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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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i have a really good friend but i'm not sure if she is interested in our friendship anymore. i'll call her and ask her to hang out and she almost never calls back. I don't know what to do and if i should be mad or confront her or whatever. it hurts my feelings a lot... what should I do? thank u so much

-jane-



I don't like the word confrontation, as for me it conjours up images of yelling matches and somebody slamming the phone down with nothing resolved. You don't want to storm in and make an accusation that will just get her riled up and defensive. You do however need to talk to her. If you are upset and value your friendship, then simply, you need to do something about it, and an honest discussion is the best way to go. You do however have to be careful not to make lots of sweeping generalisations ("You never call me!") and accusations which will put her on the defensive. Explain to her gently that you would like to talk to her, because you are feeling hurt because you feel you make more effort with your friendship than she does. Give her a chance to talk and explain and voice any concerns of her own, and hopefully you should sort it out. Good luck.

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Thanks! Very helpful!!!!



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