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coming out
16/f
i have found out reacently that i like girls.. but i dont really know ho to come out.. and when i do how do i get a grilfriend.. ?
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Ok, to this i can definitely relate.
Actually, not too long ago i myself became to the realization that i was bisexual.
I know for a fact that this is one of the most nerveracking and cofussing things... trust me, i was.. but i turned to my best friend, to the person i knew i could talk and tell anything to... bu don't get me wrong, even talking to him was so hard! i didnt know how to bring it all out.. i had mentioned it and sort of beated around the bush... haha! But ten, one night, we got into conversation, and i told him that i believe i was a little more than just curious... And he was more than supportive =) Actually pretty much everyone that i have come out to are very supportive of it. i was nervous, didn't want o be judged or feel rejected, but not the case at all. Just go to whomever you trully feel confortable the most with. someone that you know will understand!
And about the girlfriend part, just meet new people. I actually went to true.com and other sites trying to explore and see if i could meet other girls friendships and all that. And said and done, i did meet a bunch of awesome gals =)
You just have to put yourself out there. Explore, meet, and sometimes, just go with the flow and take a little chance =)
much luck! hope i was of some help =)
VB
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Well, first, before you make a impulsive decision to come out, think about it. Do you like girls and boys or just girls or is this just hormones? Don't come out for at least 6 months from now. Is it truly that you like girls or is it just hormones?
If you just like girls, you're a lesbian. If you like girls and guys, you're bi. And obviously, if you like boys, you're straight.
As to coming out--it's probably going to be hard. You're going to get a lot of harsh criticisms and rude remarks. A lot of people these days are homophobic [I personally am not]. Just be aware that you're going to face some discrimination when you do come out.
First tell your best friend---your closest friend you can trust. If she/he is fine with it, keep it that way for a while. If not, you might want to hold on for a while. My friend came out by making out with a girl at a party >.> Personally, I think it'd be much easier to come out by going out/making out.kissing with a girl [or a guy if you're a guy coming out] instead of having to say it to people. You can't exactly plan these things and you've got to let nature take its course because eventually, there will be a perfect time to come out.
Also--a tip if you ever decide to come out--get a good network of nonstraight friends! They'll always be there to support you, okay?
As to getting a girlfriend--you'll get one eventually.
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Practice first.
the first person you tell should be the person you trust the most.
make sure to tell them that its not their fault and you didn't choose to be this way.
as for the girlfriend thing, im not sure about that one.
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