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16/f

i have found out reacently that i like girls.. but i dont really know ho to come out.. and when i do how do i get a grilfriend.. ?

Well, first, before you make a impulsive decision to come out, think about it. Do you like girls and boys or just girls or is this just hormones? Don't come out for at least 6 months from now. Is it truly that you like girls or is it just hormones?

If you just like girls, you're a lesbian. If you like girls and guys, you're bi. And obviously, if you like boys, you're straight.

As to coming out--it's probably going to be hard. You're going to get a lot of harsh criticisms and rude remarks. A lot of people these days are homophobic [I personally am not]. Just be aware that you're going to face some discrimination when you do come out.

First tell your best friend---your closest friend you can trust. If she/he is fine with it, keep it that way for a while. If not, you might want to hold on for a while. My friend came out by making out with a girl at a party >.> Personally, I think it'd be much easier to come out by going out/making out.kissing with a girl [or a guy if you're a guy coming out] instead of having to say it to people. You can't exactly plan these things and you've got to let nature take its course because eventually, there will be a perfect time to come out.

Also--a tip if you ever decide to come out--get a good network of nonstraight friends! They'll always be there to support you, okay?

As to getting a girlfriend--you'll get one eventually.

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