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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Hi! I just finished my shift at my job today. This married lady that I work with is trying to set me up with a guy that knows her husband. They met him at a New Years party and he asked her if she knew any cute, nice girls from her work that would want to go out with him She said he is 32 and owns his own computer business. She said he is a really nice guy and wants to date a nice girl who has no kids. He's had problems with on line dating (and so have I)

I am 28 and have never been married or have had children. I told her I am quite shy and havent dated anyone in a long time. She said he is shy too. She is going to phone him and we (me, this guy, her and her huband) are going to meet for coffee.

Do you think he sounds like a nice guy that won't just try to sleep with me?

I rate high!
thanks
p.s it was my new years resolution to get a bf this year!


At the moment you know relatively little about this guy, but this is a great oppertunity to get to know him better.

A person is much more than a list of qualities like "has a good job" and "is shy", so it's difficult to know if you'll be well suited or not without getting to know him. Dating can feel difficult when you are shy and haven't done it for a long time, but this is a great chance to ease yourself back into dating. He might not be your soul-mate, or even somebody particularly suited to you (although there isn't anything from your description of him that would suggest the two of you were incompatible), but getting out there with somebody in a safe enviornment with your friends at your side will probably be really good for you.

Take this oppertunity, but don't put too much pressure on the two of you - you don't have to find a boyfriend straight away. It's better to just relax and enjoy the process of getting to know him without feeling like you have to decide by the end of your first date whether he's boyfriend material or not. All the best.

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thankyou! your advice was the best I've gotten for this question!



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