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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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theres this person i dont really know if i can call her a freind now because for some reason i have no idea why ... i just stopped likeing her :S its the most embarrasing shit ever but the story goes a little like this:
her parents are going to move to austraila and she has to go (i live some were far away from there but as my name says i like to stay annon-ymous in case anyone i know reads this) so, as you can tell i was upset. Its now been about 3 months and while the sad feelings for the news have worn off and now my feelings for our freindship have gone too. its gone from awesome freinds to dull, then to nothingness, now i just dont wonna see her hear her and i just dont like her has any one else had this? or heard of this? or is this my way of trying to not feel so bad about her nearing departure which now i think should come tommorow rather than 2 months away wtf has happend :S i dont like it but for some reason its done and i dont think i'm gonna change at least soon but that could be too late by the time i do
I know what you're talking about.
You're doing the exact same thing that I have done in the past--you're distancing yourself from someone you're close to in order to save all the pain it may cause. You don't want to see your friend go and you're afraid that if you let yourself or her get clsoer to you than she already is now, you're going to be hurt. You feel like you have to distance yourself from her so that when she leaves, you won't feel anything bad.
The truth is, you need to break that barrier. Get yourself to enjoy the remaining time with her because if you don't do it now, you're not likely going to get a second chance and you WILL regret distancing yourself from her. Because after she leaves, you're going to realize that what you've done was stupid and regret it a whole lot. Just spend more time with her and enjoy it while it lasts
(Rating: 5) awesome advice and that last bit was what i was affriad about, the regreting not spending time part an all :/ but yeh thanks alot i'll give it a go today i'm seeing her some time