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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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i hate my stepmom. i kno hate is a strong word and well, my feelings are strong. she is sooo mean to me!! she doesnt like abuse me but the things she says really hurt. she always calls me fat (im 14 5'2 and 97 lbs.) and maybe thats fat but i dont think she needs to remind me of it every single day. i cant have friends over because she is sooo rude to everyone. i cant talk to my dad about it because he doesnt want to deal with it and i cant talk to her because she doesnt care. how can i ignore it? and pleaseeee dont say to talk to my dad. i really dont know what to do anymore.
thanks
First of all, you're NOT fat. You should be around 110 lbs, actually.So disregard what she says because she's having some insecurity problems of her own.
I'm kind of in the same situation everyday as you are. My dad is basically submissive to my mom who is not understanding, narrow minded, stubborn, and just a paranoid control freak. I can barely say what I believe in or my ideas, even if it's ajoke, because I'll get yelled at. So I can't talk to my dad because he'll say my mom's right, or else he'd get yelled at by my mom, I know. Screwed up. I can't talk to her because she' the "supreme ruler of the world that is always right and shouldn't be questioned."
I'm not going to tell you to sit down with your stepmom and discuss this because I would hate to get that advice. And not trying to bring your hopes down, but it's probably not going to work. What I am going to tell you to do is completely ignore every rude remarks she says to you. Consider it as her way of showing how inexperienced she is with the world and how insecure she is in herself. Other than that, there are two ways you can go from there:
1)Suck up to her and be a little angel so you won't be grounded and what not. Or
2)Ignore her, blow her off, and just majorly disrespect her. But, I must warn you that this choice will get you grounded and when I did, I regretted it.
So I suggest you suck up to her and pretend like everything is fine. But have someone random to talk it about to, like me =) Because what you say to your friends, will get to your stepmom. And you rebeling against her will get you no where but house arrest by your dad/stepmom.
Sorry the reply was so long but if you ever need to vent, I'm here to read =) Contact info is on my page if you need to just cuss about her.
(Rating: 5) thank you sooo much!