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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Actually, I made them up. But they are questions that I've seen more than once around this site (and, indeed, in the real world), and so have created general responses to them, linked below. It's a little sparse at the moment, but I'll be adding to the list as I think of more questions (and, er, answers to them).



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I asked a question a long time ago about sex and I kept it clean, but it was deleted because "We aren't in the sex ideas business here" when I didn't even ask for ideas about sex! All I see on here is 13 year olds asking how to have sex, how to give a better blow job, and how to talk your boyfriend/girlfriend in to having sex along with everything else and they get atleast 5 answers a piece and MY question gets deleted when NOTHING was wrong with it! What's up with that?

The question that got deleted: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=488719

Though your question itself was not sexually explicit, it did ask for explicit advice on how to turn a guy on, and as such was deemed inappropriate by one of the admins and deleted.

You rightly point out that some questions which are more explicit than yours get onto the site and recieve answers. That's because we have a team of admins who approve questions, and we all have slightly different ideas of where the line is, so some questions that I approve others might not, and vice-versa. It's not a perfect system, but no human system is.

We try to avoid having anything sexually explicit on the site, because we have a relatively young userbase. We allow sex questions - and indeed, we get a lot of them, but we try to keep the focus appropriate towards a younger audience. I intepret that to mean we allow questions about (for example), biological aspects of sex such as pregnancy and STD risks and emotional aspects of sex, like whether people are ready, but not technical things like how to do x position or how to turn somebody on or learn a new trick, because whilst these questions could be answered in a non-explicit way, they could very easily generate explicit and inappropriate material in answers, and that isn't what we want from the site.

I'm not going to approve this question to the main page, because I don't think it's asking for advice. But I hope I answered your question and you can understand more why your quesiton wasn't approved.

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