crap out of is her. and people think because were friends wtih her were like her and were not.
Story:
ok so the other night at my other friends house i got in a fight with emily and i told her how nobody wanted to be friends with her bc of those reasons and shes like thats bull and crap and she said how we shouldnt care what other people think and to some ecstent shes right but its high schoool its been that way for howeverlong and were not gonna change it, so. and at first all my firends were like good i hate her now we dont have to be friends with her but now emilys calling like the two girls in my clique that she noes are easy like to get friends wtih her agian bc they havent been friends with her that long and mind you ive been friends with her since second grade. and is like I LOVE YOU THIS IS SUMMER WE SHOULDNT BE FIGHTING. and there like yeah thats true adn now there all buddie buddies with her and like i dont know it pisses me off bc there two faced. and when i say shes all we talk about like im not lieing. it terriable but i dont no
ok so like i no theres no really question in there its just more like what do you think offf the whole decision bc i dont really regret my decision of not being friends with her its just im i dont know. just tell me what you think of everyhting
I'm going to be frank & if you're going to rate me bad, give me a reason other than the fact that I said something you didn't want to hear. Or the fact that I said something I should have that I couldn't possibly answer because you didn't put that bit of info in your question.
If you don't want to be friends with Emily, don't be. If you think she's going to give you bad reputation and effect you in a negative way in the views of people, don't be friends with her. It's all up to you as to what you should do. And about your friends, it's not your business to tell them who they should and shouldn't be friends with. If they want to be friends with Emily, let them. Just tell them nicely that you don't think it's such a great idea to become too close of friends with Emily for whatever reason you have...and leave it at them. Don't force them to not talk to Emily or anything. It's their decisions and you told them what you felt. If Emily gets on their nerves, its their problem and not yours. So I guess I'm saying that it's not your place to tell them who they can/can't be friends with. And about them talking about Emily yet still being friends with her...it's teen years. It's drama. It's the regular phase of teens. Either they like her or they don't and Emily will find out sooner or later.
(Rating: 5) thanks, and yeah its not that im telling them not to be friends with her. its that they are saying that to me and like we all talk about it all the time. and then i got in a fight with her adn they were all tehre back me up saying all this stuff for me to tell her and then two days later there all biff's again. but thank you.